ruthiechan

Women ARE the ones who do the brunt of raising their children. That's what we do. However, you are not raising your child by yourself. You're husband just took him off your hands so you could relax. Satan tricking you into seeing the negative and is using your worries and elevated hormones to make everything seem worse than it really is. Stop listening. Your husband is likely stressed right now too because of losing his job. He needs to focus his time to find another job, and you need to support him in that. Get your three year old to be a helper. Find him "chores" to do around the house that do not feel like chores to him. That should help. Of course, so does reading your scriptures, prayer, and listening to hymns (which you can listen to on lds.org which is really cool), and listening to or reading conference talks (also available at lds.org). It's okay to talk to your husband about your feelings, but beware of pointing your finger at him and finding fault in him. That will only make things worse. Pray for guidance before speaking with him.

Yes. I definitely agree with you there. :) However, it was a long road to get to this point. We've been married for almost eight years, and two of those years we were separated. It was only through prayer and a willingness to change and do whatever the Lord directed me to do consistently that created the catalyst for change on his part.

Eh? What do you mean by this?

Why did you marry your wife? What about her made you want her? What did you do to obtain her and her love? Do you woo her in love making or is it just wham bam thank you mam, or even non existent? Court her, romance her, make her laugh. I am a stay at home Mom, and also a full time student (my classes are online). My husband works. All the work that Liesl says we women do is true. Imagine all that PLUS school work! (though I only have one child) I see my sister often, and my husband and I have friends come over every weekend to play games. I also attend Church. My husband, upon occasion will say to me, "you look exhausted, lay down and I'll take care of Hazel" and once in a while he'll just start doing the dishes and spots of cleaning. I never ask him to do those things. However, I feel it is my job to get those things done and he ACKNOWLEDGES that I do those things! He says please and thank you. Every time I make a meal he thanks me for making it. He'll say, "oh such and such looks good" or "good job, thank you" when I do something extra around the house. He thanks me for doing his laundry. He'll hug me, and touch me, and give me kisses throughout the day and times he's here. He reads to our daughter, he more often sits at the table to eat with us (he likes to eat at the computer while playing a game), or to just be in the living room with us playing a PS2 game, while I'm on the computer and the little one is coloring on the floor. We're together, and any time we have something to say to the other person we can just say it. It's very nice. Yes, he's always playing games or reading, but clearly he still remembers us. You are in the military in Germany. Do you live on base? If not, do you live in a district where there are English speaking folk around? My father was stationed in Germany where I was born. My parents lived on base, and they had two children (no me yet). They were in the American Servicemen Branch at Church and so their ward was an English speaking ward. The Church activities gave my mother things to do outside the home and she was happy. The Germans she did meet liked to practice their English on her. However, the women who lived on base who did not go to Church were miserable. They were bored and complained there was nothing to do, but at Church my mother had instant friends, instant family. As a note, I asked her about this just now and she even gave me a few extra details I did not know, such as that last part. If you are not LDS, go to Church anyway and go to the activities. There will be love and fellowship there and that will help you and your wife also. Books I really enjoyed was "Dealing with Differences in Marriage" and "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life." Also, here's an article that will help you with Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs). LINK. And remember, you can not change your wife. You can only change yourself.

"You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." -Inigo Montoya in The Princess Bride From Miriam Webster Online. CULT Pronunciation: \ˈkəlt\ Function: noun Usage: often attributive Etymology: French & Latin; French culte, from Latin cultus care, adoration, from colere to cultivate — more at wheel Date: 1617 1: formal religious veneration : worship 2: a system of religious beliefs and ritual; also : its body of adherents 3: a religion regarded as unorthodox or spurious; also : its body of adherents 4: a system for the cure of disease based on dogma set forth by its promulgator <health cults> 5 a: great devotion to a person, idea, object, movement, or work (as a film or book); especially : such devotion regarded as a literary or intellectual fad b: the object of such devotion c: a usually small group of people characterized by such devotion

MLM's are not inherently bad. They are not a regular job. They are your own personal business and as such require start up costs. For example, in order to start your own in home day care there are certain requirements that have to be met with Licensing and those requirements cost you money. If you are going to open an online store there are start up costs as well. If you got into debt because of an MLM it's likely because you fell into the trap of "must have everything on hand for customers" or "I really want this stuff for myself" and buying too much stuff to have in stock. You don't have to have everything in stock. You build up. It's like food storage. You don't go out and spend a thousand dollars on food storage all at once. You buy slowly to have things on hand when needed (for customers) and for yourself (to show your customers that you use and enjoy the products as well). Here are a few MLMs that are good: Pampered Chef Creative Memories Quixtar (which has a Christian base) Mary Kay I know there are a few others out there but those are the ones that came to mind. However, the last paragraph of the article needs to emphasized especially the parts I bolded. "The folks I interviewed who are making decent money at home also made decent money in the regular workplace world. They tended to have good educations, strong business skills and a history of workplace success. If you're organized, focused, a self-starter and possessed of in-demand skills, you could do OK at home. If you're not, your options are likely to be more limited." And of course PRAY about what to do to meet your family's needs.

