notquiteperfect

What came to my mind was the account in the NT about Christ healing the 10 lepers and how only one bothered to thank Him.

Hi all - I want to do something for our Blue & Gold Banquet that's coming up and thought I'd ask all of you amazing people. Anyway, what scriptures, stories, songs, etc. come to mind with these:Positive Attitude Resourcefulness Compassion (Christ healing the lepers) Faith (story of Abraham and Isaac) Health and Fitness (D&C 88:124) Perseverance Courage (story of Nephi getting the brass plates) Honesty (primary song #149) Cooperation Responsibility Citizenship (Article of Faith 12) Respect The ideas above are just examples. Any thoughts you have would be greatly appreciated!

Force - no. Teach *correct* principles and let them govern themselves - yes.

To look at this another way - I find it baffling that someone would go to church every week and enjoy the electricity, ac/heat, etc and would feel fine not contributing to help pay for the bill regardless of what 'definition' they found to support their crazy opinion.

Ok, GB, how about this (since even quotes from apostles about tithing hasn't seemed to click for you) - whenever someone functions from an attitude/perspective of 'lack', that's what they'll experience but those who choose generosity practice abundance and that's what they create. Even financial experts encourage donating to charity even if a person doesn't think they can afford it because it shifts your thinking and "as a man thinketh, so is he". Like I said before, I can't imagine nickle and diming the Lord when He hasn't done that with blessings for me.

Well it sounds like you're going into this with your eyes wide open and I applaud you for that! I can't think of any insights to offer (never been divorced or blended a family) but wish you all the best!

Agree to some extent. Providing opportunities to step out of the comfort zone is good but parents need to consider how much the child is already doing that and how far to have them step thus avoiding one reason why kids want to quit activities altogether.

Regarding what activity/ies to choose, I suggest considering their level of energy/movement and social preferences. For example, gymnastics (and other high-paced things) is great for high-energy kids, ballet for those with lower/slower movement. Team sports for extroverts and individual type things for introverts. Hope that helps a bit.

Honestly, what came to my mind is prayer, fasting, showing her that you're happier and more at peace in your life now and an occasional mention of what's working for you and why. I also think patience is going to be key as it may take years and you may not see any progress for some time. All the best!

Yes, that was my point. Thank you JAG. As far as paying on 'increase' - some may interpret that as after the bills are paid but I don't see how that works when there are some who don't have anything left as a result but all are commanded to tithe. One other thought about gross/net - the way I look at it is that the Lord has not nickle and dimed me when it comes to blessings so why would I nickle and dime Him?

Following up on gjchase's awesome comments - When a teenager gets paid for babysitting, they pay 10% on their gross since they don't (usually) pay taxes or have bills. So why would the concept change once you're older? Personally, I'd rather be safe than sorry.

Not necessarily. My dad worked and mom stayed home. They may have struggled but they made it work. It required sacrifices and thinking outside the box. Furthermore, it's not just about how much you make, but how you spend it. Even millionaires have gone bankrupt.

I suggest looking into EFT, EmotionCode and/or Flower Essences. These techniques may seem different but are worth a try! I'm sorry you've experienced that. Hoping you'll be in a better place soon.

I've served in nursery a couple times and if it were me, I would not give up a calling I love, I would just take the kid to the parent immediately following any unruly behavior and not let them come back until they were ready to act appropriately. It's the parents problem to deal with, not yours!

This may not be everyone's approach but it would be mine - until he does some changing of his own, the gaming system would disappear. It's about being proactive not reactive. I'm sorry you're going through this. You deserve better.

Motocross - this may be it: The Power of the Holy Temple

"As a man thinketh, so is he." Start thinking and speaking as though things are already how you'd like them to be. Thoughts and words are very powerful. There's also a poem that describes this idea: Thinking, a poem by Walter D Wintle. poets love Poem at allpoetry

I don't think it would hurt to suggest to the reps to start a YSA fb page. You may need to clear it with the stake president but that's a way to touch base, get to know each other and get info and invites out there.

The thought that came to my mind was to read "The Miracle of Forgiveness" by Kimball. I haven't read it myself but know that it's helped others and since that's what came to mind I figured it was worth mentioning.

I'm no expert but this scenario seems to rule out repentance and forgiveness which I don't think is ever the best idea. People can change and your feelings towards them can change - it just might take more time than you'd like so doing something so permanent...I'd hesitate on that.

Yep - it's all in how you view it. If you see it as a sales push, it is. I choose to look at it as a chance for social interaction. If the invite is from people that don't know me well, I figure it's just a chance for that to change. You can go and have a nice time without buying anything. I do agree that the guilt trip was out of line.

I know you didn't ask but I'm going to say it anyway - Just because an 'expert' (aka doctor in this case) suggests something, doesn't mean you necessarily do it. When a friend of mine was pregnant, her doctor suggested an abortion because he thought the child had Down Syndrome. Not only is that a pitiful reason to end a much anticipated pregnancy but the child (now 10) is perfectly healthy. I know of someone else that followed an 'experts' advice that led to a long and rocky path because it contradicts what THE expert wants us to do. I agree that pharmaceuticals aren't really that great (only an expensive bandaid) but I'd go to a Naturopath before going the marijuana route. Western-trained doctors don't know everything and haven't been educated much beyond 'prescribe and cut'. An ND may be able to help with your situation and point you in a different direction. There are so many other options out there that people just don't realize. Also, I think it's great how willing you are to open your home to family and friends.

A few thoughts - a) I think it depends on the RS. I'm a counselor in primary right now and am glad for it! b) I've had more spiritual moments in nursery and primary than I have in RS. c) Callings aren't about you! The church really needs the best people to help the 'rising generation'. d) Anyone serving the kids needs to be proactive enough to make sure they're on the e-mail lists, get the announcements, go to the (hopefully monthly) RS mtgs, etc. e) It's only temporary.

You deserve *so* much better and so do your kids! He's shown you who he is, unless you want to keep this cycle going, you need to pack your bags. I'd also suggest getting tested for diseases. You can do this! {hugs}

Dravin mentioned what I would have. I will add though that I've known moms that actually have a hard time with the Christmas and Mother's Day calls because they miss them more and they go through that process all over again. Think of it like ripping a bandaid off - doing it quick and for good is actually less painful.