Nikkie85

How do you think he got me to talk to him! LOL no it is something my MIL always says

I have heard this many times but I do not know if it is true or not. In my ward we have lots of sisters who are either single, married to a non member, or their husbands are inactive. I can't think of one Brother who comes alone even though he is married. As far as the women not having the Priesthood and being bitter commit always makes me laugh. I hold the Priesthood every night...my hubby!

I think it is best to lay it all out on the table before marriage. I found out something about my spouse ten days before we got married and it almost ended our engagement. Even after we were married I was hurt by the lie and felt that he needed to make it up to me. I was more hurt by the lie than the action. He was embarrassed to tell me and thought that I would judge him when in reality I would of accepted it and moved on.

My husband was recently called as EQ President and one of the first things the Stake President said to him was: "Family comes first" I think if you feel that your wives calling is taking to much of her time then say something to her about it and see how she feels. Since you said the organization just changed maybe this is just an adjustment time.

As a pretty recent convert I was told not to watch R rated movies. I don't live my life like an R rated (or some PG13 movies) so I simply don't watch them. Before I started preparing for baptism I realized how much I was cursing. Growing up my mom let us cuss so I never thought about how much I might actually do it. I really wanted to stop cussing before I got baptized and when I stopped listening to certain music and watching certain things it became a lot easier. Now when I hear someone curse it almost shocks me because I am so use not hearing it. This might be extreme but I tell my Mia Maids would you do the certain behavior in question if the Savior was beside you? I try to apply this when watching television and listening to music.

Remember you are a child of God and that he loves you. Have you ever considered going to a actual rehab facility? The 12 step programs are great but you might need a 90 day program. Prayer can be hard in a time of trial but your father in heaven is waiting to bless you.

He was your own personal missionary! I say this about my husband because we meet when he should of been on mission but was inactive.

My husband did not serve a mission and I agree he is a wonderful man and priesthood holder. My main point is that I want my children to strive for goals. I want them to set a goal when they are eight to serve a faithful mission and marry in the temple.

Of course I think that nonmembers share my values and morals. I have only been a member for three years and I am the only member in my family. I am surrounded by nonmembers who are good honest people. No I do not believe that you have to be LDS to be a good person. I will expect my children to get good grades, I will expect my children to do as they are told, and I will expect my children to respect others. I think if you set goals for your children then they will strive to achieve them. If my child decided not to serve a mission or marry outside of the temple I would still love them and would respect their decisions. I would support them no matter what and would always want the best for them. Since I want the very best for my children I want them to have a temple marriage. I want them to uphold the covenants they make in the temple and serve the Lord.

When I was a new convert I was encouraged to go the temple to do baptisms. I think they like to let the youth do baptisms because is gives them a sense of what the temple is all about.

Thank you for clearing that up for me!

Not only are the YW taught this but this is also taught in primary. They sing songs about going on missions and marrying in the temple. I agree that being a RM does not mean you will turn out to be a outstanding priesthood holder. I was not a member when my husband married me and he was extremely blessed that I joined that church and that we were able to be sealed to one another. I never knew the blessing of the church or the temple until I experienced them. I would be greatly saddened if my children did not marry in the temple only because I want them to have the blessings that comes along with it. Dating nonmembers is frowned upon because it comes with the risk or falling in love which might lead to marriage. This might turn out perfect and the spouse might convert but what if they dont? I would want my daughters to have the blessing of being able to have the priesthood in her home. I would want my sons to be married to a woman who shares his values and morals. It is possible that my children could marry members and they could go inactive, get divorces, etc, etc. Sure but I think the odds are lower. I plan on teaching my future children that they are expected to go on missions and they are expected to marry in the temple.

My husband who was inactive during the time he was suppose to go on a mission was a little discriminated against when it came to girls his age. I honestly can't blame them. I would want my daughter to marry someone who has served a mission. I teach the Mia Maids and we teach them they should date someone who is H-umble O-bedient (basically served a mission) T-emple Worthy I don't think that one should be punished for not serving a mission but my husband regrets not going. He has come a far way in the church and now serves as the Elders Quorum President. When he was called as the Ward Mission Leader the Bishop told him this was his way of making up for not going on a mission. I plan on strongly encouraging my boys and maybe my daughters to serve on a mission. As they grow up I want it to be something that they and we save for and prepare for.

Okay after we said our I do's the bishop said would you like to exchange rings which we did. There was no with this ring I thee wed or any of that typical stuff said. Here is how is basically went Bishop talked about the most successful men are only successful if they have a successful marriage or something like that... He said do you take this man to be your husband till death do you part I said "I do" He looked to my husband and said do you take this woman to be your wife till death do you part he said "I do" Next he said I think the couple has rings for each other which we then we gave each other our rings without really saying anything. He put the ring on my finger and I put his on his hand. Then I think he said something about our marriage only being for time and not eternity. Then the bishop said you can kiss your bride and announced us Mr. and Mrs. What I always considered a ring ceremony was the whole with this ring I thee wed blah blah. I don't really consider my wedding a ring ceremony because we just exchanged rings. I can see how this would be confusing if you have always been a member because I have seen were an LDS couple will have what they call a ring ceremony (mainly because someone like grandma isnt a member or doesnt have a recommended and wants to view the "wedding")where they exchange rings but say the whole "with this ring I thee wed blah blah" Okay this is super confusing! I am actually confusing myself!

very cute! Missing the leg gives her character!

My husband was inactive when we married and I was not a member yet. The Bishop married us and it was very simple and short. Everyone who was not a member commented on how short it was. There were vows but they were the traditional ones. There was not a ring ceremony however it was more like we traded rings to show our commitment. We were married in the temple the following year and it was amazing! I am sure the Bishop who is marrying them will be able to answer all your questions.

