Is it possible to be sealed to my deceased fiance?

[PANDA1972]

I was engaged to my fiance, who recently passed away in a tragic car acident. My life has been utter hell since losing my best friend and the love of my life. I cannot stand to think that I will not be able to spend all eternity with her as my spouse because we were not able to get married in this life. Has anyone ever heard of or known a person who was sealed in the temple to a deceased fiance to whom they were engaged? I have heard rumors that it is and requires First Presideny approval to do so. Any information you might be able to share on this matter is greatly appreciated!

[pam]

To be honest, I've never heard of it happening.

[john doe]

I have never heard of it happening. As painful as it may be to hear now, you may receive advice to try to move on with your life and find another worthy woman suitable to be sealed to in this earth life. The problem is, a lot can happen to a live couple who are in love between engagement and marriage, that can end those plans. Who is to say for certain that an engagement that ended when one party died was destined or ordained to end at the alter? I know that sounds harsh, but many engagements do end before they are consummated, for a variety of reasons.

[MorningStar]

I'm so sorry to hear it. Definitely ask your bishop. I believe that this will all be sorted out in the Millenium when it comes to people who never had a chance to be sealed to anyone. If you aren't able to be sealed to her now, maybe it will happen then.

[findingmyway]

Romantic..... True love. I do hope you get sealed to her. Im very sorry about your loss.

[ZSEdwardson]

I will say this.

It is very tough, it is hellish. I know, A drunk driver killed mine. Life will get better, but as I understand it, that there is a chance that one day you will be sealed, but it will be after your passing and resurrection.

It is very tough, but your life is not over, and once you get going, you can hopefully find someone living that you can spend at least a life, if not Eternity with.

I will have to say a prayer for you.

[Jennarator]

How very sad.

I have thought about this, before. So I hurried to marry my husband, for fear of the same thing.

I have no idea if you can be sealed. I do know that HEavenly Father has a plan, and He wants us to be happy. Maybe there is a possibility. Perhaps, not now, perhaps later, after you pass, too.

Take the time to get over your loss. Things will somehow work out. I don't know how, but somehow.

[millionaire13]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I cannot imagine the heartache you must be going thru. There was a guy in one of my college wards that was in this situation. His fiance had been killed in a car accident and yes, he was able to be sealed to her.

This sounds like a tough decision to make. Only you can know what the right decision is. Perhaps it is one that you can think about for some time before acting upon. My guess would be that at some point you will fall in love again and want to marry. I would probably have some heartburn over marrying a guy that was already sealed to another woman. But you may find a woman who is understanding of wanting to be sealed to her also. You may want to postpone this decision until you marry and then get the blessing of your wife before doing so.

I have lived long enough to experience some tragedies of my own, and while you never forget those experiences, it is possible to be freed from the pain via the atonement. Time allows us to heal from tragedy. Maybe get a few years down the road in your life and see how you feel about it then. If you feel the same, go ahead with the sealing .... if you don't then you know all things have worked out for the best. Good luck and may your heart be healed.

[MrBallroom]

Talk to your bishop and also your stake president. Discuss the matter in great detail with them. Was your fiance a member of the Church at the time of her death? Had she already received the blessings of the temple at the time of her passing?

Usually, when stake presidents get questions like that and they cannot find guidance in the Handbook, they have standing permission in cases like that to call the Office of the First Presidency...but that call has to come from the Stake President himself, as that is how they properly follow their priesthood lines of authority.

Please let us know how this turns out after you talk to your priesthood leaders. We wish you well and are anxious for your success and peace.

Edited April 2, 2011 by MrBallroom
Adding final point for clarification and correcting spelling error.

[Bini]

I'm sorry for your loss. That's heartbreaking and I don't know the answer.

I do have some questions though.. How is it possible (if at all) to be sealed to a deceased fiance/fiancee if you were never married? Having said that, isn't a sealing a mutual decision? You'd assume two people so deeply in love (even separated at death) would want to be sealed but how do you know? Is it possible that our loved ones that have passed on, unmarried, marry in the afterlife to someone else? If so, we would never know if they did or not.