I Only Ask Becous I Hear Mormons Are Vary Famley Bases

[foip05]

I havent spoken to my eny of my family in a bout two years. I left home when i was 12 and have been living in the streets, am afraid to go back or even call, becouse when I left my family was falling a part. All my brothers had left and the twins are only a year older thin me (big family problems).

So to all who are good at giving advise mabey you can give it to me. I would like to go home but am afraid of the reaction of my parent. If there still to gether. I left when they were on there break from eachouther. I asked my dad if i could go with him, but he said that a girl is supossed to be with her mom.(in other words no)

i left when i did becouse my mother told me that i wasn't wonted and to get lost. In those word.

I can't even remember what i did or said.

could you parnet still be mad after two yeas at your kids?

i have lnow idea what i would say.

[pushka]

Hi, I'm so very sorry to hear of your situation and past.

I don't know if your parents would still be angry after 2 years, I would like to believe that they are missing you madly and look forward to your safe return to them.

Perhaps your best way of approaching this is to contact the Police or Social Services department of whereever you are living, explain your background and your reasons for leaving home when you did, and ask if somebody from their department could make contact with your family and accompany you when you are finally reunited with them, or to help you through any possibility of rejection of you on the part of your parents.

I do hope that your story has a happy ending...please find help for yourself in any way, so that you are not having to live on the streets any more...my heart goes out to you!

[Laureltree]

Angry no, relieved your safe and ok...yes!

[Dr T]

Sorry to hear of your story todayisagoodday.

[Gwen]

todayisagooddayihope,

Let me start with I am a mother, 5 children. And as a mother I would be in agony everyday, waiting for that phone to ring to hear from my child. I would welcome you home with open arms and I would pray that your family would too. However, I'm not nieve to the world as it seems you are not either. Not all parents behave as they should. If your parents were splitting when you left remember parents are not perfect. Your mom and dad may have said some horrible things they never meant. they were hurting too. sometimes as parents we forget how much we chage our children by our inconsiderate behavior. I think you should give your family another chance.

If I may be forward I would like to give you some advice. I have had callings that have given me a lot of contact with LDS Family Services and I know that they can help you. I would suggest you look in the phone book and find the address of the nearest The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints building. another option is to go to www.lds.org on the left side of the screen will be a list you want "other resorces", in there is a "meeting house locator", it will walk you through, put in your current address and it will tell you directions to the nearest building and i beleive the start time of the meetings. Be there sunday morning someone will show up. when you go in (everyone will be in dresses and things, no one will care what you wear, be there) ask the nearest person to direct you to the bishop. any conversation you have with him will be considered very confidential so be honest. tell him where you are, why you left, where your family is, tell him your experiance about reading the Book of Mormon, tell him about your seeking advice here, and tell him some crazy Young Women's pres. from the website sent you. LOL Tell him you want to reunite with your family but are not sure how, tell him you would like LDS Family Services to help you do this. this should be an absouletly free service to you. They have counselors and services that can help you do this safely and if God forbid you do not get a warm welcome home you have somewhere to turn. Get off the streets, they can help you do this.

I know this is long already, but i must tell you this. You are a couragous young woman, you have shown that in your honesty in these posts. your are a daughter of God, he loves you. he is waiting for you. he wants you to have a wonderful life, to receive blessings, to be happy, to be safe, to know who you are. he cares about you as an individual, he knows your needs and he wants to provide. trust in him. go to the nearest bishop, take action that will allow doors you didn't even know were there to be opened. show your courage now. i know you have no reason to trust me, you don't know me. but you can pray, if this is the right thing to do, God will tell you, trust in him (not me). do not delay, your life could depend on this the streets are a bad place, you must find help now. please seek out someone, you can not get through this world alone, allow God to help you through his servants. this will take all your courage. from my experiance nothing good has ever happened to me without having to have faith and courage. rely on that now. have faith, have courage, please be there sunday morning.

God Bless and many prayers

ALmom

[Winnie G]

Dear Today,

Your story is not that typical of the foster daughters I raised until they were eighteen.

