missmollymormon

Hmmm.... I dont like these tablet touch keyboards.... I promise you all, I can spell and use grammar...

So, there is a nice gentleman that I have found myself being *slightly* interested in. I know he is interested in me too. I had a llovely time with him last month. He is exactly what I would be looking for in a partner. Im not in love with hi, but I know given time that would come easily. The p r oblem? He lives in america, while I am over here in australia.. has anyone had experiences with long distance dating? How did it go?

The whole ms. Vs mrs. Thing only confirms to me what I have felt my whole life- I was born in the wrong era... I am not married, but should I ever be, I would insist on carrying my husbands name and being referred to as MRs. I feel like "ms" is denying your husband... if I love someone enough to marry them, should I not be honored enough to carry their name? Thats just me, though. I am old fashioned...I dont particularly care what others choose to be addressed as... however, when a lady insists on "ms", I do tend to make the feminist assumption... not that I care, its just not for me.

Well, I certainly dont think you are crazy, those feelings are what courtship is all about. The long run, however can be something else entirely- thats not necessarily a bad thing. There is so much to consider before marriage that love clouded eyes sometimes cannot see. Have you met his whole family? Do you get along with them very well? People tend to forget that when they marry they not only gain a partner, but they are marrying into a family as well. How does he react in stressful situations? Are you both on the same page with life ambitions? Are you spiritually compatible? There is a lot to consider. Having said that though, knowing that someone is "the one" after only one month isnt crazy, its actually fairly common. I know of a couple that git engaged on their first date and here theg are years later with 5 kids and they are still as in love as ever. No, I dont think you are crazy. Just stay close to the lord and hear that still small voice. I wish you all the best :)

Hello sisters... I am a newly endowed member of the church. I love my garments, to me they feel like a hug from heaven. I just have one small problem I hope you may be able to belp me with.... ladies time of the month! I suffer from pcos, so the first two days are usually quite heavy for me, and I find that no matter what I do I am always making a mess of my garment bottoms... I dont want to be continually replacing them, so for the past two rounds I have skipped wearing the bottoms on the heavy days. I am sure heavenly father understands my position, however I have made a covenant to wear them which I take seriously and I would prefer to find a way to wear the garments, top and bottom all month round. Do any of you ladies have any tips that may help me? I am sorry if this is all tmi, im fairly private about these things and it just seems easier to ask random people on the internet than cornering my relief society president... thanks :)

I get what you are saying, estradling, but isnt part of the repentance process making restitution to those you hurt as well? I mean, yes you can ask heavenly fatherfor forgiveness, but shouldnt you also try and help the person you have hurt? Before my endowment, I wrote a letter to someone I wronged a few years ago. IT was someone I hurt unintentionally, but I hurt them none the less. I didnt ask for their forgiveness, but I gave them the explanation they deserved.

I know he will always have a special place in my heart, but its just very painful. I believed every word he said. He testified to me that heavenly father does not make junk, yet treated me as disposable junk just a few months later. I just cant understand it. I know there are other guys on the horizon, I just need to get this out there so maybe instead of feeling hurt, I can just feel grateful for the part he played in my life. But, he snt forth coming with answers, in fact, he outright denies it all which just makes it harder to understand. I have confided in him more than I have everconfided in another person in my life. He was part of my family, we all adored him. I trusted him totally, he broke that trust. If I could just understand his motives, it would greatly help. Was he lying all along or did he truly mean what he said? What changed? I cant help but feel there is more to the story. I know theres been some gossip too.

I just wish I could look at my baptism photos and not feel so betrayed. This doesnt in any way affect my testimony of the church, but it darkens what should have been a great memory for me, the best day of my life, my baptism. Its so hurtful. I dont want to get back at him, I am not seeking revenge. I just want him to know how much he has hurt me and my family. But I guess theres nothing I can do...

Sorry about my typos, im on a tablet and it doesnt cooperate...

