sxfritz
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Even if he changed his attitude toward the Church so as to "accept" your activity, you should not expect him to become active. Given that, I doubt it would ever cease as a point of contention. You wouldn't ever be able to fully share your church experiences (here's what we talked about in Sunday School or I had a great experience at the temple, etc). Ditto for his support of the kids as they reach an age where the Church needs to be important to them and decisions they make.
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Let me first temper my comments by stating that I do NOT believe transgendered to be mentally ill. I do however believe this young person may have been and the public discussion intentionally avoids the topic so as not to couple transgender with mental illness.
It would be much more productive to the health of troubled youth to take the discussion toward bettering our mental health services than to focus on gender assignment.
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I don't like my 9-5 job.
I would take a Nursery calling for life.
I love that Eowyn starts these threads.
I wish Eowyn didn't use that image for her icon, as I love the character Eowyn and have a hard time not transferring that to Eowyn.
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It is entirely up to the bishop and stake presidency. They may let you right in. You know what the questions are. As long as you answer in the affirmative, they should feel compassionate toward granting the recommend.
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As for his future well, he still has some very big lessons to learn about how to make a marriage work. Until he learns them any future marriage is likely to suffer the same fate. The marriage will get hard, he will distance himself and then they will get divorced. So for his future marriage prospects I would say pity him and her... They are going to be in for a rough road.
As for you. Give yourself permission to grieve. Don't compare where he is at and what he is doing to what you are doing. That is manifestly unfair to you. Then in time when you head begins to clear study what you did and how you responded and learn how to be better then you are now. Take your failed marriage and turn it into an educational experience that helps you become a better person.
I really like the comments above.
Marriage takes a lot of sacrifice and forgiveness, and it takes both people acting that way. When there are arguments, they need to be settled by both people giving in. I wouldn't draw blame on either of you. I think you have realized what I call "the price of higher education". Be grateful for the lessons. Use the lessons when dating and deciding on another mate, and of course when re-married. I wouldn't put more effort into saving the marriage - not if he isn't working at all. You'll be the only one paying the price and you will become resentful.
Best wishes.
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I get the sense that the knitters here seem to be okay with their activity but frown at other activities, such as doodling or phone games (angry birds, or perhaps candy crush - even minesweeper and solitaire can be pretty mindless). Is that accurate? Why is yours reverent and not the others?
The lace covers on temple alters are hand knit - generally using the 'tatting' method. I think that reverent.
I didn't read all of the 163 responses on this thread, but of what I read I didn't see anyone actually say it would be okay to knit in church. My responses may have been favorable to the notion that knitting is meditative, but I never said it is acceptable behavior in church. I am in agreement with more reverence in the chapel and class. I grew up Catholic and am generally frustrated by the lack of reverence in our chapels.
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For me, the success of the books is the human element. The characters are "fleshed out." You could take the magic out of the story, and I would still love the books. It's about good vs. evil, a little romance, and imperfect young adults who achieve great things.
Perfect summation. I've read all the books, which means I enjoyed the story, but I don't give two seconds thought to the magic aspect. They helped inspire me to write.
On a different post, I wrote how knitting allows me to ponder the mysteries of the world. Harry Potter isn't one of them.
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Knitters/crocheters: From what has been written, I gather that you don't find your knitting at all distracting from listening to a speaker and even participating. Is this correct? If so, can you explain this? I'm trying to think of an activity I could do that requires coordination and purpose, such as counting stitches, yet requires absolutely no attention paid to it, so that I can do it and still be free to think about whatever else I want or converse without restriction. I can't think of anything. Is knitting really so different? Can you explain it in terms I can understand?
I knit lace - the most demanding of patterns - and once a pattern is practiced it does not require any concentration. The mind is free to contemplate the mysteries of the world. Hence, I knit.
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As a knitter, I wish I could use that time for some project work and I do understand when I see other people doing crochet or knitting that they aren't really distracted. However, most people don't understand and it appears rude to them, so I leave my needles home.
We had a woman who crocheted bandages for leprosy patients because machine woven/knit bandages are too tight; hand crochet leaves allows some breathing. Once people understood what she was doing, there was never a complaint. :)
It is hard to believe how many responses you got, in such a short time, on your question. Good job posing the question.
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The advice I gave my sons, 'be the person you want to meet'.
- Str8Shooter, carlimac and its_Chet
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You are saying you received your testimony from God, with God knowing all things about Joseph Smith, so why should there be doubt now that YOU know more than you did then.
I think you are answering your own question.
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Try travelling. Go out and see the bigger world. You will gain a different perspective of life and people in general. In other words, your expectations will change. I suggest third-world, but ease yourself into it. It can be jarring.
Short answer, yer, it is a case of trying harder. The Lord isn't going to hand you anything.
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It looks like Isiz, which is a valid name out in the world. I would assume temple work was done on the name, but I didn't search for you there.
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I'm so glad you worked this out. I took some criticism for my comments about setting the garments aside. I was thinking in the context of the picture of you not being accustomed to wearing them and the volume of concern on both your and the bride (potential).
I wish to add that my experience is that one has no desire to take them off once the commitment (covenant) is made. It does become a conscious/deliberate decision and do so. You will grow to love and appreciate what they stand for and find little "adjustment" to wearing them.