I am so happy! I finally get to have a music calling at Church! I am now the Music Director in Relief Society. I get to pick out the songs we sing and do the music spot (aka music time). Of course, I'll be mindful of the lesson when picking out songs and all that. My mother was the RS Music Director for years while we lived in the Dry Creek Ward. I loved watching her do it, and I love music. It's a very definite part of who I am. Anyway, I just thought I'd share my joy. :)

PS this is the official trailer. The one posted was a fan made one.

I loved the books. I know many who do, even guys. However, I know two people who didn't like them. That'd be my husband, and one of my brother in laws. I do think that people worry too much about Vampires and Werewolves and such things in stories. Heck, I know some people who thought Harry Potter was evil, nevermind the whole good vs evil thing. I've even heard of people not liking Star Wars because of the Force. >.<

I met a Lutheran who said that all religions are cults. However, cult has a bad connotation like the ones that end in mass suicide. . .

Just have to mention that Institute is not just for singles. I go to Institute when I can and I'm married!

Do you have the Church handbook called Strengthening Families? It's quite good and is free to members. Ask your leaders about obtaining one.

Don't they have those at the institute library? It seems like they do but you're not allowed to check them out. *sigh*

One thing I've learned is that words don't mean a darned thing. ACTION does. Feelings/words, they are nothing unless they are backed up by action. If he feels sorry then he needs to show it by regularly talking to the Bishop, by regularly going to personal therapy and marriage counseling. He needs to be kind to you all the time, instead of focusing on the negative (which is what got him into this in the first place it seems). He needs to learn how to be a good husband AND a father because his conduct has also hurt his children. He needs to stick with it, and he needs to cut ties from all the people and places and things that will tempt him to go back to his adulterous ways. You both need to read Jacob chapter 2. It should comfort you and if your husband is at all still responsive to the Spirit he will respond in a repentent fashion.

I disagree. If the Bishop is directed by the Spirit to say to one whose house is foreclosing "Go find a two bedroom apartment, and have the married couple living with you find a job and move out" that is not scripture, but direction because it only applies to that one person's situation. Scripture applies to EVERYONE.

Sometimes I don't think I have enough faith either. But when I really need it, and I don't think I have enough, I pray for it. It works. Heavenly Father will give you the faith you need. All you have to do is ask.

Okay, so uh, dumb question then, will they hurt me when I pull the weeds?

Does she know how to recognize the Spirit? Remember, not everyone feels a "burning in the bosom" that's talked about. Some people describe it as a gentle kick to the head, a sudden new awareness, being lifted, clarity of mind, feeling warm in the soul, peace, etc. Everyone feels it differently. Has she had any spiritual experiences? Does she remember them? Often when people question they also forget the spiritual experiences they've had. Help her remember them. Fast and pray for her, and for you and your wife that you will know what, when and how to do and say to help her gain or regain a testimony.

I really don't wanna de-weed with them on the plants still. Maybe that's silly of me, but I've always been rather dubious of aphids. Yeah, lady bugs would be nice, lol, but I've only seen one lady bug around here and it wasn't in my yard! The odd thing is, the aphids are only on these weeds, no where else. So I'm concerned that if I just yank them they'll move and "go away" to harrass my neighbors roses and my little purple flowers in the yard. So, with that concern and my likely silly dubiousness on touching them (yes, there are that many) I'd rather axe them before pulling out the weeds.

Is this the one you are talking about? https://www.pleasanthillgrain.com/index.aspx#Nutrimill

So you have to grind it first? That requires a grinder right? And if that's the case it seems silly for that to be in the home storage starter kit. . . I don't have a grinder. . . How does it taste? Is it good?

I have this enclosed patio that has one strip of earth. These tall flowering weeds are growing there. I want to take those out and then start a mini garden, though most of it will be grown in containers. However, these weeds are COVERED in aphids. How do I get rid of them in an environmentally safe way?

What do you do with it? It's in the starter food storage kit that you can order from lds catalog. . . I know what to do with regular wheat, I use it all the time - more than white flour even, but the hard red stuff? No idea.

I do know that before the tax cuts we were no longer in the red. It's one of the few good things that Clinton did. I don't think it helped at all. It certainly isn't the only reason. If we do have taxes we should have it be like tithing but have it apply to the profits that businesses make as well. Everyone pays 10%. But that would make too much sense. . .

If we enter another Great Depression, because the federal government is in the red thanks to Bush's tax cuts, the government will NOT be able to help us. There will also not be a popular war to help get us of it the way WWII did. Therefore to prepare you really need to follow the council of building up your personal/family food storage.