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Merciful heavens, if that's not an incentive to start I don't know what is.

*hugs* You and yours are in my prayers.

Many are telling her to just leave him. She obviously believes there is some worth in him otherwise she never would have gotten back together with him. She was also a bit extreme and paranoid about him simply having female friends. Her paranoia did not help him. He will not become the person he wants to be if he does not get care. He very likely has problems with his temporal lobes (hence the violence and other mentioned issues) and needs MEDICAL care, and the only way to get that is to go to psychiatrist who understands that, which is why I originally talked about it in my first post in this thread and gave some reading for the OP to do, to help her better understand what's going on. amenclinics.com/bp/atlas. I am not saying have him back in the house, I'm saying get him the medical help he needs so he can at the very least be a good father and role model for his kids, and hopefully also a good husband. Even if they do not get back together, either by direction of the Spirit or personal choice, he'll still have the same problems and won't be a good father unless some sort of intervention occurs. The OP is the only person who can help him right now by asking the law to require him to be medically treated for his problems. They will likely agree. I hope and pray she listens to what I am saying and reads the material I gave her. How is she to make the right decision if there's a chance she doesn't have all the knowledge required to make that decision? If he has a problem in his brain function (and I suspect he does) he will not work right. He can not. It is an impossibility. If your brain does not work right then you will not work right. And if this is indeed the case with him it needs to be found out before any final decision is made, otherwise she could very well be making a mistake and even cheating her children out of a decent father (which is very important even if they do not stay together in the end). Yes, she absolutely does need to pray about this, and to pray for herself as well so she can be calm and filled with the spirit of discernment to guide her in all the surrounding issues that will be occurring (as I know all this affects the family dynamics and how her children behave etc). Simply divorcing him is not the answer, because it's not that simple.

"There are no throw away people." -Judith Carroll

How can she possibly be going counterclock wise!? I've been trying to get her to go counter clockwise for a while, but nada. She still spins clockwise to me. This makes no sense to me. . . *befuddled* Maybe I'll try again in the morning after some sleep.

Holly and Funky Fool are the same person?

Yes, it is creativememories.com (why oh why does it always automatically parse what it would say on the top of their webpage, even if I type it in!?) I love their stuff. They are the only scrapbooking company that has the ISO seal for meeting or exceeding photosafety standards! You can read about it in the magazine Empowering Women, Feb 2007 issue!

Funky Fool, Define yourself for who you ARE, not by who you are not. I am the third out of eight children. We all, parents included, have some anxiety and depression issues and even mild OCD (my father and one of my brothers have Asperger's Syndrome as well). All of us write, are artistic, and musical. However, we are all talented in these areas in different ways. We could all draw a picture of a butterfly on a leaf and you'd be able to tell which person drew the picture. Of the Patriarchal Blessings I was allowed to read, which was all but one I believe, they all said very similar things, even the same things, but yet, at the same time there were differences. Just like with drawing a butterfly on a leaf, they are all a butterfly on a leaf, but each picture has its own style and is unique in its own right, and so to is it with Patriarchal Blessings.

Go with him to a psychiatrist. He very possibly has a physiological problem in the functioning of his brain. Violence, impulsivity, blaming others, never happy, porn addiction, and since you got back together prior to this turn of events, I bet he feels awful for behaving badly. Has he ever had a head injury? Even a minor one? That can mess up brain functioning as well. I recommend you purchase the book "Change Your Brain Change Your Life" by Dr. Daniel G. Amen. At the very least read these stub chapters. They are short and highly informative. You may find something there that can help your husband be the person he wants to be. Brain SPECT Scans, Brain Images, ADD, ADHD, OCD, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Autism, Anxiety

From a site I think you may enjoy reading Holly: Mormon Truth and Book of Mormon Evidences: Not Proof, But Indications of Plausibility " Yes, punctuation was a problem in the original manuscript because it was dictated (translated) without punctuation. Punctuation had to be added and then further corrected. That sounds crazy for anyone composing an English document--but ancient Hebrew and other Semitic languages were written without punctuation, and a relatively direct translation would likewise not have punctuation in it."

If it really bothers you, then talk to your Bishop, after that let it trouble you no more. I remember reading in the Miracle of Forgiveness about a gal who came into the Bishop told him her troubles in tears and then begged him not to take a way her temple recommend because it was the only place she could feel the Spirit.

Yes, that was changed because some people took that to mean that only people with white skin are the chosen people of God. . . I met someone who actually believed that, and I was like noooooooo, they mean white as in pure. (Yay for language changes as time passes.) The more you have the Light of Christ in you the more bright you become. We perceive the light of the sun as white. So when the Light of Christ emanates from you it doesn't matter what color skin you have, you are bright and beautiful and delightsome and "white", pure. And people see that. They will notice the difference.

