Do women watch porn

[bonanzafan]

there's a lot of badgering toward men for watching it. do women watch it? obviously, i'm not asking this question for men to answer. i just feel like men are picked on and women aren't because they refuse to face public humiliation.

[john doe]

Yes, they do watch it. Perhaps not as prevalent as men, but some women do watch porn.

[Just_A_Guy]

there's a lot of badgering toward men for watching it. do women watch it? obviously, i'm not asking this question for men to answer. i just feel like men are picked on and women aren't because they refuse to face public humiliation.

In LDS culture, we tend to try to inspire men to action by (for lack of a better term) "badgering" (or at least, a very blunt "get with the program" admonition) and women by encouragement. Visit any general priesthood meeting to its Relief Society equivalent, and you'll see what I mean.

[applepansy]

Yes some women watch porn. More women "read" porn.

The subject does come up. We as women have the same commandments regarding this issue.

JAG, I've been in some pretty strongly worded RS meetings. Especially Women's Conference when the Prophet sees a big issue among LDS women.

[Leah]

there's a lot of badgering toward men for watching it. do women watch it? obviously, i'm not asking this question for men to answer. i just feel like men are picked on and women aren't because they refuse to face public humiliation.

Oh, please.

Men are "picked on" when they are told to stop doing something that is wrong?

Do you really think that church authorities are silent when it comes to ANYONE'S sin? Do you really think that women control how the GAs handle these matters?

If you don't want to be called to be "picked on" for viewing porn, then don't view it.

And, of course, women view porn. Women sin, too. Viewing porn is a far more common problem with men, however, so it makes sense that the issue is addressed more often with them.

How is being called to account for one's sin(s) being "picked on"?

[Misshalfway]

Yes, women are watching porn. And the numbers are rising. The internet has changed the game for all of us. Women get the same hit of dopamine that medicates feelings or makes them feel wanted. And they masturbate too.

[Echo2002]

I understand what the OP is saying, everytime this topic comes up it seems to always be directed at the men. It is becoming a bigger problem for women too, but I think more women enjoy reading porn rather than viewing it.

[MorningStar]

I went to a fireside where a counselor said that said the women are catching up with the men, but they are more likely to read stuff or have inappropriate chats with men. If there are a large amount of women in the church with that problem, I wouldn't care if it were addressed frequently to us.

Now let's see if we hear about Pinterest at General Conference.

[Guest]

Fifty Shades of Grey is all I have to say.

[Bini]

I still don't "get" Pinterest, despite, Applepansy taking me under her wing and explaining how it works.

Not sure how common it is within the LDS church but outside of it, I know of friends that willingly watch porn with their boyfriend or husband as a mutual activity.

[Vort]

I still don't "get" Pinterest, despite, Applepansy taking me under her wing and explaining how it works.

Not sure how common it is within the LDS church but outside of it, I know of friends that willingly watch porn with their boyfriend or husband as a mutual activity.

My wife's roommate and good friend at BYU married a guy we thought was a bit...sketchy. When they got back from their honeymoon in the south of France, they talked about how they went to a beach and she took off her top because, hey, that's how the French do it. At first we thought they were joking, then we were pretty much speechless.

But what was our surprise when, a bit later, they revealed that they thought it was nice to watch porn together, and it was okay because, you know, they were married.

I asked my wife recently whether maybe they were just pulling our leg all those years ago. She said she didn't think so. How sad.

[Bini]

My wife's roommate and good friend at BYU married a guy we thought was a bit...sketchy. When they got back from their honeymoon in the south of France, they talked about how they went to a beach and she took off her top because, hey, that's how the French do it. At first we thought they were joking, then we were pretty much speechless.

But what was our surprise when, a bit later, they revealed that they thought it was nice to watch porn together, and it was okay because, you know, they were married.

I asked my wife recently whether maybe they were just pulling our leg all those years ago. She said she didn't think so. How sad.

The argument is that even if you are married, you are watching OTHER people engage in sexual acts, which goes against what we are taught as LDS. Intimate relations are between husband and wife - only. It's not okay to include a third wheel just because you're married and both agree with it.

[MorningStar]

Fifty Shades of Grey is all I have to say.

Are a lot of LDS women reading that?

[Guest]

I don't know about LDS women, but most or all of my non-LDS friends have and rave about it. Women's porn. Can you imagine if a bunch of men freely sat around talking about some porn flick they saw and how they wanted a woman like the leading lady? Women have their porn but for whatever reason it's more "acceptable" to be open about it.

