Backroads

I think there's a lot of commitment that comes from knowing you are sealed. No-excuse date night to attend the temple together...

I'll probably get a book. That is, if my husband has the sense to realize I should get something for mothers day as the future mother of his children. I'm planning on "giving" my mom the treadmill I got from Amazon Vine even though I can't technically give it to her. She's been whiney ever since she found out I got it.

Yeah... that's a huge topic to tackle.

When asking for a calling, is it wrong to be specific?

Really? Huh. I accidentally did that to someone before... I look at the profile and hit the wrong thing. Anywho, back to your post, I guess what confused me is that women were instructed to go single rather than marry outside the church, and I was was wondering if that were the same. This makes it seem like the pressure is more intense for the man. Which... could be cultural? I don't know.

Yikes. Economics. Not my thing. I'm fine following the environmental angle, but I have no advise how to apply any of that to economics. Which... is that what you're trying to do?

Out of curiosity, does this instruction apply only to women?

I'll try this again with a little more respect... I agree with anatess. If you don't have the capacity for respect to be willing to tackle faith differences, you will fail in so many other areas. Now if having the same faith and same level of faith is of enough importance in a marriage and there is some doubt that one or both partners will not be able to handle a challenge with it, then yes, it's probably best they avoid marriage. However, I've seen quite a few mixed-faith marriages of many decades going just fine. Each partner is comfortable and confident in their own faith and do not expect the other to change. They have agreed on how to handle the kid question and are willing to re-discuss if pre-determined decisions wind up not working. They are not bent on converting the spouse. The statistics may be against it, but mixed-faith is hardly the only issue in marriages. It's an extremely bad idea to 100% assume a couple can't make it without bothering to learn the couple's dynamics and it's in bad taste to throw hellfire at them and accuse them of wanting to lose faith. Let them try to beat the odds. If they don't have the respect or confidence in their own faith, they're probably not going to succeed anyway.

I suppose there are cases, but it seems so often out of place to do so. I have yet to be converted by anyone attacking my beliefs.

Thanks for mentioning this. I may be misconstruing your meaning of it, but so much of this thread had been devoted to the "money making" or "business success possibilities" of educated women. Education should be about much more than making money. It should be about opening and sharpening the mind. Being naive, ignorant, and silly is no boone to children.

And I certainly understand and respect that. It's just hard to ignore the people suffering around me in favor of those elsewhere. I can't always do both, though I know the effort should full-heartedly be made.

Nothing wrong with that. It's quite healthy to analyze yourself, so to speak; you don't just want to push these feelings away and agonize over this letter.

Yippee!!! This is the best news I've heard all day!

..Can anyone think of any good reasons TO respond?

But clearly I've upset you. I apologize.

There were no logical fallacies. You never stated any such things. Just two interpretations. Pretty sad things to bring into this. I explained my reasons for why I thought as I did concerning a very brief post's phrasing. You blatantly accused me of calling others thoughtless, yet failed to provide the post where I said so.

When did I accuse others of taking thoughtless positions? I merely mean to say it's unfair and grossly overgeneralizing to suggest that no one can handle a mixed-faith message. When people say it's just another thing to add to frustrations already present in a marriage, it's how I think. So now I feel like you are calling me a mean person for criticizing a badly worded post, if he did not mean what I took it to mean. By the way, I can promise you I meant no ill will toward anyone. YOu apparently do towards me. Therein lies the difference.

It was the way it was stated in that particular post, and I already expressed my thought process there. And what makes my interpretations, which I explained, so inadequate compared to yours? I really do not appreciate your putting that in quotes. I find it demeaning.

You are under no obligation to respond. From what you've told me here, there is just too much risk in responding. Your ex may truly feel bad about his actions, but that really isn't your problem.

Indeed we do. All I'm saying is that religious differences will not necessarily cause friction depending on the people, as you yourself brought up earlier, and that just because something could possibly cause friction eventually is no reason to thoughtlessly abandon it.

LOVE IT! Seriously though, no offense made; I just believe in fixing the most immediate problems first.

He obviously said friction in marriage is bad and should be avoided. So I took that if it causes friction, it should be avoided at all costs. At that point, yes, I interpreted it as "every little thing".

My husband has told me on many occassions that he is happier with me than he has ever been with his ex-wife. If he accidentally says her name instead of mine, I honestly just have to laugh at the look of mortification on his face. I've learned guys just don't think the same. Perhaps some other random thing connected one memory instead of another...

Absolutely lovely!

While I love the Filipinos, what about all the already starving people in America? What makes those from Mexico superior to them and their needs? I get it. My father-in-law employs Peruvians in his quarry. He goes through all he needs to get them their work visas and whatnot. I understand that people come to this country because they really have no other choice. It's sad and my heart goes out to them. But what about those starving while waiting for legal permission? Yes, we can certainly change the laws, but that is not going to really affect the current strain on the system.