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There was a lot of shady dealing and politics that made marijuana illegal in the first place and I don't think it should have been made illegal any more than regular tobacco should be. Maybe MJ, tobacco, and alcohol should all be illegal, but they tried prohibition and it didn't work. In the end, if people want to do stupid things which hurt themselves I'm fine with letting them be stupid as long as they don't hurt others in the process. Unfortunately, it happens often. Never smoked anything myself, but I know plenty of people who do and they seem more responsible stoned than many of those who are drunk. Impossible to overdose on MJ too. You'd have to smoke 1500lbs in 15 minutes, which isn't going to happen. But lots of people die from alcohol overdose. So, I don't endorse it. It's dumb and unhealthy. But I'm not going to turn someone in for it either.

It's definitely on my "to read" list. I really enjoy reading other books and seeing chunks of truth within them as well. I recently finished reading the Nag Hammadi Library. There's some stuff in there that makes me go, "wow, at one point they had the whole truth but it got corrupted."

I baptized one of my agnostic friends into the LDS church 2 years ago. That was a great day!

I was thinking she meant that the Bishop said she doesn't need to tell her husband the specifics of what happened. "What we did." I imagine he probably told her that she needs to tell her husband that she cheated though. I guess we need clarification.

Just one last thought. I didn't think I wanted to know the specifics of what she'd done with them, and she didn't offer anything more than "passionate making out", but what I found was that my mind was in agony not know and trying to imagine all the different things that could have happened and might be involved in such a description. I finally asked her just to tell me specifics so that I could stop imagining things and just know and then work to forgive and forget it. After the she told me exactly what she'd done it helped a lot in getting over it. Some of the things I'd been imagining were much worse than reality...some of them, not all. So no, you don't need to tell him. He might be better off not knowing, especially if reality is worse than anything he might imagine up. But for myself, I finally decided I was better off knowing, and I think that it was the right decision for me. So if your husband really wants to know specifics, you might consider telling him. It seems like it would only hurt him worse, but for some reason it helped me to know. Easier to forgive when I know exactly what I'm forgiving maybe. It's ultimately up to you, but I would recommend keeping an open mind about that aspect of it.

A first experience with someone probably is more likely to be stored permanently in the brain, but it certainly doesn't make it more important or mean that we'd rather remember that one over the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc experiences. I remember my first kiss, but not my second. I remember my first sexual experience, but not my second with the same girl. I remember my first time driving a car, but I don't remember the first time driving my favorite sports car. I remember my first time hitting a home run, but not the second. There is definitely something about our brains that tends to record a first experience in more detail than later experiences. I'm sure you can think of examples in your own life as well. It doesn't mean anything. It's just a far from perfect memory. One organ that tries to understand and catalog our life experiences. And sometimes the most efficient way for the brain to catalog them is to say, "wow, that's a new experience. We'll start a new folder for that one." Then some time later, "hey, here's that experience again, let's catalog it into that same folder again." Then a few years later, "Time to clean house, lets take those memories stored in that folder and just make them tally marks under that experience category. We know they happened, they happened many times. We don't access them often. Tally marks will be good enough." And of course if we could control our brains we'd say, "Dont you dare change that memory to a tally mark!!! Overwrite my first heartbreak or most embarassing moment instead. I can lose that one!" But the brain just does it's own thing.

The mind is a strange thing and unfortunately we cannot control it. We don't understand why some important events are vividly recorded and other events which are more important can barely be remembered at all. I'm sure your husband wishes that he could remember his first night with you in vivid detail and re-live it in his dreams every night. But that's just not reality and it's not his fault, your fault or anybody else's fault. It doesn't mean he enjoyed his first night with his ex-more or that it was more memorable. I'm sure he enjoyed both nights and it's not a competition. He's with you. He loves and desires you. This isn't something that you can change or affect or make better, so there's no point in dwelling on it and making it a big deal. You just need to accept that it's not a perfect world, be thankful your husband loves you, put back on your ring and be glad he loves you and move forward in life. Remembering in detail the first sexual experience with someone is not very common. Neither my wife or I can remember very well what we did for our first time. I just have one snapshot view/picture that stuck in my head, but all other details about what was said, thought, done, experienced, etc are lost. For whatever reason they didn't get recorded in my brain or hers. And it's not because we'd had so many experiences with other people prior to that they it wasn't recorded. The memories just faded away. But I know that it happened, and I know we thoroughly enjoyed it, and I'm glad I still get to enjoy being with her. Enjoy the present, don't dwell on the past. Remembering the first time will never be better than making love to him THIS time. :) Maybe that helps.

