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  1. felicityswims
    Off topic, but because you're not considered married anymore, it also means that if you had any kids, they are considered illegitimate. Which seems off to me, it's not their fault that their parents divorced. Source: My parent was raised Catholic and had her first two children declared illegitimate when she had an annulment.
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    1. Tell her mom. Even better, contact the police. When I was 13 I got into a scary situation that started with the exact behavior (minus the location) that you described. The police did not blame me or charge me, or anything of the sort. Like Just_A_Guy said, when a child or teen gets involved in child pornography (and this is exactly that), cops don't want to ruin the child's life. They don't want to charge them, they want to find who is getting the photos and charge THEM. 2. I'm kind of concerned that you think the worst that could happen is an unwanted pregnancy. These pictures could spread and prevent her from getting jobs. These pictures could spread and lead to predators finding her in real life. She could be molested, raped, trafficked, sold, or killed. But all you think about is pregnancy? That's concerning. My half-sister, E, was sex trafficked two years ago. E also had two unwanted pregnancies when she was a young teen. Anyone with a brain can see that her teen pregnancies were not the worst thing that happened to her. Not by a long shot.
  3. felicityswims
    Thank you, Just_A_Guy ☺. May yours bring you the same.
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    Funny enough, you're right! I resigned from this God-forsaken "church" in March. So I indeed haven't worn them! Maybe I could burn them though...
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    This is the best thing I've ever read regarding "biology vs adoption." Thank you.
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    Did I or did I not say "nearly" impossible?
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    Amen! DoctorLemon, I have nothing but the utmost respect for you. At least you can see that in this day and age living on a single-income is nearly impossible, and with lot's of prayer, the mother may need to work outside of the home.
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    BYUI Tuition * 2= $14,254 Free + his tuition - my monthly stipend of 1375 that I receive from my GI Bill = $11,072 He wants to major in Engineering. A very common major.
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    Because they A) have his major (which mine does as well) and B) have a very good tuition.
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    My grandparents have four biological children and me. They don't see a difference. Because there IS NO DIFFERENCE. My aunt has one biological and one adopted. She doesn't see a difference. Because there IS NO DIFFERENCE. Even your wording is problematic: "adopted and had a child." Adopting IS having a child, just through a different way. You thinking that adoption is second-best is disgusting. Thank you very much, Doctor(Lawyer)Lemon! Your advice is much appreciated.
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    Actually, studies show adoption can and does replace a mother who carried the child. It's been proven that some women never bond with their child, that some women never make the connection while they are pregnant or after. And by your logic, that would make the surrogate mother in such cases the real mother, because it was the voice the child heard in the womb. And that contradicts your "blood is best" belief, because the surrogate wouldn't be blood-related to the child--she would just be carrying the egg.
  12. felicityswims
    So I should have been raised by my alcoholic, drug-addicted, bi-polar, schizophrenic mother and no father rather than my loving and caring grandparents? Sure, makes sense to me. Exactly! In our world, biology isn't the best, regardless of what "scientific studies" say.
  13. felicityswims
    I think he does, based on the way he's speaking. And I think that's despicable. Family and children don't need DNA. Love has nothing to do with DNA, and if you think families are any less because they don't share the same blood, you need to rethink your life. I was adopted by my grandparents and they are a million times more my parents than my biological parents are.
  14. felicityswims
    He has looked into online courses, but he's not too into them. I can't say I blame him, online isn't for everyone, you know? And thank you for saying you "applaud my ambition". I appreciate it, as it seems SOME PEOPLE think that a woman wanting a career is something to be ashamed of.
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    Are you kidding me? I plan to adopt because there are thousands of children who deserve a loving home. I do not know if I can or cannot have children. If I can I plan to have both biological children and adopted children. And how on earth is an adopted child not "my own"? You may be the least Christ-like person on this entire website. Thank you for pointing out JoCa's absolute foolishness.
  16. felicityswims
    I never said it's unfair that he provides, I said it's unfair that he provides alone. Just as it is unfair for me to nurture our children on my own. From the Proclamation: "By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed." My husband will spend as much time nurturing and teaching our children as I do, just as I will spend as much time providing for our household as he does. We will be equal partners.
  17. felicityswims
    I have 100% of tuition paid for any law school in my state. Therefore there will be no debt incurred. Also, law school is 3 years, not 4 (or more). As for purpose, I plan to work in family practice and adoptions. I also plan to adopt. I plan to work and provide for my family just as my husband does. It is unfair to expect him to solely provide for an entire household, in my opinion. It's not right to him or to myself. I know that the Proclamation says different, but each and every one of God's children is different and can provide in different ways. If/when children come I will take time off and when they are older I will probably return to work. Edit: My SO agrees with me and has no problems with this plan.
