MnDisciple27

Right. Since there is nobody around me I am interested in, it is finally time to make a Mutual account. I'm curious how that will turn out.

I did follow that up by saying I would still like to take her out as friends. She ended up facilitating an impromptu "Come, Follow Me" discussion at work - yes, I'm in Utah - and I felt the Spirit strongly for the first time in a year; for some reason the effort I put in before just wasn't cutting it. I definitely at least want to do something to thank her for that. Honestly...I although I really like her, in the end I know it wouldn't have worked out anyways. She has a lot of qualities I am looking for, but there are one or two missing that most likely would have ended up as deal-breakers for me. Yet I still wanted to ask her out o.O

Thanks for letting me know.

Well...a bit of a sad update here. Got a text from her a few hours after she said yes. She said that she didn't really see me that way and that the "date" would be as friends. I responded, "No worries, I understand. Thank you for telling me. If I may ask, why did you initially say yes?" She simply said that she never said no to a first date.

I respect that, but asking her to compromise her personal rule would go against what I stand for. I just went with asking ahead of time.

Thanks all. I intended to ask her in two weeks because I thought asking her out a month in advance was weird. However, a great opportunity presented itself today so I went for it. Got the date ^.^ This was my first thread on the forum. There isn't much point in leaving this thread open. Is there a way to close it or mark it as resolved?

Thanks. I'm probably going to forego the flowers based on what everyone has said. First, thank you for stating that you are speaking as a lady. It helps lend credence to what you say. Yeah...I have a convoluted mind. I personally enjoy mind games, but I can see why it would be a horrible idea in this situation. Thank you for clarifying why instead of just saying it is a bad idea. Thank you, that seems like a sound idea. I'll stick with what you said. I feel foolish for not thinking of that solution... Good idea. I feel like a month is probably too far in advance though. I'll go with two weeks instead; it seems more reasonable. I do not appreciate how you worded that. It feels like every other line is written to attack me. Please be more aware of how others may view what you write, whether or not it is how you intended to come across. Now, ignoring the phraseology, I do agree that I should ask her out and set the date for when we are no longer co-workers. As I said above, for some ridiculous reason the thought did not even cross my mind.

Alright, thanks for that response. I'll just wait to ask until our last common working day, for the reasons I mentioned in my reply to Fether.

Thanks for your input. I was wondering if it would seem creepy or not. From my understanding, some women would find it creepy while others would find it sweet. I'm curious what others will say. As far as the latter goes, both she and I have a strong belief that people should follow rules. I do not want to, even if I'm joking, suggest for her to break a personal rule.

I am attracted to a female co-worker of mine; however, I know that she does not date co-workers. Immediately after she said that, she stated that she would be alright going out with a guy if he was no longer a co-worker. We work at a seasonal job that ends in a month, and I feel that a month is a reasonable time to wait before I ask her out. I happen to know that she likes some other guy, but that she is not currently in a relationship with anyone. I am contemplating anonymously sending her flowers of her favorite color with a message like the following: "For a woman with a radiant smile only matched by her radiant soul. -Co-worker that respects your personal rule and is willing to wait." The main idea behind this is so that she knows there is a co-worker interested in her, thereby hopefully increasing the chance that she does not end up getting a boyfriend within the next month. She does not want to date co-workers because of the weird things that can happen in such a situation, so I figure leaving the message anonymous will be better than signing it. My Questions Is sending her flowers appropriate in this situation? If so, should the message be anonymous? Should I do something else to indicate my interest? (Note that I do flirt with her, but I have little relationship experience so I am not entirely sure if what I do comes across as flirting or not.)