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also, for you teens out there... PLEASE read the book " I'm Not perfect, Can I go to the Celestial Kingdom" It defines words' and makes you understand the gospel and have hope.

.... If you are hurting, struggling in any way get the book " Forgiving ourselves" and "He did deliver me from bondage"

Wait, I didn't read the whole post before I posted, if he is in ANY Way shape or Form ABusive, THEN LEAVE NOW. I just thought you were regretting the choice of marrying him because you were reading into your blessing. That's totally different.

Don't read things into your blessings. You never know if he will one day accept the gospel in this life OR the next. Don't keep saying you gave up your dreams, you just made other plans. Find something that makes you happy, go visit a nursing home, kids with cancer, or do service for people around you that need help, this will make you happy. You CHOSE to marry him, stop feeling bad about that decision. It's been made. God still loves you and has a plan for you. Stop loathing on the "what if" and focus on the "What is." only person you can change is yourself, don't ruin what you have, and don't give up. Make him the happiest guy alive because you are his wife. Don't think about leaving to fulfill the dreams of your youth, find how to fulfill the dreams of now.

Get the Book ' Forgiving ourselves" it sounds like you have a lot of guilt. If your issues is related to addiction, ther eis a 12 step program for both you and your husband I highly suggest

Great advice, other then that just keep praying. My uncle did everything growing up, drugs, swinging, EVERYTHING. Just last year hiswife and he were sealed in the temple after 25 years of trying to find happiness. At 50 they finally found it. It's not to say they don't still have temptations, but at least now they can work it out beforehand. Good luck to you. You could even look into rehab if you want to go that route... it will get ugly before it gets better.

Be the first to be friendly, they don't know your shy. Try to get out of your comfort zone and compliment them. I waited until someone was nice to me, it never happens. Take the first move and you will see the love and friendships that come about. Meet one new person each sunday. During the week take them cookies or babysit or some type of service. Then ask them to come play games or whatever you do thats fun! good luck

THank you!! You are right on the dot. I felt like through listening to another man tell me I was beautiful I believed it. Where as when my husband told me, his actions spoke louder than words. I know thats the wrong way to view his old habits, but something deep inside of me still believes that I am not good enough for him even when he tells me otherwise. I would love the name~ I am not a lesbian so do you think she would help me with my issue? I don't know how to PM on this thing...

Also, your marriage may have been in shambles, but now with another married man, think of his wife and family. I wish I had. If you are going to make your marriage work, you both need to be living under one roof.

The church puts out a wonderful 12 step support group. I loved it. Also read ' He did deliver me from bondage' And more importantly " Forgiving ourselves" The best book and to what you are explaining that book will help you so much. It has me

Have your standards set so when temptation arises you already know what you are going to do. YOU Chose free agency, god isn't a genie and he isn't going to give us all we wish for, he also isn't Zeus and going to throw a lightning Rod at you for sinning. Good people die in bad ways, because who knows that's just how it happens. Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people and visa versa. The real terror is the harm you do to yourself and your savior and all around. Trust me I have created so much harm lately that it's hard to get out of my mess. All I can think of are the words to the song " KEep my commandments in this there is SAFTEY and PEACE." I never thought of the saftey, but after my issues man oh man there is saftey in keeping them. Take care, and help is there if you need it, but most of all YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

How long have you been married? I Would seek counsling, and if you want your marraige to work you have to tell him and work it out together. Go get the help from your bishop. Trust me I know where you coming from. Go read " Forgiving ourselves" and the only way out of this is through God.

My husband and I went through the LDS 12 step program when he was addicted to porn. It helped us both because we BOTH could be in the same circle. I can only find this in one city, everywhere else in utah, girls go to the support group and men go to recovery. I needed to hear his heart struggle and he needed to hear my pain. I went to one where women went in the other room, it was to vague and mor elike a RS lesson. They need to be as blunt as Elder. Holland's talk was this past conference. Five years later I have had problem with online chat with a person and had my temple recommend taken away. I have never done anything like this in my life and while I do have my recommend back, I feel hopless. I can't find a 12 step program wher they all meet together and I don't want to go into a room of wounded women trying to get over exactly what I have done but from their husbands. Am I the only woman out there that's had a problem, cause I sure feel like it, hopless, frustrated, and can't find the help I need. Advice is welcome.