Hey guys, this might be a long one but please bear with me. My heart is aching, I mean truly aching.. I guess I will have to start from the beginning. I joined the church almost two years ago. Missionaries came to our door, and taught us. It wasnt long before I knew the church was true. At that time, I wasnt aware of the missionary rules. I knew they werent allowed to date on their mission but I thought that they were allowed to have crushes. I know now I was wrong about that, but anyway on with the story. So I found myself quickly falling for an elder. It was electric. Our chemistry was so obvious that a couple of people commented. He baptized me. He came to our house every day, we played cards and board games, joked, and even lit fireworks and sparkler bombs in my backyard. We had nerf gun wars, and generally mucked around. When we had lessons, the spirit was so strong. When my father had suspected prostate cancer, he gave Dad a blessing that left us all, including him in tears. He confided some of his past to my mother, and talked of his depression. My mother confided in him things that happened to her as a child he cried, mum cried. He shared some of his diary entries with her. He was extremely close to our family. He was attached to us and we were attached to him.My mother thought of him as a son. Sometimes, he didn't come to teach, but rather have a good chat and a laugh. Like I said, I didnt know the missionary rules back then. He even hugged me and my mother on occasion. He dropped hints that he wanted to get to know me better after his mission. Before he baptized me, my mother told him how I felt about him.She had happened to bump into him at a shopping centre. At the time, he was on a mission to buy me a plush pig because he knew how much I like pigs. He called me after and told me that he thought my upcoming atonement could be go the benefit of "someone else" as well-referring to himself. As in, and I quote "Megan I also think that your atonement could be to the benefit of SOMEONE ELSE as well.." I guess that was his way of saying he was interested too. The day of my baptism, he came over and gave me a stuffed pig.He hugged me after baptizing me, in the chapel in front of other members of the ward. One lady commented to me that he seemed quite flirty with me. I would catch him looking at me quite often. He was due to finish his mission just after christmas, so on christmas day I thought I would slip a note in his stocking to tell him how I felt, and that I would wait for him to finish his mission. That night, he called me at 1030pm, for no reason- he was just playing around with the nicknacks I placed in the stocking. He had obviously found the note, but didnt mention it. The next day (he was at our house daily) he came over and pulled my mum aside, he asked her if it was really me that snuck the note into the stocking. She told him it was. He admitted to my mum that he was attracted to me and made an arrangement to come to my house the next day to talk with me in private. My mum told him that I wanted to pursue a relationship with him when he finished. He said to her "I wish". So the next day, he comes over. His companion was inside the house talking to my family while the elder and I had a private chat. He told me that once his mission was over, we could vjsit with each other. He told me that he felt that I was the reason for his mission, that he was suicidal before he met my family. He told me that he didnt know if he could handle leaving his mission and not being able to see us every day. He hugged me, and had his arm around me. He told me that he would at least always be my friend. He also said that he always knew I liked him. Even before he baptized me. One day, he took my Mum for walk. He asked my mother what she wanted for me in my life. My mother told him that she wanted me to marry and have children. He told her that it's already happened. Mum asked him "Are you telling me what I think you are telling me?" He hit the ground and nodded "yes". Later, he changed companions. This companion obviously did not like what he was seeing. They came to give me a comfort blessing the day before I was due to go on a holiday. During our holiday, we found out that my crush elder had an emergency transfer. I was devastated, but he only had two weeks left of his mission, so I figured I would hear from him soon enough. When I came home frm my holiday, he had pulled a dodgy with some other elders so that he could come back to our house. He told us again that he loved us, and promised he would come back in a month after he had settled back home. He said that he hoped to be back as soon as possible, but he wasn't sure what his family situation would be like when he got home. He refused to leave without hugging us. We showered him with gifts from our trip. As far as we were concerned, he was part of our family. We loved him. He ended up leaving our house quite late that night. The other Elders were getting quite annoyed with him for staying out so late past curfew. So his mission finished. After a week or two, I contacted him. All he gave were vague responses. I was quite concerned, I thought maybe he was just depressed. He barely answered any messages. I was hurt. It was so unlike him, he usually would respond to us straight away. As time went on, he became more aloof. I made the mistake of asking if he was okay... It seemed to offend him. I didn't understand any of this. A few months later, I organized to meet with him in his home town. There, he told me that he wasn't ready to visit us in our town. I understood that, and we had a good time, we went to Luna Park and enjoyed the rides and I saw hints of the fun person he was on his mission. He clearly didn't want to drop us back off at our hotel. He seemed like himself again for a few hours. He organized with me to visit his ward the next morning, so I caught an hour long train there. But when I got there, something seemed off. I briefly met his parents. Straight after the lessons, he dropped me back at the train station.... didnt even invite me over for lunch or to hang out. I thought his parents would be interested to hear my conversion story seeing as their son baptized me. I was quite surprised by this. I had flown over there to see him, and he had promised for us to hang out after his mission. He didn't seem to want to offer any of the slightest common courtesies. I didn't even get to say goodbye to his parents, they were nowhere to be seen. At the train station, he turned to me and said that he wanted time and space. He left me balling my eyes out at a train station by myself in a foreign city. He then blocked me and my family from his facebook. Down the track, ( a few days ago, actually) I find out that while he was telling me that he wasn't ready to come back, he was actually coming back- a few times from what I hear, to date another girl who he also met on his mission. he was also in contact with other members from our ward, while ignoring us at the same time. I've only just found this out, and it has rehashed all the hurt that I tried to overcome. I cant even look at my baptism pics, it hurts so much. I wish that I had have chosen someone else to baptize me. I had a priesthood blessing by my bishop (I dont think Bishop is aware of this though). It was completely unrelated to this, but a message came through not to regret letting him baptize me. I do get comfort from that. for a while I almost wanted to have my baptism annulled so I could be rebaptized by someone else so I dont have to relate him to my baptism anymore. After that blessing though, I changed my mind. There is a reason why it was him that baptized me and I'm happy to trust the Lords will on that. I cant share all the amazing spiritual experiences I've had with him. I cant tell him about my endowment and how beautiful it was, I cant tell him about my youngest brothers baptism,or my parents baptism. I cant tell him all the blessings the Gospel has been in my life. I cant tell him that I am going to Utah next month to visit all the temples. I can't tell him the fruits of his mission. It upsets me, because I know when he is old and grey, he wont be able to help but think of me, the girl he baptized, or my family and the wonderful time we all had together. It upsets me to know that this will be a great regret to him one day. He will always wonder what we are doing and how far gospel wise we have come, but due to his own choice he will never know. I don't wish that on him, but its inevitable. I thought at the very least I had made a friend for life. How can someone lie so much? Any help or advice would be appreciated.

