Leah

Okay, I am confused. WHY are they coming to your place weekly? The only weekly visits to a single, female, active member around here would be for the new member lessons that continue for a short time after baptism. As for weekly dinners with single females (again I am going by what happens around here...which is part of why I am asking)...it just doesn't happen here, even with when accompanied by a mature priesthood holder. The only time single females are part of missionary dinners around here is when married couples and/or families are also part of the dinner. But consisting solely of single females and a lone "chaperone"? Doesn't happen here.

I am confused about some of the posts about nudity in one's own home, but from a different perspective, at least for those who are endowed. We are to wear the garments day and night, except for certain circumstances such as showering, etc. I don't see anything in the instructions about it not being necessary to wear garments if we happen to be at home alone. With that mindset, while living on my own, I could spend more time out of my garments than in them. After all, if I just don't feel like wearing my garments, I can just lounge around at home naked and it's all good.

Is there any chance that the questions about tithing were simply part of her temple recommend interviews over the years? Confirming you to be a full tithe payer is standard then, but I could see if somone has some sort of 'issue' regarding tithing, they might portray it as being intrusive.

I am not either one of those. Why are you being judgmental?

Do you want to understand things? If there are things you don't understand - such as what this sister (supposedly) said, then talk to your bishop...talk to your home teacher....talk to someone. But don't have a temper tantrum and just walk away from the truth. Your statement saying that you "have no plans to ever enter the Celestial Room full stop" indicates that you do not have a full understanding of the temple (and other things). By gaining a better understanding, you may have a change in attitude. And FWIW....I am confused about these posts (it's not the first time in this forum) about people wanting to kneel in the Celestial Room. Everyone I know who has been to the temple has been instructed on the proper decorum, so I confess to being surprised that some people don't know this part.

Oh, the irony. I do not see any indication that Eowyn's husband is shirking his duties or failing his family in the least little bit. I see no "vitriolic" responses. I see people - including the woman whose husband you are making comments about - disagreeing with you. (and I daresay Eowyn knows her husband and her marriage far better than you or anyone else on this forum). I see you getting your undies in a bunch because people dared to disagree with you. If you are going to complain and run away every time someone disagrees with you on an internet forum....you may eventually run out of forums on which to post.

By "just bringing it to your attention" you ARE making a judgment. You judged Eowyn, her husband and their marriage.

And then there are those posters who are just plain annoying....

And this is your business how? I trust those who have stewardship over him to handle things appropriately.

If you already had your mind made up, why bother to ask the question? You were given clear, correct answers here. It doesn't matter what Protestants think. They CANNOT determine LDS scriptures mean. (and chances are they would be very wrong if they tried). You do not "know" that this scripture applies to the Catholic church. You simply have an opinion pre-established and are now looking for validation for your opinion and refuse to listen when you are told that you are wrong. How do you expect to learn anything with a closed mind?

Oh, please. Men are "picked on" when they are told to stop doing something that is wrong? Do you really think that church authorities are silent when it comes to ANYONE'S sin? Do you really think that women control how the GAs handle these matters? If you don't want to be called to be "picked on" for viewing porn, then don't view it. And, of course, women view porn. Women sin, too. Viewing porn is a far more common problem with men, however, so it makes sense that the issue is addressed more often with them. How is being called to account for one's sin(s) being "picked on"?

Then quit whining and do something about it.

So move out.

Why is birth control "immoral"? You must have some reasoning to back up that statement.

What is it about birth control that you 'hate'?

Now if he could just take on the child-bearing as well......

As I said, maybe someday you will realize that he asked you an important question.

Maybe someday you will realize that he asked you a very important question.

That's a cop-out. That's not taking responsibility for YOUR feelings, YOUR choices. If you hate the feeling of liking someone who is off limits, then don't allow yourself to have those kinds of feelings! No one forced those feelings on you, you chose them! Pretending to be helpless gets you nowhere and gains you nothing. Failing to take responsibility for yourself will inhibit your ability to let go of this and learn from this.

You are not the helpless person you are trying to convince us - and yourself - that you are. So you took lessons once a week from him. So what? The implication is that you were somehow required or were helpless to develop a crush simply because of that. That is simply not true. Millions of women take missionary lessons and don't develop crushes. I do not understand people who do not take responsibility for their own feelings and actions. Cupid does not exist. No one is shooting arrows into you making you helpless. You developed a crush because you chose to and you indulged that crush by fantasizing about someone who was off-limits and took it to the extreme of telling him you had "feelings" for him. Those were all actions you CHOSE. To blame others or the universe for YOUR thoughts and actions is immature at best. You could have spared yourself the disappointment you are feeling now had you made different choices. But you didn't make a different choice, and you are experiencing the consequences of the choice you made. It is simply a part of life. Surely, at your age, you understand that crushes are passing fancies and not a real relationship. The only relationship you had with this young man is that of missionary and student. So it is not like you are breaking up with someone with whom you had a romantic relationship. The romantic part of it was all in your head. The comforting part of that is that it will be much easier to move on then had it been an actual romantic relationship. I don't know that it was necessary to leave FB all together (unless that was the only way to stop yourself from contacting him again), but I do think it is a good idea to distance yourself from him and focus on church and your callings, your job, doing service...other things.

I very much doubt that he is "proud and happy" that you are hurting. It is not fair to project your disappointment and anger and blame him. Your story is unclear. He was on his mission when you knew him, correct? That was the time for him to be focusing on his mission only...not you or any other woman. If he was doing that, he was doing the right thing. Did you ever actually date? Did he ever ask you out or express - clearly - that he had any romantic feelings towards you? Correct me if I am wrong, but from what you have posted, it sounds like it was a one-sided crush. If that is the case, he is not responsible for YOUR feelings. YOU are the only one responsible for your feelings. Sure, it's disappointing when someone you have a crush on doesn't return the feeling, but it is far from the end of the world. He is simply not the right person for you and there is no reason to be angry with him for that.

Why are you in this forum? If you are listening to non-LDS teachings and believing them....why are you here? All you seem to be interested in doing is telling us you are right and we are wrong.

Maybe what happened had nothing to do with God.

I never said he was a non-believer. You made that up in your own little head. Even if he had been, what you wrote is still wrong. I suggest you look up omnipotent in the dictionary....

So you had a temper tantrum and demanded something from God out of selfishness and laziness and he granted your wish? You snap your fingers and God jumps to do your bidding? Do you actually think ANYONE is going to believe that? Do you actually believe the words you write? Are you actually just some bored teenager trying to see how much ridiculousness you can write on an internet forum?