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You could contact distribution services on their behalf. Having recently purchased my own, nearly all have velcro fastening. Maybe for a small fee (or even free) they are able to modify clothing to suit the needs of the user. They may be able to modify the current clothing. I do not know if the same rules apply as with garments but if you counsel with your Bishop there may be somebody called within your stake who may be able to modify them. As a word of advice from experience when discussing with distribution services you should be very specific about the requirements.

I think it's difficult, how do you meet love with love? Everybody is trying to do what they think is best... much like serving at church

buy a bigger bird of the same "brand" swap it when she's not around avoid all conversation about it

Regarding the several posts above; Serving a full-time mission is not mandatory for males or females It is however a goal that any member of the church should strive towards whether they end up serving or not.

Kiley, I am sorry to hear about your heartbreak but my honest advice would be for you to not let it stop you from trying to trust and love again, only use it as a springboard to make you wiser in your future choice. I too am a convert and I am going to be married in a few weeks but before my fiance met me she had a similar thing happen. She met a guy where things seemed to progress in their relationship then out of the blue he just sent her a message dropping her and did not reply. I know for her it was really tough and was a large part of her cause for depression. From what she tells me it was confusing and painful, frustrating and lonely. Years down the line however we met online. 10months later we are going to be sealed in the temple (29th June). To her I am all that she wants and needs. We had to work a lot to overcome her initial anxiety that the same would happen again but we can both see that our pasts relationships prepared us for this. Do not hold your anger but know that your heavenly father will bless you with an eternal companion who is what you need, things won't be perfect but they will be worth it :) There are quite a few LDS in the UK. There are dating sites and lots of conventions which I would really recommend looking on facebook and talking to stake YSA reps, it was only when I was pro-active at finding somebody that I sound my fiance...

I think it's an interesting discussion to be had about the physical intimacy and needs within marriage. I strongly believe that people should not be forced into physical acts which they are not comfortable with. Especially if there is a good reason for it But at the same time it is also highly unfair to continually deny your partner physical intimacy because you "don't feel like it" or leverage for an argument or less than optimal situation. I think as mentioned the reasons behind the withholding of physical intimacy are the most important. Is there a genuine reason why? what can be done to assist with this? or is it just, I want something and will deny physicality until I get my way. I think next comes the partner who needs the physical intimacy - how does it effect their own perceptions of self-worth? can a compromise be reached. I think many of these issues can be dealt with as the begin through honest and open discussion between partners about what you both really need and ensuring that a solution is created that meets both your needs

I apologize, you are correct it is not the church that creates the bad feeling. I don't really understand the point that you are trying to make here Anatess? If it is comfort then I certainly do not feel it. If it is guidance I have already chosen the more "righteous" path. I came here looking for comfort and guidance over a difficult situation. Many posters have offered some positive advice. Re-explaining the church policy (which I am thoroughly aware of), offering stories of fear and re-asserting why it is the righteous choice doesn't make me feel better and doesn't assist my situation. Neither do i want to create a bandwagon of hatred for this particular church policy. Merely I am looking for some empathy and advice from others who have experienced this situation and have dealt with it in a positive way. My mother is travelling a great distance at a great expense to be there which makes me so happy. At the same time I understand the pain and frustration that she feels having to stand outside and watching me go into the temple with my fiance's family who are able to enjoy that sacred experience. I would like a way to make her feel special, that she is not left out and she is part of this sacred experience even if she cannot come into the temple. Maybe that has been mixed up with my frustration over the difference of the church policy regarding marriage, especially where ALL other commandments are equal - 10% tithing is 10% regardless of your country. No tea, coffee & sexual acts is the same whatever the country Also it is actually the government as opposed to the church that have the law so that anybody is able to object to the marriage. Also it has to be legally registered and approved by local authorities.

Hi Thrushcross Pam's idea is a very good one you can find some information at the UK Border Agency Website where you can ring them, explain your situation and make an appointment to apply It does use scary language such as "you may be detained" however do not be perturbed as you are legally studying in the UK it would not be an issue, as it would only be in cases where people have committed crimes and/or illegally entered the country. I would also seek counsel from your bishop regarding this as he knows you better and will be very important in supporting your asylum application. Furthermore he may even go with you to place your application. I admire your decision and whatever you choose to do I wish you the best of luck.

just to clarify: I am fully aware of how important being sealed in the temple and for my fiance and me it is the only option that we would ever consider for our wedding the difficult bit that I find the bitter pill to swallow is the "us and them" feelings it creates between church members and non-members or families. It just feels that during all of the lessons and talks we sit through we are told about how important families are. Family before church and work. Until it comes to this. I understand the importance of eternal principles, perspective and families along with cleaving to your wife etc. but the bad feelings it creates just feel at odds to church teachings when it could be solved by allowing a civil then sealing ceremony IF it was performed on the same day :-/ In the UK despite having to have a civil ceremony first going to the temple was a big sacrifice because it meant there would be no time for receptions as you had to be sealed the same day - this meant that your focus was actually on the temple rather than festivities...

