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You know Pale... to me thats a good question. We took a covenant when we were ordained and to turn our backs on that is... well its wrong? What do you think? Do you want a blessing from someone that kinda believes but it takes to much time to do???

I have to agree with Islander here. If a person is not will to take on the responsibilities of the priesthood he has no business holding an office. Yes, by giving some members a calling they will tend to grow into that calling, but there a far too many (at least in my area) that have been given the priesthood and a calling and they don't see the point in either of them. Are these really the people that should have the priesthood?

VoL, you have many friends, some that you have never met and all of us want only the best for you. We wish at any one moment that we can help you in your trials, but some times something have to be done with just the rest of us watching. I wish you the best and hope that everything works out the way you need it to.

Welcome to the boards, I hope you enjoy yourself and hope that we can help you along in your journey :)

I will have to say that everything in my life is plodding along as usual. The most memoriable time has been meeting with you all for the last few months and learn more about the church and us in general! Thanks to all my new friends :))

Mama... there are steps that need to be taken and if your son in law wants to move forward he has to show that he is ready for the work. Too much now a days it seem that people are too busy for church callings, if they aren't willing to do the things required by the position why should they hold the position just because of age or time spent in a certain quorum? I don't know all the aspects of your son in laws position and maybe its just like True has said, that he needs to talk to his bishop or branch pres. to find out whats going on. My brother in law is contain to sit in the back and not be asked anything too. But he know why his not moving forward or getting ask for a whole lot and he's fine with that.

I really need that LOL button....

Hello and welcome. I hope that we can be helpful and friendly in answering your needs here on the boards. :)

Welcome, I hope you enjoy yourself here

As you were not present and there for hearing it second hand, albeit from your wife. I would have to say that you can have any opinion that you'd like to have. I would have to ask, is you pastor a character? All of us have different traits and present ourselves to the world in different ways. Does he like to use jokes or humorous stories to get his points across? Are you taking offense because it was a young Mormon missionary that pointed this out? You'd be welcome in my wards gospel doctrine class at anytime and I'm sure that you'd have useful input to the discussion. All youth have a tendency to not think before they speak and if this young man was familiar with your Pastor, I'm sure he said whatever his impressions may have been. I am sorry that you found some fault with the church and fell away. I hope that your visits here will help you reconcile your feelings. Best wishes.... :)

Dove, I quit smoking two years ago as I decided it was time for me to rejoin the church. I prayed for help and ask my doctor to prescribe something that would help. He gave me Welbutrin and after a couple of weeks of taking it I tried to quit. I have to say it was successful. I will credit the Lord for his help in preparing me and watching over me as I gave this habit up. I must say that I think, for me, that it was mostly mental, once the decision was made and a coarse set, the rest was a mental game that was fairly easy to beat. Place your trust in the Lord and tell your doc everything that you go through as you try to quit. Pray that your doc will have the guidance that he/she needs to help you. Don't give yourself any extra stress on the first day or two that you quit, like fasting or something. Fast a couple days before or after and request help. This is the best advice I can think of and it worked for me so I hope it will work for you too. :)

Honesty is hard sometimes but sometimes they or we need to hear it

Welcome to the boards, hope you enjoy yourself and make lots of friends :)

Come on folks... When a parent doesn't have enough common sense or common courteous to think about how that child will be growing up, judges need to step in. Somebody needs to step in. the parents are really showing a lack of intelligence as well as self respect. In my opinion, and its my opinion and I'm entitled to it, these parents should not even be allowed to bred!!!! Yes, I'm a mean person..... :)

Thats because mom always says "Wait until your father gets home!!!" or "Wait until your father hears about this!!!" and most kids are scared to death cause daddy always has to hand out the punishments!! LOL.. j/k I don't want any of those single parents getting mad at me, but thats the way it was in my home growing up. It is really interesting though, that if we just spend a little time and get just a little involved in our children's lives, that it make them seem to stop and think a little bit more before they do something that might affect the rest of their lives.

I agree with Truegrits, Kistakaye and I babysit for the neighbors quite a bit and when their kids first started coming over... oh man!!! were they brats!!!! the parents knew their kids were, shall we say, a little out of hand, and were sorry about it, but "didn't know what to do" When they are at our house they know and understand they rules. We ask nicely for things, say please and thank you always... put our toys away before starting a new project or game, etc. The kids pick up quickly that we won't put up with the grunts and whining, if the want to be nice then we are nice, if they want to act like spoiled little brats, then they get treated as such. whether its just ignoring them or actually having to put them in time out. Clarification; When I say ignoring them, we will not talk to them until they correct their behavior, or if its a younger child, we will repeat what they are suppose to say until they at least try saying it back to us. My family jokes that if their kids are misbehaving that they will send them to our house to get straightened out. Its funny most of the time but they also understand that we will not put up with their crap.... and in my opinion, most of their crap is caused by the parents anyways.... because the parent doesn't want to stand up to the kid and make them behave!!! So now it your turn.... fire away..... :)

As long as you have a grain of faith you have a great starting point. Sometimes it takes a long time to get a confirmation. Sometimes you recieve it when you least expect it. We all go through times of confusion and questioning, otherwise we wouldn't be human.

Visit with the bishop, you are not lost, you will return to where you want to be if you will apply yourself to the task. Go see your bishop..... we are hoping and praying for your success... :)

Stacey, you a right, it is our choice to follow the commandments and covenants that we have been given and have agreed to. It is also our choice to receive the blessings or punishment that we will be entitled to also. I don't think it is wise to counsel someone to not keep the commandments, if you want to disregard them, that is your choice, but to tell someone else to forget them?!?!?! Sorry, bad choice!! As for taxes, here in the US we can deduct any tithing payed from our taxes.... :)

Reading Bytor post a thought occured to me and I felt like I should share it. Most of us don't mind questions in fact we enjoy them because they help us learn. But when we answer a question and the person doesn't like the answer, they will generally ask it again and try to reword it. After the third or forth time, I know that my patients are wearing thin. This is a personel flaw that I have to work on fixing, but it doesn't mean that I don't like questions. Does that make sense to any of you??

I see that reading was not mentioned... seems to be a lost or disappearing pastime :)

As you can see some are and some aren't... welcome to the boards :)

Growing but then again I live in the heart of the Mormon area...... :)

By the way, welcome to the boards, there are a lot of great people here. I hope you find what you are looking for

If you feel guilty enough to not want to talk to your bishop then I think you have already answered your own question. From a male point of view your bf wants one thing and one thing only, and he will tell you whatever you want to hear to get what he wants. Stay true, you know what is right for you, be strong..... we are here to help as much as you'll allow.. :)