I have three autistic brothers. They are all high functioning but extremely different from each other. The youngest is 15, he is very nervous in social settings, so when people first meet him, they underestimate his intelligence a lot. What they dont know is that the kid is a sponge, he doesnt add input into conversations, but he soaks in all the information. Its only when he becomes comfortable around someone that he lets himself blossom and they realize that the kid in actually a genius. My 26 year old autistic brother is a little more forthcoming socially, yet still quite insecure. My 17 year old autistic brother seems to have a need to act inappropriately around people as a shock factor. They are all quite different in their ways, and it keeps me and mum on our toes because I help care for them. Although they are all quite different, there are two things they have in common. First off, they are all brainiacs, but only apply themselves to things they are interested in. So in school they werent acedemics, but I tell you one of them could fill an encyclopedia from all the random facts he has picked up. Another can play music by ear, and the other masters any computer game you throw at him. My best advice would be to take him as he is, and slowly extend friendship to him first. Once he is comfortable, which may take a while, he will add input. You cant force input from these kids, they do it all on their terms. Just let him be there with you. But know this, just because he may not appear to b e involving himself, he is- just in his own little way. I honestly dont call autism a disability at all, its more or less a different ability. I wouldnt change my brothers for anything. This boy could teach you a lot. All the best

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I received my endowment last night. I thought it was absolutely beautiful. There were two young lads there receiving theirs as well, although by the time we hit the celestial room or was quite apparent that they both weren't comfortable. I felt sad for them both, I wish they had enjoyed it as much as I did. I am a convert, so I had no family there with me, but I was blessed with a fantastic escort and a lot of ward family with me. I do know of another lady in my ward that had the same trouble you are describing. She set an appointment up with the temple matron who sat with her the next time she went through. Now she loves it.

I think this might be a case where the spirit over rides the letter of the law. This would not be an easy thing to speak to your own father about. Personally if I were in your situation, I would covenant between myself and the Lord to obey the law of chastity henceforth. I know most people would say that you need to confess this to a priesthood leader, but I don't always agree- well, not in this case. If you aren't strong enough to make it between you and the Lord, definately consider receiving your father's advice. I just don't think it is totally necessary just yet to do so.

It wasn't deliberate, so I Think you will be ok. Perhaps tell the missionaries of your error, but otherwise I don't see a huge need for repentance.

Congratulations on your decision to get baptized! By your description of events when recently attending the Church and taking the sacrament, The Spirit testified the truths to you. It is an amazing and personal feeling, to just "know" the truth! Please speak to your husband as soon as you can. He may show some opposition to the idea, but if you explain to him just how important it is to you, and testify to him that you know its true- I am sure he will come round. When you first gain a testimony of the gospel, your spirit will glow. There will be no mistaking this for your husband. Just remind your husband that he will know the truth by the goodness of its fruits. Good luck!

