First, I'm sorry you're struggling and I can sympathize a bit. I married the greatest guy ever and after just one month of marriage, I was wondering what I had gotten myself into. What helped is looking at my wedding photos and remembering how I felt on my wedding day. There's no question, the Spirit confirmed that our union was a good thing. Now, please read the books and blog posts others have mentioned! Also, Middle-Aged Mormon Man just had a post on his awesome site that applies - » 12 Tips to a Better Marriage – For Men (Level 1) Also, there are various personality tests online (free) that will help you understand each other better. They're fun and insightful - great for date night (hint hint). Good luck and as others have said the first year can be rough - but worth it!