Sealing cancellation

[For eternity]

I am divorced and want to cancel my sealing. I am engaged to marry a wonderful man and we want to be sealed in the temple together. I know that during the process for a cancellation, input is sought from the ex-spouse. My ex is deceased and I was told that his family would then be given a chance to “weigh in” on my requesting a cancellation. My divorce was acrimonious and I am not close to my ex’s family. I don’t understand why they would be given the chance to speak. I do understand the reasoning behind asking the ex spouse, but his family? And because of this our bishop has recommended we get married civilly because the process is expected to take longer due to having his family involved. I am discouraged. I would like to start out with a temple marriage. Can anyone explain why they will give my ex husbands family any kind of voice in this process?

 

[Sunday21]

@For eternity. Congratulations! So happy for you! ?

So who will make the decision? The first presidency.

Are these gentlemen divinely inspired? ?

Why not listen to a recent conference talk by your favorite apostle? Are these gentlemen gems? Every last one of them. Not to worry. Your future could not be in safer hands.

 

[Traveler]

4 hours ago, For eternity said:

I am divorced and want to cancel my sealing. I am engaged to marry a wonderful man and we want to be sealed in the temple together. I know that during the process for a cancellation, input is sought from the ex-spouse. My ex is deceased and I was told that his family would then be given a chance to “weigh in” on my requesting a cancellation. My divorce was acrimonious and I am not close to my ex’s family. I don’t understand why they would be given the chance to speak. I do understand the reasoning behind asking the ex spouse, but his family? And because of this our bishop has recommended we get married civilly because the process is expected to take longer due to having his family involved. I am discouraged. I would like to start out with a temple marriage. Can anyone explain why they will give my ex husbands family any kind of voice in this process?

 

 

Be of good cheer.  Each case of sealing cancelation is considered individually on its own merit.  As to the family of your x – do not concern yourself with what bitterness they may bring to the table – if there be such things will be to their condemnation.  Should they bring forgiveness – that will be for your benefit.  If you are to be condemned it is only because of your refusal to repent and hold bitterness towards others (them) – which from your post would not seem so.

Sometimes in life time is necessary to ensure all things of eternal importance are in order and as they should be.  Rejoice and be glad your bishop intends to make sure all things done and nothing left undone.  If there is something to be done – do it gladly and with love and joy.  Like Joseph in Liberty jail – your hardship is little in comparison to the hardships born by Christ and if you endure this trial well it will be a crown of glory for you in all of eternity.

 

The Traveler

[NightSG]

6 hours ago, For eternity said:

Can anyone explain why they will give my ex husbands family any kind of voice in this process?

Would you rather they insist on waiting for him to answer?

[Guest]

6 hours ago, For eternity said:

Can anyone explain why they will give my ex husbands family any kind of voice in this process?

Without knowing anything else about the situation, I'd say that it is common practice to ask for character witnesses of any individuals accused of bad behavior.

[Vort]

6 hours ago, For eternity said:

Can anyone explain why they will give my ex husbands family any kind of voice in this process?

Consider the issue from the perspective of the First Presidency. Many thousands of such sealing cancellations are sought each year. The First Presidency must approve or deny each one. As far as I know, God has not given the First Presidency a divine Magic Eight Ball that they can use to decide these cases. Rather, they must gather all relevant data and seek inspiration in each case.

Of the thousands of cases that will come before the First Presidency this year, some will be seeking dissolution of their covenant because their spouses were abusive or unfaithful. Others will seek dissolution because they themselves were unfaithful, and now seek to be "sealed" to their partner in infidelity, surely the quintessential example of solemn mockery. Many cases will not be as clear-cut as these two extremes. So the First Presidency seeks all the reliable information it can get.

A sealing dissolution is not a light thing. On the contrary, it strikes at the very foundation of exaltation. I understand why you would find the process unpleasant, but surely you yourself can understand why matters of such eternal weight must be considered very carefully.

[NightSG]

6 hours ago, Vort said:

As far as I know, God has not given the First Presidency a divine Magic Eight Ball that they can use to decide these cases.

It's a yes/no answer; they can use the Holy Half Dollar.