PRAY. Pray about what you can do for your husband. Pray to be calm of heart, and clear of mind. Pray for the Spirit to be with you. Pray for the spirit of discernment so you'll know what to do for your family. Pray for happiness, and for strength, for faith. Pray about what to say, when to say, how to say, and when to hold your tongue. Pray for what it is you can change in yourself so you can be more devoted to your husband. Pray about finding all the positive things in your life and marriage. My husband is not a member either, and my Patriarchal Blessing also talks about having a Temple marriage. He is a wonderful man and true to his word. He has helped me immensely in my life and has been a great blessing to me. Our daughter and I go to church on Sunday, we participate in other church activities, but never at the expense of spending time with Daddy. I have discovered that my husband needs to see me happy in the church. If I'm just sad all the time because he's not a member then he'll become angry with the church and that's the last thing I want.

There's also shutterfly.com. And the people I use, creative memories. I use their storybook creator (the free one right now, but plan on nabbing the non free one soon). It's an excellent program.

Are you serious!? YA room 17 to 32!? That's insanity! UGH.

First, before getting married it was pressure, some of which was from the outside and someone of it was internal. Second, after my husband and I separated and before we reconciled I missed the companionship. Now I feel some pressure to have *another* child, when right now, is not a good idea. My husband and I just moved back in together two months ago! Oy! Cedar, that sucks. Especially that last one. Regarding the cuddling, I take it it was bothersome because you were only on a friendly date, not going steady? Also, some people just like to cuddle. Those same girls probably cuddle with their female friends! I've known people like that. Once I figured that out it was kind of endearing.

Out of those options I picked Mat. Though it was tough. I really like Logain! He is AWESOME. And Damer and Loial, Tuon, and Brigitte, and Aviendha, and Min, what about Egeanin and Elayne, and Suian Sanche, and and and, gyah, too many cool characters!

That would be Faile, and for them, it's a cultural clash. She WANTS him to yell at her. . . but he was raised to believe that was not showing love and respect. And about the Memory of Light, the last and final book: Sanderson to Complete Final Novel in Jordan Fantasy Series By Lynn Andriani -- Publishers Weekly, 12/10/2007 7:13:00 AM Tor Books announced today that novelist Brandon Sanderson has been chosen to finish writing the final novel in Robert Jordan’s bestselling Wheel of Time fantasy series. Jordan—described by some as Tolkien’s heir—died Sept. 16 from a rare blood disease. The new novel, A Memory of Light, will be the 12th and final book in the fantasy series which has sold more than 14 million copies in North America and more than 30 million copies worldwide. The last four books in the series were all #1 New York Times bestsellers. Harriet Popham Rigney, Jordan’s widow and editor, chose Sanderson to complete A Memory of Light—which Jordan worked on almost daily for the last few months of his life—and will edit it. Rigney said some scenes from the bookwere completed by Jordan before his death, and some exist in draft form. “He left copious notes and hours of audio recordings,” she said. He also revealed details about the end of the series to close members of his family. Sanderson, who acknowledged Jordan as an inspiration to him as a writer, has established a loyal fan base as the author of three fantasy novels: Elantris, Mistborn and The Well of Ascension (Tor), as well as a YA novel, Alcatraz Versus the Evil Librarians (Scholastic Press). Sanderson said, “I'm both extremely excited and daunted by this opportunity. There is only one man who could have done this book the way it deserved to be written, and we lost him in September. However, I promise to do my very best to remain true to Mr. Jordan's vision and produce the book we have all been waiting to read.” A Memory of Light is scheduled for publication in fall 2009. Sanderson to*Complete Final Novel in Jordan Fantasy Series * - 12/10/2007 7:13:00 AM - Publishers Weekly And yes, Sanderson IS Mormon. Brandon Sanderson - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

I used a sling, and loved it. In fact, I remember one couple out grocery shopping, and the gal was pushing the cart, while the husband was carrying the baby. My husband and I were donig the same thing only the difference was my husband had the sling. You should have seen that dude's face! He turned to his wife and said, "we need to get one of those." I remember being a bit annoyed when my in laws bought me a baby swing. Well, it turned out to be a blessing. I would put my daughter in it while I was doing stuff in the kitchen and she wanted to be near me. She was happy, I was happy. She also goes with me everywhere as well. She even went to an indoor shooting range with us! She's a bit young to go to the outdoor one since she has to leave those ear muffs on. She is with me but independent too. She knows how to carry a knife, how to use scissors appropriately, and all sorts of stuff. When she was in preschool I got a lot of comments about how much ahead she was compared to everyone else with her fine motor skills and with her letters and numbers. She was an only child, I had her go to preschool so I could go to school and so she could get some social interaction with other children. I was very grateful for the Spirit in guiding me to find that school. It was great. About cosleeping, you had better make the decision, yay or nay, BEFORE you have a child. It MUST be consistent, one way or the other otherwise you cause undue confusion and frustration (for both you and the child).