I received my patriarchal blessing about 8 months ago now. What an amazing experience that was! There are things in there that only myself and the Lord would know about me, personality wise. It did say that in time I would be sealed to an eternal companion, but I am nearing 30 now with no potential candidates for marriage, so I thought it best to go through the endowments now rather than wait so I could fully focus my attention on the ordinance itself rather than attatch it to a wedding.

Personally, I would go- so long as it wasn't a full blown party. Sometimes the "spirit" of the sabbath day outweighs the general do's and don'ts. Our heavenly father set aside sabbath day to spend time with friends and loved ones- he knows that not all of our loved ones aren't all members of the church, yet to Him, and to us they are just as an important part of our life. I deal with this struggle weekly, living in a house of 6 family members. Three of us are members and the other three are opposed to any form of religion. It's difficult to keep a balance. Sometimes on Sabbath day, I will watch a movie with my nonmember siblings (so long as they are wholesome movies) I do this to spend time with my siblings on Sabbath day in a way that they are willing to participate. Its a tough one, but these people are obviously important in your life and I know Heavenly father would want you to show your love and support for them. It would also be a great opportunity to discuss Sabbath Day values with them. Let them know that you attended to show your love to them as fellow children of the Lord. Let them know that that is what Sabbath day is for. Just my thoughts :)

I would like to Thank you guys so much for all your help and advice! It has been more useful than you could ever realize! I like the advice from one particular poster who said that I should view myself as Adam and Eve, I have been reading Moses and genesis and this advice has opened my eyes to a new way of thinking- about myself and the human race in general. I will be starting temple prep classes (hopefully next week) so I will keep you all updated :)

We actually managed to find a suit for my 15 year old brother at a second hand shop. This suit only cost us a grand total of $2 (they were doing a clearance!) The suit is good quality and not at all out dated. You would be surprised the great finds you come across. Most of my church dresses are from op shops, and generally only cost me around the $5 mark. I like to wear a different dress each week to church. I always get compliments on my clothing from the YSA girls. Its not that I cant afford brand new, I just really dont see the point in paying through the nose for clothing when I can get nice things so cheaply. I even find brand new clothes with tags still attatched in op shops. Its great fun!!

Thankyou so much for your replies :) I am so excited and elated to be able to recieve this blessing. I will definately take all of your advice on board, I want to make sure I am as prepared as I can possibly be! Thankyou again :)

It was during a dream that my mother actually gained her testimony before deciding to be baptized. She had a dream similar to that of Lehi's dream (she had never heard of Lehi's dream before) The very next night, the Missionaries came over and taught her about Lehi's dream. She "freaked" out- in a good way, and realized that it was heavenly Fathers way of telling her that she was on the right path and that she should be baptized. :) The Spirit speaks to us all in different ways. I am a bit of a music freak, and sometimes I will find that a hymn or song will seem to follow me around- just hearing it at random times, shopping, etc. When I look into the lyrics, I realize that they are always related to what I have been praying about.

I have been a member for a year and a half. I have 6 tattoos, and while I don't feel like members judge me for them, there is not a day in my life that I don't regret the decision I made to get them. In some ways, I feel "unclean" and am ashamed because of them- having said that, I do not judge anyone who has tattoos, I'm just a mean judge to myself If I knew as a stupid 18 year old what I know now ten years on, I would never have done it. Yes tattoos can be beautiful, and some of the artwork is incredible- I just wish I had them painted on canvas instead of a permanent reminder on my skin.

Hi Guys!!! I am a relatively new member (1 and a half glorious years!) I am in the process of organizing my endowments with my Bishop :) I am so excited to recieve this blessing! I was hoping you guys could help me with a few things. Firstly, I have a temple gown already- but can anyone please tell me how much I should set aside for the other ceremonial clothing? And can anyone please give me a rough idea as to how much the Temple Garments cost per piece? I feel bad asking my Bsihop these questions (though I know he wouldnt mind). It feels almost rude of me to inquire on the monetary cost associated with this huge eternal blessing if you know what I mean... Also, apart from the obvious in preparation (temple prep classes, worthiness, prayer, scripture study, etc) is there anything else that you could recommend to me to help me with the preparation? If you could have your first temple experience again, is there anything that you would have focused more on to prepare yourself? I will be the first on my family to go through this experience as my Mum was only baptized a month ago and my Dad is looking to get baptized next month. (I am slowly herding the family in) Thankyou in advance :)