Backroads

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  1. I've yet to meet anyone in real life or even on most of the internet who is truly against the two-parent home and a stable family. I think where the generalized left wing is struggling here is trying to defend the situations without two-parents. Some years ago I read an article about a study where they were trying to prove that single mothers are raising boys than married mothers are. Apparently some journalist dared to ask the person over the study about her happy stable marriage to her children's father and it didn't go over very well. I think people want the single parent to be "just as good". And I know some excellent single parents who give it their all and do a fine job. I just don't think that cry needs to be louder than "two-parent families are a good norm and goal".
  2. This isn't a person I really pay much attention to (still haven't seen that one movie). I think the media will do what the media will do. Without more evidence, I'm content to remain a neutral party. That all being said... no one, church members included, are perfect, and not all Latter-Day Saints are, well, saints. I guess I'm not making assumptions yet, but with all the stuff that happens in the world, I won't put him above such behavior.
  3. I respect this. I'm actually something of the opposite. I've come to realize I'm a hermit, and working from home these past few years hasn't helped that. And heck if I don't like it that way. So, for some reason, I tend to be more social with church. I hate the idea of calling church a social club, but it's a nice way for me to be social and connect with people. I'm actually the one chatting it up.
  4. I liked the three hours just fine and think the system had true benefits and perks. But I think there is some real thought and purpose behind the move to two hours. I do think it puts so much back on the family, and that is a sacred responsibility. I think we will be possibly seeing even more movement to the responsibility of the individual in the gospel, a call to get the oil for our lamps, if you will. As for the hours themselves, I feel they are more concise with less fluff.
  5. I'm pretty sure my company (the parent company, at least) is pretty woke. And yet... charter schools tend to be more beloved of the conservative crowd, and the parent company doesn't have schools in all states yet due to powerful teacher's unions and my AP is quite liberal so... I don't know?
  6. I'm a millennial. When I was in jr. high my parents talked about not dating other races because "we just don't!". Within in a few years they couldn't care less.
  7. My parents were on a cruise with her last month. Said she's delightful.
  8. I see what you're saying. I think that many people want a counselor that has some understanding of their faith. I agree with JaG that it's likely rare to have that as the only qualification. But I see the appeal. When I talked to a counselor I profiled for one that did include faith (general Christianity)
  9. I think there were a few consequences of that where he had to basically say he was a trouble-maker millennial and to be careful with such thins.
  10. Here's actually a particularly cool one he got kind of famous for (not the video series, just a news bit)
  11. My brother's side gig is messing with scammers and posting about them on YouTube. Family and friends are always calling him to ask if something is suspect.
  12. I really do see some therapies as scams, and I'm one that leans to the side of therapy, when well-researched, being a good thing. I don't know if we are the scam capital of the world still, but Utah still falls for scams, and I think that is definitely what happened with this whole Connexions things. On the note of stigma, I saw a joke once comparing generations. One was Back in the day: What if someone finds out I had to see a therapist vs Today: Guess what my therapist told me!
  13. The only time I thought "not my thing" was too extreme was a person who insisted he would rather get a divorce than go to a sex therapist. I get that's very different field of counseling, but I have also been aware of it saving marriages.
  14. I think, these days, practically anyone can get some certificate or another to make it appear they are a counselor or therapist. @Vort is right this is a very muddied science these days, and add in "I can give you my thoughts and advice" from any Rando. I've also met people who simply don't believe in it, that their private business is theirs alone to figure out. Edit: I'd also add that therapy is weirdly popular these days. On one hand, I think seeking help from a good therapist is great for many people. But I also get suspicious when things are too popular. On a personal and petty note, I have weird mock prejudice against the people of Salt Lake and Utah counties. That these two were operating out of that area where all sorts of weirdos are seeking special treatment for their weird issues (I am so sorry but this is the impression I have!) makes me think of, well, weird people and weird therapists.
  15. Did this as well a few times until I told the Primary Presidency my assigned partner was clearly unable to participate (My assigned partner at that time was and is a lovely woman, but she had a whole host of issues due to taking care of her daughter-in-law and grandchild on weekends and just didn't have the bandwidth to find subs).
  16. When I wax on about weird parents at my school, my husband is often surprised to hear about the ones that seem to definitely be more on the freedom fighter side. I think we get more of them as we're an online charter, but they're their own brand of crazy.
  17. I confess it's been a long time since high school but here's what I remember for me: AP classes: Free college credit if I actually feel I'm clever enough to pass those tests. I did take two tests and I appreciated the credit edge they gave me, and I thoroughly enjoyed the classes for their own sake (AP Environmental Science is one of my fondest high school memories, and two of the kids at our table wound up getting married). But a proper college class they were not. Honors: I took the English honors course because everyone said it was more classroom discussion and less busywork. This was true. It was basically one big book club, just using classic-ish world novels instead of whatever Reese Weatherspoon just read. But I think AP and Honors exist more for their name than anything substantial they can produce. A lot of smoke and mirrors.
  18. I respect the liberal arts in and of themselves, but if we're going to teach them... I feel that's is what high school is for? (And even then I've already said "let's only make 8th grade mandatory!") It seems silly to have in college unless that is, in fact, what you want to study for your major.
  19. This idea of multiple genders kills me. It's like... how intense into the labyrinth of culture can you get? My mom buys piano books off this music guy (it's a legitimate business and I don't mean to make it sound like a black market for music teachers). Great guy, but his business is running a music store and he's very nice, friendly, dresses exceedingly well, compliments outfits... and his dear wife of many years is a mechanic. We joke about this guy, but it's probably nothing more than a guy who likes good clothes and music and a woman who is really good at working on cars. I'm sure we can find all sorts of examples of people who are bending societal gender norms and I really have no problem with that until it becomes "so they must be transgender or some other gender entirely" in some crazy meaning to define their unique existence and perspectives.
  20. I did, but it's been awhile, and I'm trying to recall what you might be referencing? The joke about the lack of genitals? (I honestly quite enjoyed the movie while and right after I watched it, but then I realized it was one that wasn't sticking in my brain).
  21. I remember the amount of useless stuff I had to pack into my mere Bachelor's just to get credits to graduate (I suppose, not useless: I look a car care class). With how expensive higher education is, I think many a school is going to find it harder to justify work hours to just pay their employees. I think this might ultimately work out for everyone. I've often thought dropping credit need in the high school would be a good move (and yes, I know locality depending you can already get away with fewer credits). Make 8th grade mandatory and keep the rest of high school available for those who want an academic or trade track with no guilt if they try something else somewhere else.
  22. I saw a headline saying he was trying to keep the kids together. Dude, where were you?
  23. Stuff like this is why I won't go near the lds freedom forum.
  24. I'm trying to figure out where the husband is in all this.
  25. I suppose I was wondering how far things can go before you have that dramatic twist and tie up your children. I've been following the Daybell murder case and it kind of seems that, once, those people were decent people as far as anyone could tell. But I may be cynical enough to say one was probably never that good of a person if they were able to fall to such extremes from where they allegedly were. On a less famous note, I have a cousin who had a trouble childhood. My aunt was very good in the gospel. She's passed away, and I like to hope the mental illnesses that ruined her kids' lives have been healed. Anyway, the one cousin was into all sorts of trouble and eventually was put in foster care with an "upstanding family of the church". Abuse apparently ran rampant there, the bishop wouldn't believe anything because he was friends with the family, and my cousin wound up running away from there, never to be seen again until we had the brilliant idea of Facebook search her (this was back in the day). Yes, I think I agree with you. The church (and I'll say that for any church or good group) can be a shockingly great way to hide not just your issues but actual crimes.