Hi Roseslipper thank you very much for your post it was really what I needed to hear. So far my fiance and I haven't made much of a plan for the ring ceremony and for the main part it is something that I have approached fearfully because of church guideline about ensuring that it does not take away from the sealing but the ideas that you have suggested above are truly wonderful I cannot wait to talk to my fiance about it. Although I think it is so touching that parents would forgo being present at their child's sealing to accompany non-member family, I know my fiance has dreamed of the day that she would be able to be sealed to her husband in the temple with her family around her....

Thank you for your advice. I do not really understand what you mean by exploit that cost? For me it is not a question of choosing one or the other as I have made my choice for what I believe to be the correct one but trying to understand where the love is with this policy. I find it hard to find any official church material that state it and none that explain the reasons why.

To me the most important part is the vows made within the templeTo my mother the most important part are the vows made to the representative of the government/state. Not having been present at an actual sealing I cannot comment however my previous Stake President mentioned that during the sealing ceremony we will be pronounced man and wife for civil/legal purposes and then again for time and eternity as part of the sealing vows I'm not poking holes but surely if it has to be done twice even in the temple then I don't see why the legal part to satisfy the world cannot be undertaken outside of the temple it just feels that that is a more loving/inclusive way to do things Of course church policy is not going to change and it is something I must bear - I just wish there was a more spiritual answer than "because the church says so and you're fortunate/unfortunate to live in a certain place"

In the UK you must have your civil ceremony first then your sealing. They must also be on the same day. If they are not on the same day you must wait a year before you are able to be sealed. In other countries especially in North America where the civil and sealing ceremonies are able to be performed at the same time then it must all be done in the temple, otherwise civil first and then sealing a year later.

Thank you very much for your thoughtful and considered answers. For me the Temple Sealing is the only option that I feel is appropriate and shows the commitment to my future wife and our Savior. Fortunately my mum hasn't made a fuss at all about not being able to enter the temple but I can see in her words and body language that it makes her sad that she cannot attend. This is exacerbated by the fact the my fiance's family can be there. It is like there is a party that she wants to go to, she knows she cant but cant really understand why. That is the part that I find difficult because I can see that it bothers her a lot but she cares too much to say. At the same time my fiance's family have been supportive and are really great people and my fiance has dreamed of being sealed on her wedding day with her family there and that is something I would not deny her. I understand the reasons behind this policy/instruction, however I feel that the legal and sealing ceremonies being performed withing the same day is a much better method as for me the sealing would be the most special part however for non-member family they would get to enjoy the civil event. It is the concepts being at odds - the temple is for happy eternal families but having to start off by excluding my own family who have brought me this far

We are having a reception, but to my mum it isn't the same and I can see her point,to me it isn't the same as the temple part is what is special, not the party and the exchanging of rings, but the vows. It doesn't feel like much of a choice, civil ceremony is choosing my family above the SaviorChoosing the temple feels like I'm ignoring the importance of my family... I realise that I can't have my cake and eat it and that I definitely choose what is best in the eternal perspective and for my new eternal family but it's a horrible decision to have to make.

Coming from the UK we always had a civil ceremony before being able to be sealed in the Temple. I am now looking to get married in a country where both the legal and sealing ceremonies are completed together in the temple and if you wish to have a civil ceremony then you must wait one year. This did not bother me when our wedding was beginning to be planned as I knew that choosing the temple sealing was the correct thing to do but as we get closer and closer to the date it is becoming harder. As a convert ALL of my family are non-members. Although for the most part I am not emotionally saddened by them not being able to attend it breaks my heart to see my mum upset that she is unable to attend. If anything it seems righteous that you would want you family to attend the wedding. I understand that the reason there is a waiting period is to ensure that members put the Savior first and foremost in their lives, but now I have mixed emotions - great happiness to be sealed to my fiance but a terrible sadness/guilt that it will not be with my parents. Most of her close family will be there which is what makes it even worse for my mum, making her feel left out. Any advice on how to deal with the situation and come to peace with my feelings would be greatly appreciated

Skip, might I suggest what my fiance and I try to do: We try to keep our standards as strict and high as possible. No upper leg, lower stomach touching no passionate kissing, no being unsupervised in bedrooms or places where we could get into trouble and staying vertical at all times. We do this because we know we will slip up and we have. Sometimes we end up having a passionate kiss or arms are wrapped around the others stomach or thigh. However because we have ensured the standards that we are trying to achieve are strcter than what is allowed it means that we stay away from the serious line of sexual sin it might not be the best way to go about keeping the commandments but it has really worked for us but it is by no means easy