There are people who believe that we have horns and such a belief, though such a belief was more prevelant in the twentieth century. Rather bizarre really. Oh, others I've heard. . . We're hypocrites, we follow the Devil, we're evil people, we're going to hell if we don't change. . . I heard all of that at a Baptist church when I was ten years old. I went with a friend and was very hurt by it. I was glad that my mother warned me that they might teach some things that were not true, though I don't think she expected that either.

I have also heard the following untrue things about us: 1: We're not allowed to have fun. 2: We sacrifice our children. 3: We're not supposed to enjoy sex with our spouse. 4: We do not believe in birth control. 5: We copied the Masons in our temple ceremonies. 6: We worship a false Jesus. 7: We don't celebrate holidays (being confused with Jehovas' Witnesses) 8: We have seances inside Temples. 9: We're a cult. 10: We're a "white" church.

That is onion worthy.

I believe that we live in a universe of transitions. So, there is not end, merely transitions, and that seems pretty cool to me. Therefore, the answer for me is yes and no. No because of the above, yes because I'm afraid of failing, of being alone, of not being good enough. So afraid in fact that I have to detach myself from all emotions to simply type that otherwise I'd have a panic attack. This is harder to do than you think. I must always remember that fear is the opposite of faith, that such fear does not come from Heavenly Father but from the adversary.

People tell me I'm crazy when I say that Christians are being discriminated against. Maybe that's because major news companies don't cover things like this. . . Christian references in art project earn student a 'zero' Jeff Johnson - OneNewsNow - 4/2/2008 12:00:00 PM School officials in Tomah, Wisconsin, are facing a lawsuit after a high school teacher there failed a student's art project because it included a cross and a reference to John 3:16. The school district argues that the student voluntarily waived his First Amendment religious freedoms when he entered the classroom. A Wisconsin high school senior is suing his school after receiving a zero on an art project that contained Christian references and being told that he had forfeited his First Amendment rights in the classroom. The Tomah High School student included a cross and the words "John 3:16, a sign of love" in his art project. The teacher told him to remove the scripture reference or cover it up with a border. David Cortman, senior legal counsel with the Alliance Defense Fund (ADF), says the student refused. "The teacher gave him a zero for the assignment -- and for the reason, she showed him a policy that every student has to sign," says Cortman. "Now, get this: It says, 'No blood. No violence. No sex' and 'No religion.' And [she] cited that policy as 'waiving' his First Amendment rights" when he came into the class." The student, Cortman says, was not intimidated by the teacher's apparent anti-religious bias. "This is a student with a, top of his class, 3.5, 3.6 GPA -- [he] tore it in half and said, 'This is an illegal policy,' and handed it back to them." As the ADF attorney explains, the content discrimination by the teacher is an obvious violation of the free exercise clause of the First Amendment -- and, in fact, favors one religion over another. "What makes the case more egregious -- and it shows where our public schools are heading -- the same teacher allowed pictures of these demonic, evil-looking beings as part of these assignments, but yet wouldn't allow a small cross and a scripture verse," says Cortman. "So if you look at the dichotomy between what the school is saying is permissible and what they are saying they should be able to censor, I think it's definitely a sad day for public schools." The pro-family attorney says the legal wrong is compounded by the immoral message the school is sending. "What's most offensive about this case and most egregious in the actions by the school district is the fact that their policy lumps blood, violence, sex, and religion as if those four things are equal," he states. The student is requesting an injunction declaring the "no religion" policy unconstitutional. Link to article: Christian references in art project earn student a 'zero' (OneNewsNow.com)

Okay, great, so name him after your husband's GRAN, not after the job Gran did. Ditch Angus. It would be unkind of you to give him that name. Keep Nephi if you want, but I'd use it as a middle name, especially because you have concerns about it. Also, do not pressure your husband on what to name the baby. Husbands can be very thoughtful and come up with fabulous names. My husband came up with Hazel for our daughter, and it's a great name. It grew on my though, and the more I thought about it the more right it felt. I mention that so that you don't reject his thoughts off hand. Ziva is pretty cool, but it rhymes with Diva. I can see children calling her Ziva Diva. Names have power. If you are having difficulties naming your child, ask Heavenly Father. He'll help you find a good name.