Social Services department is a very good place to start. You might not want to walk back into what you left behind. They can assist you on contacting your family, and a home study would be done.

Living on the street is no life but there is help out there for you.

I hope this finds you safe on your way. Take care of your self.

[foip05]

ask the nearest person to direct you to the bishop.

,

Social Services department is a very good place to start. .

I havent gon to social services becouse the peopel I met have told me hore stoies about them being it the sistom

What is the bishop?

thanks for your comments

[Jason]

I havent gon to social services becouse the peopel I met have told me hore stoies about them being it the sistom

While the system is not perfect, it helps millions of people everyday. The "system" is a creation of society to help other members of society. Generally those who complain believe that either the system doesn't help enough, or they didn't like what the system thought was best for them. (ie don't do drugs, don't beat your kids, etc.)

Im still pretty new to the system myself (Im working on a Masters of Social Work as we speak) but these seem to be some of my observations.

Best wishes.

[Gwen]

Today,

the bishop is like the preacher or pastor of other churchs. however, he is not paid. he is called, lds beleive, by God to lead the church for that area. every ward (congregation), or church building has one. they are the one set appart to receive guidance from God on what he wants done in that specific area as well as make sure the rules of the chruch are followed in that area. you see The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is a world wide church. meaning i could go almost anywhere in the world and find the same lesson manuels being used, the same meetings, the same structure, the same gospel and principles. that is why i say so confidantly that you can find help through them. i know how it would happen here if you walked into our building and therefore you can go to any building anywhere in the world that has the church and get that same help. i hope that helps you understand that issue.

as for Social services. i was sure you had heard bad things and that is why i did not reccomend them. LDS Family Services is simmilar to social services, but instead of being run by the government (and potentialy haveing things taken away) it is run by the church. it can help without the government intrusion. and in my belief the people running it are inspired and seeking answers from God on what to do, not just the law or their own opinion. now there may be times when they will involve governmental social services, but when they do (at least the ones i've talked to here) they stay in touch with you if you would like to make sure the govenmental agencies are helping you not hurting you. it is one more person to have on your side as you go through this difficult journey. LDS Family Services is a way for you to get the kind of advice and help you need without involving to governmental agencies you have heard so many bad things about.

ALmom

ps i have also seen horror stories personaly, but i have also seen some really good. so if you are advised to involve them pray and let God guide you to a good worker (my sister is one). Trust in the Lord he is in control. :)

[Maureen]

Hey today...,

I can't imagine being on "the street" at 14. If you're interested, check out the Kids-in-Crisis website:

http://www.geocities.com/heartland/bluffs/....html#telephone

If you give them a call, they might be able to help you reconnect with your family, or if not your immediate family, maybe an aunt or uncle? The website gives this number: 1-800-USA-KIDS (1-800-872-5437).

Good luck!

M.

[Princess3dward]

I havent spoken to my eny of my family in a bout two years. I left home when i was 12 and have been living in the streets, am afraid to go back or even call, becouse when I left my family was falling a part. All my brothers had left and the twins are only a year older thin me (big family problems).

So to all who are good at giving advise mabey you can give it to me. I would like to go home but am afraid of the reaction of my parent. If there still to gether. I left when they were on there break from eachouther. I asked my dad if i could go with him, but he said that a girl is supossed to be with her mom.(in other words no)

i left when i did becouse my mother told me that i wasn't wonted and to get lost. In those word.

I can't even remember what i did or said.

could you parnet still be mad after two yeas at your kids?

i have lnow idea what i would say.

We are family based....

but I don't talk to most of mine either.

I think the term is... "disowned",

but that matters in the slightest.

I know the mistakes made on both sides,

and I know not to repeat them so I can be sealed with a family who likes me.

[foip05]

I can be sealed with a family who likes me.

what is this sealed

[Gwen]

from "The Family A Proclamation to the World" released by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints in 1995:

"...the family is central to the Creator's plan for the eternal destiny of His children."

"The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally."

this is what sealed refers to, being united eternally.

also found at www.mormon.org:

"Families can be one of our greatest sources of happiness. No love is so deep, no joy is so full as that which can exist within the family circle. Families can help bring us the best that life has to offer.