In my home we have LDS art and decor everywhere! There is a huge picture of the Washington DC temple in my living room, a sign with our last name and that says families are forever, two pics of the whole family at the temple, a picture of Christ, and a tile that I made with a quote from the proclamation. I am the only member on my side of the family and I think that my family thinks its kinda strange my house is so decked out in mormon decor. I have had people tell me that the temple is a beautiful castle! I love being surrounded by things that remind me of the covenants that I have made and the important role the church plays in my life. When I first bought the picture of the temple I was kinda nervous about what my family was going to say about it. When it really comes down to it though I think the religious art helps keep the spirit in our home. It is kinda hard to watch a R rated movie or anything inappropriate when the temple is staring down at you! The families are forever sign is a constant reminder on how I should treat my husband. If it makes your wife uncomfortable than you should wait until she is okay with you hanging it up. I would be a little disappointed in my hubby though if he was embarrassed to hang something up that he might think will offended someone. I also honestly doubt that the gay friend doesn't already know that how the LDS church feels about homosexuality. Or that he is going to stand there and read the whole proclamation. As far as picking your battles I do agree that this might be something that you should just let blow over. I don't think your wife is trying to hide what she believes but is more concerned about making someone comfortable in her home.

I don't know how I would honestly feel if my husband was commanded to take on a second wife. I love him so much and think that I would be devastated to see him cuddle and talk to someone the same way he does me. This is kinda off subject but I think it is funny that the same people who typically support gay marriage are outraged by polygamy! Homosexuality is pretty much socially acceptable but mention someone having two wives and the claws come out.

I am a convert to the church and before I joined I had no idea we even had a Mormon church in my city. I knew my hubby was a member before we started dating and on our first date I asked asked him some questions only to find out that I had mormons confused with a mix of Amish and Church of God! My hubby was inactive at the time we started dating but as we got closer to getting engaged and married he expressed his desire to return to church. My family is not happy about my decision to become a member of the church and neither were my friends. I changed my whole lifestyle which made me a better person but my friends (who were all about 21 same age as I was when I got baptized) refused to see it. I know that if I lived in Utah or Idaho I would have more friends and probably would not feel so lonely and exiled. But I also know that I have the awesome opportunity to share my beliefs with someone who has no idea what the church is or what it stands for pretty much every day!

I am glad everything is working out!

1. What is your favorite color? Green 2. Where were you born? North Carolina 3. Did you serve a mission and if so where? Converted when I was 21 but plan on serving one day with my hubby 4. Married or single? Married 5. What is your favorite food? Fried okra 6. What is your favorite movie? Terms of Endearment 7. Who is your favorite band? Counting Crows 8. Do you have children? Not yet but can't wait! 9. Who is your favorite author? Wally Lamb 10. What is your hobby? Reading and playing with my animals 11. What is your idea of the perfect vacation? I would love to spend a week at home with the hubby just watching TV and hanging out. 12. What is your favorite city? Asheville, NC 13. What is your favorite sports team? So not into sports! 14. What kind of car do you drive? 2002 Nissan Maxima 15. What was the first car you owned? 1989 Ford Escort Pony 16. What calling do you hold in church? Mia Maids adviser which I love! 17. If you could travel anywhere in the world that you have not been to before, where would it be? I would love to go to Salt Lake and see the temple. 18. What is your favorite tv show? Supernatural 19. What is your current favorite restaurant? Brio 20. What event in your life gave you the biggest rush? Seeing the Washington DC temple for the first time in real life instead of pictures. I am still amazed at how big it is! It was awesome to have all of my hubbies family there (I am the only member in my family)and be able to share the experience with them.

When are currently crate training our puppy now and LOVE it! When we first started putting her in her crate she hated it but has gotten to the point now that you simply tell her "go to your crate" and she runs right into it. We were told by our dog trainer that going in the crate should always be a positive experience. We give her treats for going in there and lots of praise. The crate is in a spare bedroom where she can still hear us but not see us. We have had her a little over a month and she has only had two potty accidents. We take her outside all the time and say go potty and she will go. She has begun to scratch at the door when she wants out. By the way a kong with peanut butter put in the freezer over night works wonders! My puppy loves this treat and is always will to go in the crate when she sees it.

umm...this sounds kinda scary!

I live in NC and most of the Elders that serve missions here come from Utah or Idaho. They always seem in shell shock and confused at first. Most new families that move from out west hate it here and want to move back. They say the south is totally different than out west. I would love to live in Salt Lake where I would be "surrounded" by people my age with beliefs and morals but hubby wont have it! Pretty much every single young couple that gets married in our ward moves out west either for school or for the culture.

My hubby is the EQP and he has to be clean shaven and wear a white shirt and tie every time he goes to church or is conducting church business. On Sundays he wears his suit with a white shirt and tie. This is at the request of our bishop. Hubby only has one suit but he religiously wears it every Sunday. I have only been a member for three years and the first time I went to Church my husband said that I HAD to wear a skirt. Honestly I thought it was kinda of sexist but now I could care less. I wear a skirt or dress every Sunday with out question. I have always been told you should wear your Sundays best...for some that is a Chanel skirt and for others it is a worn in pair of jeans. Most of our investigators come in jeans or dress pants and they are still given a warm welcome. I think dressing up is a sign of respect and reverence. Taking the sacarement is one of the most important things I do during the week. I dress up for work and dinner with the hubby so why would I not have the same respect for my savior? I am the Mia Maids adviser and I wish so badly that my girls would be more modest. I amazes me how their parents let them leave the house!