notquiteperfect

Some good insights already and will add that since baptism is a remission of your sins, I'd want to do everything I could to make that last as long as possible. I'd also want it to signal a new beginning and if I still had issues to resolve, it wouldn't feel like it was.

Awesome, Skippy! Thanks! Yes, I am incorporating this year's theme and you've given me a couple things to work with here. Thanks again!

Wow, Hopless! It sounds like you've got quite a chip (or several) on your shoulder! I sure hope that isn't/doesn't lead to a weight issue since you're convinced that appearance is the only concern. (If this seems a bit unkind, that may be. I just found your posts incredible to say the least!)

What types of things would both boys and girls (ages 8-11) respond to that are easy to find and inexpensive? I'd like to stay away from sweets/treats/food. Thanks!

Unless you're recording everything and can skip the commercials, those should be considered as well, imo. Sometimes they're just as bad or even worse than the show!

Agree with Anatess. I also suggest you and your girlfriend come up with a plan to avoid this happening again. If you're going to be in the same vicinity again (spring break, summer break), you need to know ahead of time how you're going to handle it.

Bishops make mistakes. I'm glad you stayed home. No need to feel guilty. I would've, too.

I'm sorry for your troubles. I am glad that you've broken things off with him and that you've found someone who treats you better. I understand that you'd like your daughters to know their dad but a) a lot of that is up to him, b) as long as they have a positive father figure, they'll be ok, c) I wouldn't want an abusive/negative person around my kids anyway. As far as him owning his part in all of this, he might and he might not so just live your life and be the mom your girls need and deserve. {hugs}

First, I'm so sorry you've been going through this. I understand that you may not feel ready to go talk to the bishop but that really is the best thing to do. You need to move through this and need more support to do so. The longer you delay, the longer it'll be till you get it. Also, remember that your parents just want the best for you and love you no matter what. {hugs}

One thing you (and others) may want to consider is that everything is energy. If a person surrounds themselves with negative energy (i.e. hate, anger, violence, etc.) than there will be negative consequences. The highest energies (emotions anyway) are love and gratitude which better health is a result of. You may also want to know that some people have the ability to sense where your energy is at and may choose not to be around you if it's lower than what they wish to be around.

Well, looking to the Old Testament - would you rather live during Noah's time (drown in a flood) or Enoch's (be translated)? The difference was how well people did at living according to God's laws.

EXCELLENT response from friedmann! The only thing I would add is that "what you focus on, gets bigger" so put your energy into how supportive and excited they'll be for you. Act as though that's how they are (fake it till you make it) and remember that your absence (and the goodbye) is temporary. If you or they hit a rough patch, remind yourself of how happy they'll be to see you again. Congrats on this decision. May everything fall into place easily. All the best to you and your family.

Back to the op - If I don't recognize who's calling, I ignore it and never call back unless they've left a message. If I do recognize the number, I sometimes let it go to the answering machine unless I know what they're calling about. Drives my husband crazy but he's adapted. For the record, I don't like people showing up unannounced either and have my husband answer the door to deal with it.

There's some good stuff in this talk. Read and apply. All the best to you. The Blessing of Church Interviews - general-conference

Being *worthy* to go on a mission is more important than going on a mission. A mission requires you to be at your best and you won't be if you have this nagging at you in the back of your mind. I really encourage you to go to your bishop without delay.

If my husband is doing something that makes it so I don't have the priesthood in my home, I would expect to be informed!

My dad's occasional mentioning of "mouth being washed out with soap" was a pretty big deterrent in my house growing up. Also, the way I see it - if a child isn't able to handle themselves appropriately outside of the house, they're not old enough to leave the house (at least not without constant supervision)! Meaning that the idea of mom constantly by his side should work wonders as a wake up call.

For drop-off: tuna fish casserole, corn, tator tots (can reheat pretty easily) If they're coming over: hawaiian haystacks or either a taco/potato/salad bar (everyone can choose what they like and what they don't - and how much)

Seeing how you pay rent, too, you have the right to feel safe in your own space. I think she needs to be reported (RA, parents, cops, whoever) not just 'given to someone else to deal with'. It sounds like she may have mental issues and needs treatment/meds as this is not normal behavior. Good luck - hope you find some resolution soon!

It sounds to me that he feels guilty and is taking the easy way out by turning that onto you. Don't buy into that. I also think that 'snapping at you' is more about him not having the Spirit with him (consequence of his choices) than it is about what you may or may not be doing. There are a few techniques that might help you separate from his negativity - google the following: zip up technique, bubble technique, cutting the energetic cord. Also, get the book "Remembering Wholeness" by Carol Tuttle. All the best to you and your family.

I'm sorry you've been experiencing this and that you're faced with this difficult situation. All I can think of is that 'what you focus on gets bigger' so stay focused on your strengths and not your fears. Write positive messages on post-its and leave them everywhere if necessary to help. That's all that's coming to mind at the moment but I hope it helps. All the best. Just put one foot in front of the other - you'll get where you need to be.

I'm sorry you're struggling. Have you read the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman? It sounds as though your love language is 'words of affirmation' and that's not the love language your wife speaks. The others are quality time, acts of service, gifts and physical touch. Personally, I'm not that great at giving 'words of affirmation' either because it's just so vulnerable to me. Anyway, please don't do anything drastic! You may feel down but there are so many things that can help with that (exercise, proper nutrition, essential oils, sunshine, etc.) and things *can* change. Give yourself - and your wife - a chance. There is hope!

First, I'm sorry for your troubles. Truly. Now, I once heard that addictions are because of nutritional/chemical imbalance so consult a nutritionist or naturopath who can offer suggestions to deal with this from that angle. I've also heard that when someone picks up an addiction, they are stunted emotionally at that point. Also, what was going on when he started smoking, etc? What was he escaping? (You don't need to answer, just think about what the underlying issue is.) Also, the book "Remembering Wholeness" by Carol Tuttle may be helpful. I also suggest looking into the Emotion Code (for you and hopefully your husband). Furthermore, what you focus on gets bigger so focus on the positive (what he *does* do right, not what he doesn't, why you married him in the first place, etc). Last, approaching this out of concern (for his health, etc) versus accusations may go a long way. All the best - there is hope!

I'm a very private person, my husband is not. He does know my passwords but he knows that I still wouldn't appreciate him 'getting into things' - even if I was right there. Besides, just cause I have a ring on my finger doesn't mean I'm no longer an individual.

Hi, all! I'm excited to be here. I've poked around a bit in the past but decided to join the party! Anyway, how long does it usually take for replies/posts to show? Just wondering. Have a great day!