  18. felicityswims
    *Note that the one other thread I've made has been resolved, I now wear my garments "day and night." So please don't bring that up.* My significant other and I are talking seriously about marriage, but he lives about 6 hours away in a neighboring state. I go to a university in my city and am a sophomore. I have college paid for at this university and he has not yet started as he is recent RM. He's looking into BYUi and other such colleges that are states away. I also have a way to pay for my future law degree as long as I stay in my home state. I would go where he wants if it wasn't for the issue of paying for it. Should he go to the college of his choice and we wait to get married for 3+ years until I finish, or should he compromise and come to the university in my city? We're having a lot of trouble figuring it out and any outside opinions and points of view could really help. Thanks in advance.
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    I wore them 24/7 for a little over a year, and the whole time I struggled with self-esteem issues, heat stroke, (living in a place that gets to 105 degrees every day during the summer, and 80+ the rest of the year,) horrible lines being dug into my skin no matter what size or material I wore, so I started praying for guidance, and after only a couple of months of wearing them "part-time," I have felt closer to God, felt much fewer self-esteem issues, had no heat stroke, and no longer have lines all over my legs and arms. It affects one's mental health when you already struggle with Major Depressive Disorder and get heat stroke every time you leave the house. I'm sure Heavenly Father would rather I wear my garments part time than die of heat stroke. Doctors even advised me to go part time, and I know Heavenly Father puts our health first.
  20. felicityswims
    As RMGuy stated on another thread, "I am temple endowed, and unless something has changed that I am not aware of, I NEVER Covenanter to wear garments. It was placed upon me. I was promised some very impressive blessings so long as I wear it throughout my life. I was instructed to wear it. I never Covenanted to do so. I had this conversation recently with my bishop, stake president, regional rep, and temple president who all conceded that this was indeed then case. Claiming that this was a covenant is to miscast the case." I never covenanted to wear the garments. It is not a disobedience or "casual observance" of covenants because it is not a covenant. I didn't say I believe the prophets can be wrong, I said that the person who said that we botch personal revelation must believe that. Do you know how to read, Vort? It was in order B. I started out wearing them 24/7 because that's what everyone else did, and I thought if I can do it without hating how I feel and feeling uncomfortable (to the point of depression,) I would wear them. When I realized I just couldn't wear them all the time because if was affecting my mental health, I prayed about wearing them less often. By the way, I wasn't asking permission to wear them less often, I was asking your opinions on how I do it since everyone I know in my ward looks down on me for it.
  21. felicityswims
    If you truly believe we botch the personal revelation process, then that means you believe that the prophets can be wrong, because they receive personal revelation. Which in turn means that what they have said regarding this topic can also be wrong. Ever think about that? Use your brain.
  22. felicityswims
    Thank you for the all the advice, and I want to address number 7: I have prayed for advice. I've prayed about this topic hundreds of times, and I know in my heart that what I am doing is okay in Heavenly Fathers eyes. The counsel we receive is open to interpretation, and those of you who have chosen and are happy to wear the garment 24/7 have done so because you feel in your heart that is what you are meant to do. I do not feel the same way, and the Holy Spirit has made it clear to me that my decision is just as right as anyone else's.
  23. felicityswims
    Very helpful, I truly appreciate it. This isn't about technicalities, it's about the fact that I was told to wear them throughout my life and that's what I do, but people seem to hate me for it. I wear them when I need to feel close to Heavenly Father. I've tried wearing them all the time, and doing so made me hate them. If I hate them, what kind of relationship is that giving me with God?
  24. felicityswims
    I'm an endowed member, but I don't wear my garments all day and all night. Technically, I'm not breaking any rules, because the endowment ceremony literally only says "wear them throughout your life." I wear shoes throughout my life, too, but not all the time! I wear glasses throughout my life, but not all the time! So why do the garments need to be worn 24/7? They're supposed to be sacred, a reminder of the covenants we made, but we wear them like normal underwear, so how are they special anymore? They're not. I wear mine on Sundays and days when I need the extra strength. That's what makes them special to me, I follow the rules to "wear them throughout my life," but people think I'm wrong and that I need to wear them 24/7. Even the temple recommend questions ask: "Do you keep the covenants that you made in the temple? Do you wear the garment both night and day as instructed in the endowment and in accordance with the covenant you made in the temple?" The endowment instructions don't tell me to wear them day and night! What do you think?