Within the family we can also feel the deepest heartache. Families can falter and even fail. Yet happiness in a family is often possible even when heartaches come.

Like everything of value, family relationships take work, but they are worth the effort because families are meant to be together forever and are meant to bring us joy."

[foip05]

(Im working on a Masters of Social Work as we speak)

good luck at that. it is something to be proud of and a great acomplishment

hope you get those A's

in your books does it have an answer about what to do with a broken family in short version?

[Guest only to day]

I havent spoken to my eny of my family in a bout two years. I left home when i was 12 and have been living in the streets, am afraid to go back or even call, becouse when I left my family was falling a part. All my brothers had left and the twins are only a year older thin me (big family problems).

So to all who are good at giving advise mabey you can give it to me. I would like to go home but am afraid of the reaction of my parent. If there still to gether. I left when they were on there break from eachouther. I asked my dad if i could go with him, but he said that a girl is supossed to be with her mom.(in other words no)

i left when i did becouse my mother told me that i wasn't wonted and to get lost. In those word.

I can't even remember what i did or said.

could you parnet still be mad after two yeas at your kids?

i have lnow idea what i would say.

hello there stranger

I jump on this site every once and awhile as a guest never joined. But I might be able to give you advise so I here for just to day

my life sounds similar but not the same to yours. But I am now 23. I dropped out of school in grade 6 never when back but trying to learn to read (it is really humiliating when your 23 and can barely read and write)

By the time I was 12 I was living on the streets. I whet to the streets because my mom didn't know how to deal with me being raped. and my attitude that fallowed .That put a big stick between us. She thought i was a liar and a swank and brought it on my self. Yes that was really mean of her and I still have a hard time but back to the point.

From what it sound like you do not know much about religion. It helps to have a safe place to go. The Mormon church can give you that. There is usually someone there all but on Mondays.

Just remember it will be just as weird for you as them. So don't worry about what to say just explain to them why your there. Even tell them you were told to go there from this site

ALmom is right, go talk to a bishop, yes it might be scary, because your new but they will help you till you say you don't want it then they will leave you be.

At least that's what they did for me.

Now talking with your mom, Call her. The good thing about a phone is you can always hang it up :) and they can not touch you.

You being a young 14 year old girl, is worse to be on the streets than a boy, you are more subject to get raped.

so DONT STAY ON THE STREETS it is hard even with your so call friends. And you will regret it when you are my age and cant read a book with out pitchers or spell it. lol

I would ask how you feed your self but I would be afraid of your answer.

Social services is not a bad system. They will give you a bed and food and someone to talk to face to face non of this online stuff. More personal. A shoulder for you to cry on they will not laph at you, or hurt you.

They are there for you. You went to them, that will show them you mean bissness and want the help

I will send you my email address if you really want the help or to talk more just email me we can switch stories and maybe get you in a home by next week before winter.

DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR SELF GET HELP NOW

ps :your family splitting up is not your fault. Neither is your moms bad reaction to the day you left.

you said you have brothers you could stay with. Give one of a call ....

good luck and be careful. B)

[shanstress70]

It doesn't sound to me like she is LDS, so why are you guys suggesting she call the bishop? There are plenty of other places that will give you help. If you tell me what state you are in, 'Today...', I will try to find some resources for you. Are you using computers in a library somewhere?

I suggest that you call 1-800-999-9999, which is a crisis line that you can call anytime 24/7. This is Covenant House and gives those under 21 immediate help. If they don't have a location in your city, they will direct you to someone who can help. Here is their website: www.covenanthouse.org

And yes, you could get help from the LDS church. But I'm pretty sure that almost any church would help you. I know my church would.

As far as contacting your family? I'm not sure. Those of you who are suggesting she call them or go back... why? According to her, they told her to get lost, that they didn't want her. Obviously they are not worthy of being her parents. 'Today', are there any other family members that would take you in and care for you?

Take care, and please do call the number I suggested.

[boyando]

It doesn't sound to me like she is LDS, so why are you guys suggesting she call the bishop? There are plenty of other places that will give you help. If you tell me what state you are in, 'Today...', I will try to find some resources for you. Are you using computers in a library somewhere?

