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  1. FWIW, consider this counsel from the magnificent apostle Peter (1 Peter 2:19-20) about suffering, and consider that this tragedy and betrayal might be a chance to avail yourself of the opportunity. For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully. For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.
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  2. I am sorry for the pain you are going through. I do not have any direct experience with a spouse breaking trust... Just more generic events when someone breaks the trust I have extended to them. So my advice will be around that. First piece of advice is that you can not control another person. We all know this logically but when our feeling are hurt when our emotions run high we can be seriously tempted to say this is the way it must be... that just tends to make everything worse. Instead you need to focus on what you can control... and that is you. So what can you do... Well I am going to mention the hardest thing first. The Lord commands all of us to forgive. This is not optional. This is going to be very very hard... and it could take a very long time, and you will probably fail at it a lot as you try. This is normal and expected but it does not release you from trying. You do not get to wait to do this until she repents or shows remorse. This part of what makes it so very hard. Of course a lot of us have some distorted ideas of what forgiveness means. But here it is in an nutshell. We do not get to declare someone else's sins. You are asking if your wife violated the Law of Chasity. That is not our call, its not your call, it is the Lord's call. Its between him and her you do not have a voice in that. Related to this is that you do not get to set the punishment for her sins either. That is also just between her and the Lord. It is natural to feel that you are some how entitled to... Or that you need to see her "punished," that is so normal and natural. Which is why the Lord pushes us so hard on forgiving. He wants us to hand all that over to him and trust that he knows what he is doing. However forgiveness does not require us to trust someone we have found to be untrustworthy, nor does it require us to stay in or return to harms way. The question you can ask yourself and act upon is "Can you trust her?" While you can't control her behavior, and you can not judge her sins, you can and should make a judgement call on your safety and the trustworthiness when interacting with her and act accordingly. Again I am so sorry for your pain and suffering... Hopefully this helps with some direction.
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  3. For a very long time I have been conflicted with President Trump. Though I think his agenda is needed and overdue, there are a lot of people that do not like anything about Trump. They think he is destroying America and creating international turmoil. I had a resent conversation with someone that thinks Trump is the anti-Christ spoken of in scripture. Of course this is a democrat. I do not intend to rehash this discussion – with the one exception that homicidal violence seems to be considered a viable option to stop Trump and his inner circle. This post is not intended to reflect what I think the world needs in this moment. Rather, I would point out that I believe there is enough animosity brewing that the Trump presidency could end with his assignation. This could cause the fulfilment Biblical prophesy concerning the end of times. I had hoped and thought that our recent annual Church conference would shed some light on this possibility. Having listened and pondered the prophetic guidance from the conference – I have come to two conclusions. The first is that the 2nd coming is coming soon and that there will be a lot of turmoil regardless of how soon, soon is. Regardless of what happens on a world scale, I am not going to be able to affect much of anything. In addition thing could unfold that would negate all my efforts to avoid what problem that could arise. The second conclusion is that Zion, and the saints of Zion will persevere. I was reading in the Book of Mormon 3Nephi 22 that gave me comfort. Those that may want to read – verse 11 summed up the thought that my job is not to worry about Trump, the nation or the world but to worry about myself to remail loyal to covenants (stand in holy places). The Traveler
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  4. Brother, I am sorry you’re going through this. I think @The Folk Prophet is on to something. Based on what you’ve written your wife has clearly broken her covenants to and relationship with you. You’ve got some hard decisions to make about whether that break is irreparable and where that leaves you in terms of your future relationship, financial affairs, children, etc. I think in these situations that it’s tempting to seek validation from the Church—to know that the guilty party was subjected to Church discipline, banned from temple entry, or at least to have a Church leader publicly proclaim “Jane Doe has committed sin x and the world should all recognize and acknowledge her as a predator to be condemned and shunned and person y as the victim of Jane’s behavior who deserves our support.” I would encourage you, hard as it is, to resist that temptation. To a significant degree Church discipline can only be applied to the extent that the guilty party is willing to subject themselves to such—by confessing, by telling the truth thoroughly, by making evidence available, by showing up to meetings and hearings at all. You know what she did. You know what God thinks of it. You know what destruction she has wrought. You know that someday—if not now, inevitably at some point—she’s going to feel the full weight of what she has done. You know that unless or until that day comes, her worship experiences are hollow and her covenants are null and void regardless of where she goes what scrap of paper she might carry in her wallet. It doesn’t feel like it now, but it’s possible to get to a mental and emotional state where your healing is completely independent of whatever does and doesn’t happen to her in this life. Life is still fundamentally good and beautiful, and you’ve got great things ahead of you. A quest for vindication and justice will distract you from seeking the good things in life, eat you alive, and ultimately leave you empty inside. I won’t tell you to “move on”. But I will tell you that your life will be better if you focus your efforts into cultivating a “move on” mentality.
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