For us the health sector is public along with the education sector. You can also gain your tax, national insurance and employment information. You can obtain some information from the police; regarding any crimes that you may have been convicted of however they are not obliged to show you some information if you are part of an ongoing investigation or have been involved with somebody who is part of an ongoing investigation. It's pretty black and white and above board but my knowledge is not best clued as fortunately I have never been involved other than when somebody stole my bicycle :'(

Hi Bini I live with a family of a mand and a woman in their early 40s and their daughter of 20. I myself am in my late 20s. My Bishop has no problme with it as it is benificial to the family (who have been close friends since I was baptised) and to me spiritually, financially and emotionally. I think it is often a case-by-case decision and often depends on the intent and personalities of those involved.

Hi Dent I am sorry to hear about your situation. Here in the UK we have a piece of legislation called the data protection act. One of the principles of this act basically states that unless it is policerecord you can make a formal request in writing to any organization who holds information about you, church, health service, etc. and they must respond within a given time and comply. I don't know if the US has similar data legislation but it would be worth looking into...

Last year I had a really special blessing and a spiritual prompting to prepare myself for my eternal companion. After that I knew I had to do my part if Heavenly Father had made me this promise. I signed up for YSA events & conventions within reasonable travelling distance and I also subscribed to an LDS dating website (which I had to pay for). Whenever I had a date I paid attention to my date so that I could hear not just what they said but sub conscious signals and spiritual signals. I also wasn't very self-conscious. Have faith that as long as you are doing you best then you are good enough. It did not matter to me that I wasnt an amazing businessman or a hot guitarist or that I wasn't a style setter. I put it in the hands of my heavenly father that as long as I was positive and open I would know when the right girl came along. Eventually I met a girl and we have just gotten engaged. I knew from the moment I met her that she was my eternal companion. I hope you have a positive experience. Make sure you have fun and most of all have faith in your Heavenly Father that he will provide a path!

The Church have just introduced a new "Come follow me" program that is focused more on guided topics to be taught as appropriate for the specific young men and women within your class/unit/program. If introduced and taught properly it should cover the things the above points about teaching respect rather than laws Personally when I think back to being younger a lot of the youth will try to justify the bending/breaking of rules and many go through the rebellious stage where they are trying to discover where the boundaries are. Where I agree that teaching a respect and love for the rules is the best option, sometimes it just doesn't work and they need the black and white version. I have had those stages in my younger days and there will be many after me too. It's not big or clever but it happens.

For me before joining the church I had a similar issue and I found 2 approaches that work as a holistic solution: Spiritual - read scripture pertaining to virtue including commandments and really study the reasons why it is so important and the blessings. Especially when you are feeling weak or sorely tempted. Pray. Several times a day. On your knees. Ask for help from the Lord. For everyday you abstain thank your HF also! Fast at least once a week or twice if you feel ok to do it. Begin and end every fast with a heartfelt prayer asking for assistance. Go to the temple grounds/visitor's centre if possible. Very helpful even though you cannot yet go inside. Make getting inside the temple a goal Put up a picture of the saviour and the temple in your room. It makes HF's omnipresence & omniscience that more real (you wouldn't want to do that in front of the saviour now would you) and having the temple visually there as a goal works very well for encouragement. Physical - exercise and increase the physicality of your day. Walk more. Cycle instead of catching the bus. Run in the mornings when you get up so that you're not laying there in bed. also reduce the time that you spent alone in places where you will be tempted. See your YSA more. Hang out with that girl you mentioned. Lastly don't let your guilt or bad feelings consume you. Sexual temptation is Satan's greatest hold on society today because it is the most tempting and harmful to us, our spirituality and families. It is also not meant to be easy. Heavenly Father knows you will struggle and fall on your climb up your mountain but don't let the falls discourage your progress or accept them as ok. If you have to try to hold out for as long as you can. You'll find that you abstinence will increase from 10 days, then maybe 3 weeks and before you know it it will just become a small temptation that can be resisted with a little prayer and a new thought. Also what do you mean by "The Bro. Code?"

Hi Back roads, hopefully I can help, this should work if you are using Excel 2007 or 2010 Once you have a big list of colums in one sheet press "Ctrl+a" this should select everything Next click the filter button in your home ribbon, should look like this: Then the colum headers at the top of your columns will have a little arrow that opens a filtering menu allow you to sort alphabetically, filter or search (should be obvious) as below: Hopfully this should work, let me know if it doesn't/you need further assistance...

I'm sorry but herbal teas, as far as I have known, have been at the discretion of the member if you could point me towards scripture or guidance from church leadership I would be much obliged.