I suggest that you call 1-800-999-9999, which is a crisis line that you can call anytime 24/7. This is Covenant House and gives those under 21 immediate help. If they don't have a location in your city, they will direct you to someone who can help. Here is their website: www.covenanthouse.org

And yes, you could get help from the LDS church. But I'm pretty sure that almost any church would help you. I know my church would.

As far as contacting your family? I'm not sure. Those of you who are suggesting she call them or go back... why? According to her, they told her to get lost, that they didn't want her. Obviously they are not worthy of being her parents. 'Today', are there any other family members that would take you in and care for you?

Take care, and please do call the number I suggested.

Shan:

I love you like a sister, but what is wrong with giving LDS advice, on a LDS website?

I allmost agree with you about her contacting her family.

Today:

It looks like there is a very slim chance it will work out with your own family. It wont cost you much to try a collect call.

I too, understand the emotional pain of being hurt by the one's who are soppose to love you the most.

There are answer's for all of your proplems, except how to make your family love you, because you can't force anyone to love you. You can only invite them.

Looking forward to brighter days for you - allmosthumble

[shanstress70]

Shan:

I love you like a sister, but what is wrong with giving LDS advice, on a LDS website?

I allmost agree with you about her contacting her family.

Thank you... that's very nice!

Nothing is wrong with it. I don't want to come across as crass, but it just seemed wierd like a conversion opportunity. Sorry though if that was offensive! :)

[Gwen]

maybe i might help in understanding the giving of LDS advice to non LDS people. at least my reasons anyway. yes it is true that almost any church could help. but what other church has direct connections almost anywhere in the world? meaning if she were to come into our building i could call a number and find the bishop in her parents city and have someone make contact immeadiatly or through LDS Family Services which also have those same connections. through the fact that it is a world wide church there is a networking system in place that could assure her of safety, anywhere not just one pastor at one city (which is what she would get at any other church in the city i live in). but the biggest reason for me is that because we beleive we are God's true curch it goes beyond our membership lists. when i was trained as releif society pres (organization for women over 18, as well as welfare needs) it was made very clear who i was to care for and help. i was instructed that i was to be concerned for all women within our branch boundries not just the ones on our records. that if i saw a need for a woman in our comunity (member or not) i was to do anything i could to help (through proper channels and following all guidelines of course). now because we also beleive that all men have the agency to worship how where or what they may we should not impose ourselves upon others that do not want our help. but if someone needs help and will accept it from us it is our obligation weither they are members or not. i hope that makes since. that being said where ever Today is the bishop in that area is her bishop. even though she is not a member he is responsible to help her if she requests it.

This is not about a missionary opportunity for me. i won't lie, if she chooses to learn more and joins the church i will be happy for her. but that is not what this is about. it is about sharing true principals (like God loves you) and getting help for a young woman who needs it. it is about being a mom and feeling pain for this young woman. and this is how i know to get help. other suggestions are good too, and are very welcome please continue to find resourses and share. if this were my daughter (and i pray i never loose sight of who i am to behave in a way that sends her to the streets) i would want her to get all helpful information, reguardless of religion. i wouldn't care where the info came from, just so my daughter came home safely.

as for the comments about the family. i agree that there is cause for concern about the reception she would recive going home. but at the same time sometimes parents make realy big mistakes. her mom may not care, but she may also be sitting home hating herself for the horrible things she said. if Today desires to see her family once more and find out then i think she should. but i also think she should do it with help so that if things do go wrong she is not alone. she does not need to be on the streets and i think we all agree there.

sorry, Today for talking about you like your not here.

[foip05]

I dint mean to start a fight and im sorry about that

to day will be a good day hope

I thank you all. I will try and get my nerves up to see these guy, on sunday

at least thats what i understand.

thank you for the all website i have breifly had the time to look at them. they look so.... profeshional

there have been alot of helpfull segestions.