Go to the bishop, and in the meantime it's free and the only way its really going to help you stop a releapse is going to the free porn 12 step program the lds church puts out. If you go to family services on lds.org you will find addiction/recovery programs. Click on it and find one in your area. I know its embarrising at first, but its SO Worth it. Also read the book " HE did deliver me from bondage" its the 12 step program book and " Forgiving ourselves" IT is a powerful wonderful book. You're a good guy. We all have weakness's and this too shall pass. Hang in there.

Go in and get the help you need. Otherwise it will eat you alive. The bishop (regardless of which one) will be more proud of you for wanting to be clean than hiding it.

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ouch please LOL.. finanain if thats the case go to lds .org they have addiction classes for it, do you fantaisies a lot ? or are you seriously just wondering?

Finanian, what clinton did was HIS SIN, mabey there was turmoil in the marraige and therefore it was both their mistake to not work it out but he is the one to do the deed, no matter what hillary did he is the only person to put the blame on as wel as monica.. we dont get the blame for adam's sin nether should she, second all as well as sex is importnat we do need to learn to control appiotiets if it is out of control like lds says, second.. you knew what i was when you picked me up, remember you know what the snake does so why even mess with it? ask bill that one.

your stepping into fire on this question, From personal experience and i dont want this to make my husband sound like a jerk, but when i gave birth to my first kid my mother in law came over and told me some advice and i was shocked it was to always give sex and youll always be happy, i got all upset and thought whatever! guys just want some and they can handle their emotions.. well ppl I came to think her advice is sorta right, REAd the five love langauges and it makes it easier to understand everyones love langauge and how to met it, now im not saying do it cause he wants it cause sometimes that can be just wanting sex and not love making, when his needs werent being met which i thought they were and i was preg with our sec at the time he went elsewhere... the computer yeah that sounds funny but it really wasnt i remember being in labor and him wanting sex and i still gave it to him so he could see what a jerk he was being.. dumb dumb dumb of me to do when in labor... but anyways our sex life is better now becasue we read thatr book and talked about our needs, i started doing pole dance excersizes and carmen electra;s strip to fit videos for exercise and it boosts our sex life.. yeah if you knew me personally i wouldn't ever tell you any of that.. but you gotta be careful and make each other happy and when you do that it makes you want it more as well.. and btw we were doin it like 3-5 times a week when i "wasnt meeting his love langauge" and was nine months pregno.. so you both have to understand and both grow up and get in tune with each other,. no the man shouldnt have the say all the time when he wants it and neither should the women withold it becasue of selfish reasons. it all boils down to selfishness even if you dont know.. so communicate

NOWED4 me sounds like you can't learn when you already have a negative oppionion and aren't willing to open your mind and heart and soul and listen to this neice and see what she thinks is important, the worst you can do is make her chose what to do on HER day. if you humble yiourself a little bit then mabey you can UNDERSTAND what means so much to her.. dont take it personally.

i belive the viel to be thin when children are little,.. my kids have done the same.

ok thanks snow your funy, I did click on his blog instead.. hmmm. Jason is a nice guy but Marueen if you read what he had to say its only obvious.

LOL Strawberry haha, no dis your right in a way but then people here who chose that way now is what she meant i belive.

I think lds church people sometimes think that if someone uses b.c they aren't using faith, which like ive said before i belive is wrong, we all have free agency and we meaning husband and wife should go to the lord in everything but not just say if its meant to be then he will give us one, i think we need to practice self control as well, otherwise druggies and stuff wouldn't be pregnnat would they if it was the lord giving it to them, we have the agency, I belive that b.c is ok, but like some of you have said it has effects on different people and I think you should def. check out EVERything on how it works and make sure it isn't killing a FERTILIZED egg but is making it so the sperm doesnt get the egg, and amaking sure it is suitiable for your body and life, but i think if we use b,. c to put off kids whatsoever becasue of selfish reasons then we are abusing the b.c and the lord will not be happy with that. I think that it is up to the Husband wife and lord, but do your research first and dont judge others if they decide not to use any, and visa versa.. you never know what their logical reasioning is, hopefully it isnt for selfish reasons..