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Wait, the OP is miserable her spouse does not love her. It sounds like by her description that there have been extensive efforts to save the marriage. When you have exhausted all avenues whats left? Please tell me were the GA's or scripture were it says to suffer in a loveless marriage for eternity? You advise to eliminate the "outs" Great in theory but marriage is a 2 way street both people in the marriage need to be full participants. The husband is just along for the ride, were does that leave the spouse? what about her eternal progression?

I am going to give you the answer that no one else here will. Your husband is disengaged, he has admitted to not loving you and that love is not that important in the marriage. He wants to keep the marriage for appearances sake. Maybe so his family won't judge him or so that he feels ok when he goes to church which based on everything you have described doesn't happen to often. You have compounded a mistake of marrying the first time by making another one and marrying in the temple. You are young and have a bright future in front of you, I am assuming no kids as this will influence my advise. The Lord does not want you to be trapped in an unhappy marriage. Get divorced, find a worthy young man to take you to the temple and have an eternal family. You will encounter road blocks and have difficult time ahead but you can't progress in the situation that you are currently in.

This is what people have to worry about? Buying a coke or taking the bus on Sunday? OP there are bigger fish to fry Don't worry about this stuff

We have all decided that riches mean material wealth, I would say this is not the case which is why a poor person can be righteous and still wealthy although not in temporal things. I can be as righteous as anyone but if I am unwilling to put in the hard work I will never be temporally wealthy and even if I do work hard there are no guarantees in life. It's life I do not think that God gets that involved in the temporal side of things. Matthew Bennett and TFP need to face reality our leaders are wealthy in general, our passing judgement on how they spend their hard earned money is small and petty. How big of a house is to big? how much should they spend on a car? Is a BMW or Mercedes out of line? Wait what if they own 2 homes one for vacation is that out of line? Jealousy is a terrible thing guys

This is were you are incorrect If you think that paying Tithing is a commandment, then going on a Mission is also a commandment" Paying tithing is a commandment, if you don't you can't go to the temple. If I don't go on a mission I can still go to the temple and receive my endowment. Per Kimball's talk every worthy young man SHOULD fill a mission. He didn't say I command you to he said should. His last line is also applicable, We are under divine commandment to preach the gospel. I agree with this "every member a missionary" absolutely! Note he didn't say We are under divine commandment to serve a mission. Every utterance from the mouth of the prophets is not a commandment.

Are we to all be poor? basic substance living and anything extra to go to the poor and needy?

Easy it's called context D&C 49 was a revelation given in response to a religious group called Quakers this religious is still active today verse 19-21 is in response to the belief of some Quakers that they should not consume meat. D&C 70:14 again context this revelation was given in the very first years of the formation of the church Joseph was trying to form Zion and part of that idea was the law of consecration (a failed attempt). This verse refers directly to that law and the need to donate/give/consecrate all goods to the bishop. Since we do not live the law of consecration this is not applicable.

https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2009/04/faith-in-the-lord-jesus-christ?lang=eng&query=doubt A relevant talk some interesting highlights: Consider it this way: our net usable faith is what we have left to exercise after we subtract our sources of doubt and disbelief. You might ask yourself this question: “Is my own net faith positive or negative?” If your faith exceeds your doubt and disbelief, the answer is likely positive. If you allow doubtand disbelief to control you, the answer might be negative. First is doubt. Doubt is not a principle of the gospel. It does not come from the Light of Christ or the influence of the Holy Ghost. Doubt is a negative emotion related to fear. It comes from a lack of confidence in one’s self or abilities. It is inconsistent with our divine identity as children of God. Doubt leads to discouragement. Discouragement comes from missed expectations. Chronic discouragement leads to lower expectations, decreased effort, weakened desire, and greater difficulty feeling and following the Spirit (see Preach My Gospel [2004], 10). Discouragement and despair are the very antithesis of faith.

Yeah that's the best......we are not commanded to serve. I'm not so bright please show me where a GA said it's a commandment?

This is based on your premise that it is a commandment to serve a mission, one of which I disagree with.

Would you as a member in good standing not be offended if by the sweat of your brow you were successful and able to provide in abundance for your family and were thought less of as a result of your success?

A. There are those that are able to serve (meet age requirement/ otherwise healthy and normal) and choose not to or are not ready spiritually to serve. The mission field is better off without these individuals. No one should serve because their mommy and daddy expect them to or because of cultural pressure, and trust me there are plenty that do just this. They should serve because they have a righteous desire to. B. Repentance for what? It is not a sin to not serve a mission. If I choose to not serve do I need to make an appointment with my Bishop and go through some sort of repentance process? No absolutely not and it is ridiculous to say that it is a sin C. Nice one FLDS funny.....

I have highlighted the part that I totally disagree with. Quite frankly it is offensive to anyone who has worked hard and become successful that it would be thought of them that they are going against the principles of the church. I would be willing to bet that a very large percentage of the Elders of the church are very wealth. They live in the best neighborhoods, drive expensive cars, and take vacations we can only dream about. This does not make them less righteous their wealth gives them the opportunity to serve all of us.

The one were it's not a sin to not go on a mission. Many our leaders did not serve

Yes typically parents would send extra money to the American Missionaries however this was not my experience, I got the same as my native companions no extra was sent as my parents had several missionaries out at the same time. I never viewed my life in dire straits, I accepted that this was how people lived and how I needed to live if I wanted to get along and relate to the people I was trying to teach. It grinds on the native companions when the Americans get a huge care package from home. I also makes them difficult to relate to, I attribute part of the success of my mission to being able to be an equal with my companions and the people of that country. I was fortunate enough to be in a position during a period on my mission in which I could see how others chose to serve, and the varying degree of success they had based on their attitudes towards the people of that country. That said this is why personal experience does not work well in these instances because everyone has such a varied experience.

In your mind how do you picture Americans serving foreign missions live? Do you think the American Missionaries are given more money than their native companions so that they can live their American lifestyle? I can assure you its gets native very quickly.

I didn't know that they even sold watches for as little as $75.00

I know what it takes to live in a 3rd world country, and I know that 20k is a lot of money on a relative scale in those countries, but we are not talking about the Philippines or Mexico.

Envy is also a sin Do you really think he does not give generously to charity and to the church? His wealth has put him in a position in which he can serve full time without outside worldly concerns. Perspective needs to be taken into account in all things. My mission president was not a bragger, he was not flashy, he was/is the most humble person I have ever had the pleasure of working with.

I spent 2 yrs in a third world country, I know what true poverty is.

Russell M Nelson was a cardiac surgeon. He is a very wealthy man.

Please tell me were I over shot....I don't think any of those numbers are excessive living expenses

so 2k is unreasonable?

lets do some math, so 20,080/yr that's about 18,200 take home Tithing (i'll assume paid on gross): 2080 Rent (again I'll go cheap 500.00/ month): 6000.00/yr Food(lets say 200.00/mo): 2400.00 Basic utilities 150/mo: 1800.00 Clothing lets say they shop at the DI: 200 Car lets just assume maintenance and repairs: 200.00 Gas 120/mo: 1440 Insurance: 1200 I'm up to 15320.00 so far Heaven forbid their car breaks down, personal needs, bathroom supplies, general maintenance around the home....wait what if someone needs to go to the hospital? People do get sick. I can hear the plastic cracking on that credit card already. Clearly you do not understand.

how much is to much for a watch?