Having doubts

[Zero_R]

Hello, this is my first post on your website. I need some advice. I have been dating a wonderful man who I love dearly for a few months now. We got engaged a few weeks ago. Before I consented to marry him, I prayed to ask if he was the man I should marry. I received the most direct answer I've ever gotten (I actually heard a audible voice say "yes") and felt good about it at the time. My fiance is really one of the kindest, most spiritual men I've ever met.

A few weeks ago, I really started to feel that things weren't right. I don't have any real reason for believing this, it's just what I've been feeling. I love him dearly and have wanted to be with him. I've been miserable because I've felt that things aren't right, even though I've acted really happy around him and around others. I just really don't think it's right between us, but I can't figure out why. I know he has the Spirit with him, and we get along wonderfully. He does have some physical limitations which I think might be a bit of a problem in the future, but it's nothing life threatening. It only affects what activities he can participate in. Also, we're not entirely financially stable, so when we were to be married, things would be difficult.

Are these feelings I'm having from God? Should I break things off with him? I really don't know what I should do. Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated!

[prisonchaplain]

Keep dating until the feelings become clearer. Slow and steady wins the race. You'll either dodge a bullet or simmer a fantastic union by moving forward slowly, prayerfully, and without feeling pressured. You sound anxious in your post. Are you being pushed to make a quick decision? IMHO, a few months is not that long of a time...perhaps the gentlement needs patience--or whoever is doing the pushing?

[BenRaines]

I have always understood that in prayer we should make a decision and then ask God if it is right. Not ask should we or shouldn't we.

Ben Raines

[spiritseeker]

Hi zero_R it sounds to me that it was most certainly confirmed to you that this relationship was the right one. Perhaps it's that as the date gets closer you are beginning to doubt and get cold feet. That's normal from my understanding don't read to much into it right now. As prison chaplain said if it's the right thing it will be the right thing in a few months. There is no need to rush into anything. If the feelings continue perhaps you could speak with your bishop. I don't know if this helps ... Please let us know how things go.

[rameumptom]

I suggest you talk with your bishop and your fiancee about this. It may be that you need to take it a little slower for a while, as you sort out your concerns and fears. Better to slow things down now, than wait until you are at the altar.

[Islander]

Hello, this is my first post on your website. I need some advice. I have been dating a wonderful man who I love dearly for a few months now. We got engaged a few weeks ago. Before I consented to marry him, I prayed to ask if he was the man I should marry. I received the most direct answer I've ever gotten (I actually heard a audible voice say "yes") and felt good about it at the time. My fiance is really one of the kindest, most spiritual men I've ever met.

A few weeks ago, I really started to feel that things weren't right. I don't have any real reason for believing this, it's just what I've been feeling. I love him dearly and have wanted to be with him. I've been miserable because I've felt that things aren't right, even though I've acted really happy around him and around others. I just really don't think it's right between us, but I can't figure out why. I know he has the Spirit with him, and we get along wonderfully. He does have some physical limitations which I think might be a bit of a problem in the future, but it's nothing life threatening. It only affects what activities he can participate in. Also, we're not entirely financially stable, so when we were to be married, things would be difficult.

Are these feelings I'm having from God? Should I break things off with him? I really don't know what I should do. Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated!

You do not elaborate much on him. It would seem to me from your brief description that he has lots of different problems that you should, indeed, be concerned about. You speak nothing of his Priesthood and standing. Romantic bliss is no substitute for reality. Take your time. I am not sure about the reply you heard in regards to your prayer.

Grandma' just to say: "If you are in a rush make sure you dress up slowly. You don't want to go out half naked in a hurry."

[pam]

Grandma' just to say: "If you are in a rush make sure you dress up slowly. You don't want to go out half naked in a hurry."

I love Grandma.

[Hemidakota]

Hello, this is my first post on your website. I need some advice. I have been dating a wonderful man who I love dearly for a few months now. We got engaged a few weeks ago. Before I consented to marry him, I prayed to ask if he was the man I should marry. I received the most direct answer I've ever gotten (I actually heard a audible voice say "yes") and felt good about it at the time. My fiance is really one of the kindest, most spiritual men I've ever met.

A few weeks ago, I really started to feel that things weren't right. I don't have any real reason for believing this, it's just what I've been feeling. I love him dearly and have wanted to be with him. I've been miserable because I've felt that things aren't right, even though I've acted really happy around him and around others. I just really don't think it's right between us, but I can't figure out why. I know he has the Spirit with him, and we get along wonderfully. He does have some physical limitations which I think might be a bit of a problem in the future, but it's nothing life threatening. It only affects what activities he can participate in. Also, we're not entirely financially stable, so when we were to be married, things would be difficult.

Are these feelings I'm having from God? Should I break things off with him? I really don't know what I should do. Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated!

First question, did the audio voice tell you who HE/SHE was? Second, did you feel the Holy Ghost during this communiqué?

[Hemidakota]

I have always understood that in prayer we should make a decision and then ask God if it is right. Not ask should we or shouldn't we.

Ben Raines

Some cases it will be answered for a 'wiser purpose' then we expect.