Pahoranite

Must be hard.

Be careful what you wish for or the scouts will get ahold of him and you'll never see him. :)

Too often those who do not personally struggle with addiction simply say "stop the addictive behavior." I can only imagine how many times you hav told yourself that already. Please do not misinterpret what I am saying as not condoning your addiction. In addition to working with your bishop, get professional help and avail yourself to addiction recovery resources including https://addictionrecovery.lds.org. Also, you have not indicated that children are involved, so that should make things much better.

Just a reminder, the chapter headings are not scripture, nor doctrine.

Missions and the cost of missions are no longer "fair" and by standardizing the monthly contribution made for missionaries, some missionions are subsidized and others live well below the actual amount of the contribution. Asking missionaries to personally cover the additional $400 for an iPad sounds like a typical bureaucrat decision to see how many families will simply pay the additional amount out of a sense of duty.

I concur with duffman -- I find exercising more regenerativ than simply napping.

There is rarely only one right or wrong thing to do. If you ask and he says no, that doesn't mean you have to quit? Sometimes men will respond initially one way, sometimes impulsively and change there minds -- imagine that.

D&C 1: 24 Behold, I am God and have spoken it; these commandments are of me, and were given unto my servants in their weakness, after the manner of their language, that they might come to understanding. 25 And inasmuch as they erred it might be made known; 26 And inasmuch as they sought wisdom they might be instructed; 27 And inasmuch as they sinned they might be chastened, that they might repent; 28 And inasmuch as they were humble they might be made strong, and blessed from on high, and receive knowledge from time to time. . . 38 What I the Lord have spoken, I have spoken, and I excuse not myself; and though the heavens and the earth pass away, my word shall not pass away, but shall all be fulfilled, whether by mine own voice or by the voice of my servants, it is the same. 39 For behold, and lo, the Lord is God, and the Spirit beareth record, and the record is true, and the truth abideth forever and ever. Amen.

My experience is that too often people assume they will be in a happy divorced situation, but when children are involved that is seldom the case. Again, each situation is unique, and divorce may be the right decision, but don't simply assume it will result in a "happy divorced situation."

In my opinion, sexual sin is an escape mechanism, like many other sins. A major reason we are counseled to avoid sexual sin is because for many (not all) it becomes a highly addictive comfort/escape mechanism. Similar addictive escape mechanisms can include drugs, alcohol, overeating, internet, etc., however the various escape activities have differing levels of negative stigma attached to them. The greater the negative stigma, the more difficult it can be to share with or enlist the help of others. Yes, the behavior is abhorrent and wrong, but in my opinion, there is no one prescribed course of action that serves to correct all situations of escapist sin, including sexual sin. For this very reason, one needs to rely on the atonement.

Worth looking at: Mormon Scholars Testify

It sounds to me that you also need to forgive yourself. Although you didn't have intercourse, you mentioned that there was conduct for which you needed to seek repentance. If ultimately, you are not meant to be together and you find a new partner, what happens if that person has not gone as far as you already have? Does that mean you will not be worthy for him? Just another perspective to keep in mind.

If there is someone you think would be particularly good as a visiting teacher or as a home teacher, there is no harm in requesting that they be considered being assigned to you. My experience has been that this information can be useful, as those who help in making assignments typically appreciate meaningful feedback. In the same way, you could ask to visit teach someone, or to be a companion with someone specific if you feel that would help foster a meaningful friendship.

Thankfully the position has changes such that boys no longer have to swim naked like they did at swimming pools across the country in the olden days, including the old Deseret Gym.

In my opinion, competition soccer has become driven largely by money. If you are willing to pay the going rate, your child can become a member of the team. Having paid large sums of money, parents then often feel certain entitlements (whether warranted or not). If the situation is not working out, because of the financial investment parents then feel economically unable to change the situation which otherwise may not be in their best interest or the interest of the child.

But what about the pre-mortal existence we learn about in Saturday's Warrior? :)

For years (yes years) I've been told by the Church's official scout relations liaison that "they are working on reprogramming with the BSA." Unfortunately, we volunteers are still waiting and waiting. Church Handbook 2, Section 8.13.4 "Where Scouting is authorized by the Church, young men ages 12 to 15 should be registered. Young men ages 16 and 17 should be registered if they are pursuing rank advancements or if the stake president or bishop chooses to sponsor Scouting programs for young men of this age." http://www.lds.org/bc/content/shared/content/english/pdf/scouting-handbook-2012.pdf?lang=eng

I should have been clearer. In saying "Tell everyone that you will use what would otherwise be the Friends of Scouting" I meant for that to be tell them that "instead of contributing to Friends of Scouting they could contribute to cover charter fees." There would be no legal problem and my experience is that a number of members would donate knowing it would specifically benefit the local boys and that it was NOT going to friends of scouting. (My comment was meant to be directed at what many view as problems with Friends of Scouting, as the problem had already been resolved by his stake.)

I believe it is a fallacy to think that you have to accept every calling and remain in every calling indefinitely.

Unfortunately, competition soccer is now driven by the economics.

Tell everyone that you will use what would otherwise be the Friends of Scouting money to pay for the charters.

I wish more LDS sponsored units would simply quit registering those boys once then turn 16 UNLESS they really are advancing. This is provided for in the the official church handbook and in the 2012 update to the Scouting handbook for Church units in the United States. I am sure there are some exceptions, but I don't know of any wards who really run a Venturing Crew (and I'm not even talking about co-ed) through BSA. Scouting once a boy becomes a priest or priest age is simply to finish off the Eagle. It really is ridiculous that the BSA doesn't have an option for a parent to indicate that they are registering their son with an LDS sponsored unit which would authorized automatic advancement to take place.

You chose her for a reason, now try to re-figure out why.