LOL they all look scary LOL but thats ok

only to day im srry to hear your story. hope it gets better for you>

thats ok Lmom i knoe im here lol

[shanstress70]

maybe i might help in understanding the giving of LDS advice to non LDS people. at least my reasons anyway. yes it is true that almost any church could help. but what other church has direct connections almost anywhere in the world? meaning if she were to come into our building i could call a number and find the bishop in her parents city and have someone make contact immeadiatly or through LDS Family Services which also have those same connections. through the fact that it is a world wide church there is a networking system in place that could assure her of safety, anywhere not just one pastor at one city (which is what she would get at any other church in the city i live in). but the biggest reason for me is that because we beleive we are God's true curch it goes beyond our membership lists. when i was trained as releif society pres (organization for women over 18, as well as welfare needs) it was made very clear who i was to care for and help. i was instructed that i was to be concerned for all women within our branch boundries not just the ones on our records. that if i saw a need for a woman in our comunity (member or not) i was to do anything i could to help (through proper channels and following all guidelines of course). now because we also beleive that all men have the agency to worship how where or what they may we should not impose ourselves upon others that do not want our help. but if someone needs help and will accept it from us it is our obligation weither they are members or not. i hope that makes since. that being said where ever Today is the bishop in that area is her bishop. even though she is not a member he is responsible to help her if she requests it.

This is not about a missionary opportunity for me. i won't lie, if she chooses to learn more and joins the church i will be happy for her. but that is not what this is about. it is about sharing true principals (like God loves you) and getting help for a young woman who needs it. it is about being a mom and feeling pain for this young woman. and this is how i know to get help. other suggestions are good too, and are very welcome please continue to find resourses and share. if this were my daughter (and i pray i never loose sight of who i am to behave in a way that sends her to the streets) i would want her to get all helpful information, reguardless of religion. i wouldn't care where the info came from, just so my daughter came home safely.

as for the comments about the family. i agree that there is cause for concern about the reception she would recive going home. but at the same time sometimes parents make realy big mistakes. her mom may not care, but she may also be sitting home hating herself for the horrible things she said. if Today desires to see her family once more and find out then i think she should. but i also think she should do it with help so that if things do go wrong she is not alone. she does not need to be on the streets and i think we all agree there.

sorry, Today for talking about you like your not here.

I totally understand your point. Thanks.

[Gwen]

No fights here. :) lol

i just was concerned that i looked like a baptism chaser with no reguard for the outcome. lol wanted to clear things up. if i was just out for baptisms i would do that in my own town, we could use some in our small branch. lol but i do enjoy shareing the knowledge i have and want everyone else to know that they are special to their Heavenly Father and he loves us. that this life is meant to bring us joy. i hope all christians can agree on that.

Today,

i hope all of this has shown you some good in this world and that there are those out there who care in general but also that care about you. that it is possible to have joy. i pray you find the courage to get help whichever method you use. there are those who will care more than you can imagine right now. don't stay lost to the streets that is no place for any of God's children (and you are one of his children).

[foip05]

you dint come across as a Babtism chaser to me ALmom

If you did I would be ok kay with that. That means you realy belive in what you say

Its not like you are trying to convert enyone. It is just what you know and were you would turn for advise. It is nice to haer you belive in god so much. ive only been to church about 4 times in my hole life and 3 of those time it was to go to the bathroom lol. if that counts

your right: only to day

i came to an lds site becouse i was given abook of mormon one day, it was actuly around day i left home. So that seemed like a good place to start. Was on a mormon site. I have had the book with me the hole time Iv been on the streets. Ive olny read some of it but, it is hard to understand that could be becous im only 14

(o well)

[begood2]

Todayisagoodayihope,

I will pray for your safety and help in getting off the street. Please follow some of the advice that has been offered . God Bless you!

[Marsha]

todayisagooddayihope,

If you are in fact "on the streets" how are you able to come online at all hours of the day to post? Such as 10:57 PM and 1:37 AM? (1:37AM was written by "only_today" which was GONE when I posted this message. Exact same IP's. HMMMMMM Even the public libraries are closed then, even on the West Coast.

Also there is a spell check at the bottom of where you post, click on that and it will correct your spelling for you. But you already know that I am sure.

Just curious,

Marsha