Yes, another PORN thread

[JudoMinja]

I agree with you that they are just using scare tactics. A person who consumes alcohol is not automatically an addict, and it does not lead to alcoholism most the time. The alcoholic does not go for harder drugs. They quite like normal alcohol and just use more of that.

Now let me repeat for the slow people above. A person who consumes porn is not automatically an addict, and it does not lead to addiction all the time. The porn addict does not go searching for child porn. They quite like normal porn and just use more of that.

The point is that for those who do become addicts, there is an increase in severity. Not everyone will neccessarily view child porn, but they will go on to "worse" things and delve deeper into sexual sins. Of course not everyone who views porn becomes an addict, not everyone who drinks alcohol becomes an alcoholic, not everyone who smokes becomes a druggie- but to deny that the first step does not lead down that slippery road for many people is to deny the cold, hard facts and statistics we have before our very eyes.

Addictions are a plague. This is no scare tactic- it is the truth. Destructive things which can (I didn't say will) lead to addictions are better off avoided. For those who never become addicted- good for you. It would still be safer to avoid it completely. Especially since no good comes of it, even if you do not become addicted.

Now, is there anyway we can salvage this thread? This has devolved into nothing more than an argument over one poster's choice of words, which said poster even explained were used as nothing more than an example of what could happen and to show the progression of addictions. Let's try to get past that and get back on track. This thread was started by someone looking for help in dealing with her husband's pornography addiction, an addiction which has caused him to pull away from her in many ways. He is choosing the porn over his wife, which is something an addict would do, and is horribly destructive.

To the OP-

Since your husband has gone so far to say "if you don't like it, then leave" then you should take him up on that. I'm not necessarily saying you should divorce him, but at least make a temporary separation. Sometimes, that is necessary to make your point. Since that was his choice of words, staying with him tells him you are okay with his addiction and will continue to tolerate it. If you want him to understand that it truly does offend and upset you, you need to separate yourself from him. Tell him that if he wants his family to come back to him, he needs to get the help he needs to overcome his addiction. Then follow through on it.

If he is so far gone that he doesn't care and makes no effort to seek help, a divorce is probably in order. If he does get help, be a constant support to him as his wife should be, just don't let him back into your home until he is healthy enough to work with you on making sure porn doesn't become a problem again.

[g8trjasonb]

I agree with you that they are just using scare tactics. A person who consumes alcohol is not automatically an addict, and it does not lead to alcoholism most the time. The alcoholic does not go for harder drugs. They quite like normal alcohol and just use more of that.

Now let me repeat for the slow people above. A person who consumes porn is not automatically an addict, and it does not lead to addiction all the time. The porn addict does not go searching for child porn. They quite like normal porn and just use more of that.

This thread is about a man with a porn addiction. My comments are referring to that addiction and how there is a progression in the intensity and volume of porn that is viewed when one is addicted to it because, as another person noted, you become desensitized over time, and I am suggesting that his addiction likely contributed to his infidelity. This progression is no different than any other addiction. There isn't a single person in this entire thread that said a person who consumes porn is automatically an addict and/or a pedophile. Your argument fails.

[mnn727]

There isn't a single person in this entire thread that said a person who consumes porn is automatically an addict and/or a pedophile.

Not what the evidence shows, perhaps you would like to withdraw your earlier statement:

The problem with pornography, especially the pornography of today, is that it attacks the user in stages. One day your "just" looking at a Playboy magazine. Several years later, it's child pornography or seeking affairs. Like any addiction, the thrill wears off and requires the user to seek new thrills and the user finds him or herself doing things he/she once thought they would never have the inclination to do.

[g8trjasonb]

Not what the evidence shows, perhaps you would like to withdraw your earlier statement:

I've already stated the intent of my post. Go back and read my posts subsequent to it. I'm done trying to get through your thick skull. Believe what you want, I don't care. My message isn't for you anyway.

[skippy740]

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