That might work in some cases, but the OP is clearly torn up enough over it that it's not the right course of action for her.

Right. Open Admissions = If you can pay, you can come

The university of Idaho was accepting pretty much EVERYONE when I was there 4 years ago because they were short on money. But if you got 15 credits worth of D's or worse, you were kicked out. At least out of the engineering program, I don't know about other programs at the school.

Now that you mention it, there wasn't a new one in my inbox today. I guess it's a good thing I posted on here or I'd just be left wondering what the heck happened to my daily dose of wisdom. lol.

I recently read the first volume of the Joseph Smith Papers and it talks about his plural wives in there some, and seemed well grounded in truth.

Yeah, I've been getting a new question and answer everyday since I found the site 9 months back or so and look forward to it. So how often will new questions and answers get posted after those run out? I'd bet I could say at least 20% of what I learned about the church since joining 3.5 years ago came from that website. It answers questions I never even knew I had. Thanks for all your work in cleaning it up. It's greatly appreciated.

I had no idea the original gramps had passed away. Thanks for that info. I too spent dozens of hours on the website when I first discovered it, and use it for reference regularly for my religious discussions with friends and family.

I just found out a month ago that my wife cheated on me 3 times. So perhaps my thoughts can help prepare you for how your husband will feel. My wife and I were going through a rough patch and separated for a month, then she fooled around with 2 different guys, one of which was her ex-husband. Like you, no sex, but plenty to be ashamed of. I knew that both of these guys were threats and had tried to put some barriers in place to prevent this from happening, but in her bad state of mind from the separation and event that led to it she used poor judgment as I knew she would be tempted to do. We were still spending enough time together that I could immediately tell a difference. She was much sadder, crying, nearly suicidal. But for a month she told me nothing. She kept getting worse until finally I prodded enough that she told me what she'd done in a string of sobs. She was so ashamed and hated herself for it. But telling me made her feel a whole lot better quickly. How did I feel? Angry, betrayed, depressed, sad, and jealous. Especially jealous. But I still love her and want to work through this. Trust can be rebuilt eventually, but it will take time. I forgive her, but forgetting takes time. That she did not have sex with either of them helps the situation a lot. The act itself makes a man much more jealous and angry to think about another man doing that with his wife. Your decision to cut off all contact with him is right and necessary. Both for your husbands sanity and your protection. My wife agreed to cut off all contact with her ex-husband because this has been an ongoing issue with him trying to seduce her. And that makes me feel a lot better and helps me move on. But with this other guy, she hasn't cut off contact. She thinks he's a good friend, who's helping her in her time of trial and that she's safe enough around him and nothing will happen again. She won't be alone with him anymore, but that's not good enough. She says she's not crossing the line, but she already crossed the line, and stepping back across the line isn't good enough; she needs to step far back AWAY from the line. And she's not. And it cuts me to the core that she wont distance herself from him. Keeps that jealousy and anger boiling hot! I can't put it behind me until the threat has been removed. So 1) tell him so you can move on and begin repairing things. You're afraid of hurting him, and it will. It will be like stabbing him in the chest. But hiding it from him will kill him and you with thousands of little cuts over time. 2) distance yourself from dude so your husband and worry about moving on and forgiving you instead of protecting you from this threat. 3) talk with your bishop about it to complete the repentance. You might face a disciplinary hearing even, but his job is to help you get back on track, not punish you. If you do those things, hopefully your husband can see that you are truly repentant and move on. Anything less and it hurts the relationship more. 3 years ago it was revealed that my father in law had had an affair 35 years ago. Having hid it for so long, the damage to his marriage is permanent now, even though he finally came forward. Don't wait. My heart is with you and your husband.

Maybe this has already been brought up on this site before, but I just found this site and wanted to share another website which has taught me SOOOOOO much since I joined the church. askgramps.org This old guy is very knowledgeable and has great answers to tons of questions that people pose about the church.

And the same thing happened to me too, me receiving the M Priesthood didn't get recorded in the computer and caused me some trouble when I went to get my endowments out. It definitely just keeps things safe to have the paperwork along with.

The concept carries further than other Christian denominations. The Muslims also worship the same God, they just believe that they've had different prophets since Abraham and believe some different things about God. But it's the same God.

Hello. Just found this site and think I'll like it a lot. I'm not a stranger to online car forums with this same format. Should be fun! I'm from Sandpoint ID