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As an EQP, you have no special rights or responsibilities in regards to the matter. As a human being you do. Look at the circumstance from outside your church calling.
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A Full tithing. 10% ? Is this amount specific to Charitable Donations (Tithing) to the LDS Church or Charitable Donations in General?
Am I not paying a full tithing, if I do not give it all to the LDS Church? As a missionary so many answers to these types of questions was... " If you feel good about it Elder "
Is it up to me?
When we talk about Tithing Settlement and temple recommend interviews, you are expected to pay 10% to the Church. Anything you do above that (inside or outside the Church) is based on blessings you have received to allow you to do so (from "the windows of Heaven").
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So then, how does your church rise up to meet this responsibility of caring for the poor and needy? And, given the individual responsibility, does your church provide you with any direction or incentive on meeting this obligation?
Great question! We help the poor and needy in several very specific and direct/tangible ways.
* We collect fast offerings monthly. Most active members give something to the fast offering each month. We're asked for the cost of two meals (however we choose to judge that). We have been encouraged to give as much as we feel we can afford. I've seen small families give $100 and even $200 a month. I've seen people give a dollar, but most are about $15 to $20. Multiply that by a few million people a month.
* Those funds are distributed to members of the church at the discretion of the bishop. They pay for electric, medical, housing - on a short term/basis.
* The excess funds are given to the stake and the church in general, for use in the building and maintenance of "storehouses, canneries and farms",or to share with wards that don't cover their own local short-term needs. We volunteer our time to work the canneries. I'm sure you can find a lot of info on this online.
* We allow people to give to specific funds to help out in times of crisis. We mark our tithing slip for "Tornado in Arkansas", or "Japan Tsunami", and the money goes directly to the relief effort.
* Our church always helps the general community when there is a crisis. Both financially from Salt Lake, or physically by local or gathered Saints.
Again, I am sure you can find a lot of info online at Mormon.org or just searching in general.
- mordorbund and Backroads
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I can figure it out but no, not really. My olther bishop never sent e-mails and I just paid my tithe. I didn't know I had to have a meeting about it. I've been LDS for about 6 years now and never heard about it or if I did, I wasn't paying attention.
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I probably won't go to the settlement meeting. My spouse is NEVER going to sit and discuss all of this...it's too painful. I will try to catch up from here and just move forward. Sitting and rehashing all this is rough.
The email is just because you now have a more effective bishop. Everyone is "asked" to attend every year, but it is voluntary. For the ward's annual report, the bishop "guesses" the status of members when they don't declare. I'd say about 60% of the active members attend. I've been clerk twice, so I've seen the process fairly close.
Wish you well. Sounds like you are on the right track.
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I view an organization as an entity so yes, I think organizations are expected to act responsibly in Gospel matters. We are at a greater strength to act as a group. That does not absolve us individually. As we become aware of opportunities to assist, we are obligated to act.
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Don't be concerned about tithing settlement. You should go, and declare yourself as partial and not full, but there is nothing punitive. I've not known a bishop to take back a recommend for anything except sexual sin or perhaps a criminal conviction, but certainly not for tithing.
Now, if your recommend is coming due, you will want to be honest at the recommend interview. The bishop and stake president have discretion to not issue a recommend, but they also have the discretion to issue one.
Start on a full-tithe as soon as you can. The clock starts as soon as you are able. You are not now in debt to the Lord. I'm not trying to Pontificate here. I'm not your bishop, but believe me, he isn't keeping that type of score.
- Backroads and lagarthaaz
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Obedience to your parents is a Gospel principal. Until such time as you are emancipated, you should honor her. Other than that, I echo Anatess. Live a Gospel centered life. Your mother will notice and appreciate it. Obviously you had some influences in your life that brought you to the Gospel. Stay close to those.
If your mother is a person of faith, you might point out that the anti-Mormon folks are either anti-religion, or anti-any-church-but-mine. They are just as critical of Catholics and Muslims and Buddhists, etc. With the exception of some ex-Mormons, with an ax to grind, most have baseless claims about our faith.
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Those who play with fire get burned. Satan is powerful and he has no rules to play by. I have enough going on in my life than that to pick fights with him.
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Marriage is a lot of work.... I bet you heard that before.
There is a lot of forgiving and overlooking things.
Are there times when you feel misunderstood - that what you said isn't what he heard? It is the same way for him. Even after 30 yrs of marriage, I have to tell myself that I misunderstood what my wife said and not take it personally. Even after 30 yrs of closeness, we're still trying to understand each other.
My parents thought my wife and I would never make it. We picked a hard row to hoe. But we've remained happily married longer than any other living family members.
I wish I could say it gets easier, but it only changes. Issues change and you deal with the new issues. I'm glad you are wanting to make it work. Divorce is seldom a solution. It is generally only justified to break a cycle of abuse. With divorce, you only shift your problems, not solve them.
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I think....
...I am generally right and others just haven't caught up to me yet.
...I have a story to tell, and thus I write
...there are too many extremist in the world. People need to learn the purpose of life and live it.
...there is no such thing as weird food.
...I adore redheads!
Recommend after Inactivity?
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That is NOT a question during the interview.