[MorningStar]

I don't know about LDS women, but most or all of my non-LDS friends have and rave about it. Women's porn. Can you imagine if a bunch of men freely sat around talking about some porn flick they saw and how they wanted a woman like the leading lady? Women have their porn but for whatever reason it's more "acceptable" to be open about it.

Yes, that is weird. I don't know if guys sit around talking about porn, but sometimes they watch it together or go to strip clubs together. When a relative of mine confessed to going to a strip club, he told his wife, "I didn't go alone though. I went with friends." Like that makes it better?! I don't understand how anyone would feel comfortable doing that.

[Bini]

Yes, that is weird. I don't know if guys sit around talking about porn, but sometimes they watch it together or go to strip clubs together. When a relative of mine confessed to going to a strip club, he told his wife, "I didn't go alone though. I went with friends." Like that makes it better?! I don't understand how anyone would feel comfortable doing that.

We've discussed the differences in thinking between males and females before, and it's very interesting. I never understood how boys/men find it funny when playfully grabbing at each others groins but I've seen it done a lot. I've seen boys at school do it. I've seen family members do it. It's just not something that girls or women would do. We don't playfully grab at each others breasts and find it amusing - it just isn't done. So the idea that males can participate in group activities, like strip clubs or watching porn, isn't beyond me. Obviously, not every single male behaves this way, but it's not unusual.

[MorningStar]

I just don't get why the idea of sitting in a room aroused with other aroused guys isn't completely repulsive. But then guys don't care about peeing in front of each other either.

[Bini]

I just don't get why the idea of sitting in a room aroused with other aroused guys isn't completely repulsive. But then guys don't care about peeing in front of each other either.

My point exactly.

[Vort]

I just don't get why the idea of sitting in a room aroused with other aroused guys isn't completely repulsive. But then guys don't care about peeing in front of each other either.

I agree with your first statement. Your second statement is a completely different matter; urinating has nothing in common with sex except for the appendage in use. Add to that the fact that men urinate in pretty much an open environment practically from birth, and it's really not all that surprising.

[annewandering]

I agree with your first statement. Your second statement is a completely different matter; urinating has nothing in common with sex except for the appendage in use. Add to that the fact that men urinate in pretty much an open environment practically from birth, and it's really not all that surprising.

It has to do with privacy taboos. Sex and urinating are private functions or so women tend to believe. It is hard for us to understand wanting to do either in public with or without friends.

[Bini]

I agree with your first statement. Your second statement is a completely different matter; urinating has nothing in common with sex except for the appendage in use. Add to that the fact that men urinate in pretty much an open environment practically from birth, and it's really not all that surprising.

We were more or less brainstorming the difference in male and female thinking and behaviour. I don't think guys grabbing at each others privates out of fun is done in a sexual manner at all, yet this tends to be something that only males would do. Women would never try to grope each other for the sake of the sillies and amusement.

[MorningStar]

I agree with your first statement. Your second statement is a completely different matter; urinating has nothing in common with sex except for the appendage in use. Add to that the fact that men urinate in pretty much an open environment practically from birth, and it's really not all that surprising.

Yeah, but then there's the, "Let's write our name in the snow!" stuff.

[Vort]

We were more or less brainstorming the difference in male and female thinking and behaviour. I don't think guys grabbing at each others privates out of fun is done in a sexual manner at all, yet this tends to be something that only males would do. Women would never try to grope each other for the sake of the sillies and amusement.

Speaking for myself, I always hated the "grab-ball" thing and thought it was more than vaguely homoerotic (though my youth was long enough ago that we didn't really say such words). In fact, almost all of the boys I knew felt the same way, and grab-balls was limited to a very few of the alpha males who were apparently trying to impress each other. I always wondered what they found impressive about handling another male's genitals...but as a non-Alpha, I viewed them with mingled distaste and disgust, and just dismissed it as more perverse weirdness from the bully freaks. Not the most Christ-like assessment, I grant you.

[MorningStar]

We were more or less brainstorming the difference in male and female thinking and behaviour. I don't think guys grabbing at each others privates out of fun is done in a sexual manner at all, yet this tends to be something that only males would do. Women would never try to grope each other for the sake of the sillies and amusement.

Where do you live? Guys grabbing other guys when I was growing up would have led to a major bum kicking.

[Vort]

Yeah, but then there's the, "Let's write our name in the snow!" stuff.

When a man urinates, he does not undress, exposing only enough to get the job done. So it's not really comparable to women's urination. (Plus, women go to the bathroom in groups, which, let's face it, is just plain weird.)

And writing your name in the snow is more fun than you might think. I'm in awe of the women who can write her name in the snow.