What should I do to get away from here

[SLM284]

Would a change of location be good for me - I must be the same person - yet how could I do it ? When I sit in church or go to the store I have found I can only be a friend if I have money in my pocket as a customer. Therefore no friends. Yet I am sure there are friends somewhere. I have found a Bishop that can only ask if I need something only in my happiest moments. I have found from a Bishop when seeking help - that complain I am too well off to need some thing. Yet I know not all Bishops are the same yet must go some where to find some one else therefore what is possible. When I looked for work somewhere I am suddenly different. The responsibility of the HR Human Resource department is knowing what job to give therefore someone alway gets one yet its a matter of who and when. Therefore 40 years can go by with no job to support living some where else. Many things happen to people there are 2 sides to an issue how they think and how I think. Therefore there is fact or fiction. Knowing the difference is important. Therefore people can believe in fact or fiction differently. Yet it happens. Therefore when researching something about facts therefore when its found to be fact or fiction. Therefore being LDS I still believe that D&C 89 is still important to me. I am almost 65 and now that father died things are different how much different would take some explaining. Father made sure we were comfortable in Summer and Winter and Cooked meals good for us with in the money he had. His Grandmother was Joseph Smith's family. Which Joseph Smith would take explaining; History shows there were several of them and its known to be true: Joseph Smith Senior, Joseph Smith Junior, Joseph Smith the 3rd, and Joseph Fielding Smith and Joseph Fielding Smith Junior and there are several at least 4 LDS type Churches: The West, The Midwest, and North of the Midwest and Polygamous groups in the U.S. scattered all over the world. Therefore Joseph Smith has been accused of being a polygamist yet they do not realize which one never was a polygamist I know this they are relatives. Therefore with that introduction I hope and pray I added enough information to explain my problem. Now Sister and her Husband have come to stay he thankfully smokes outside. She quit smoking. They with their dog and cat and the Doggie door is near my bed including their entertainment room on the otherside of the wall. With their collection of bottles - Alcohol. Their TV, and their Stereo - that came on at midnight by itself near my bed. A Coffeepot that is programed to come on near 5:28am - the air is thick with brewed Coffee. After getting their Coffee the air conditioning that they liked set near 70F or less - I needed to go outside just to get warmed up. Almost every day the panic of being Cold I must rub my legs to get warm I must wear something warm and take it off before going outside in summer. When the power bill arrived mother explained its too high and blamed it on using the TV and Computer and Me - yet nothing about the air conditioning. Things happened the why it is or once was. Therefore if someone saw how all of these things happen or still happen some one knows what happened to them yet I am being introduced to this now. Yet as a child father and mother stopped doing these thing and made sure they quit. I have no place to go and still no job to pay for it.

Edited September 9, 2017 by SLM284

[Jane_Doe]

I would focus first on getting a job-- any job.  There are plenty of programs to help you shine your resume, interview well, etc.  Once you have a job, you will have much greater flexibility in other areas of your life.  

[Guest]

Tell your family that if they wish to continue living with you, they need to obey the word of wisdom.  If they want coffee or alcohol have it somewhere else.  If they smoke, they must do it far away and air out thoroughly before coming home.

Get a job any where and choose for yourself where you want to go.

[mordorbund]

I'm having flashbacks from reading Faulkner.

[anatess2]

You're 65 years old?  It will be difficult to find a job.  Regardless of skill or ability.

Who is living with you other than your sister and husband?  Wife?  Kids?  You can kick out everyone else but not your wife and your kids under 18 if you feel you are losing control of your life.  Remember - you can't control other people, you can only control how you react to them.  So, if you want to take control back, you'll have to lessen the impact of their decisions on you.  Are you living in your house or is it somebody else's house?  If it's your house, you get to say who stays or goes.  Take control.  If it's somebody else's house, then you might want to move so you have more control.

If you decide to move, there are many places that are very favorable for retirement age.  Harris County in Texas is a good one (yes, they got flooded in the recent hurricane, but there are nice, cheap places north of Houston that didn't get flooded).  They have healthcare coverage for senior citizens with low or no income.  And they provide SS too.  Highland Ranch, Colorado is also a good one.  Thick LDS presence there and they have good social programs for senior citizens.  Dunno how affordable the housing and taxes is, though.  I've only been there for a visit.

About bishops - I find that when we look at bishops as human beings trying their best to magnify their callings, then we'll have a better relationship with bishops even when they do stuff that is not as helpful.  It's like my dad - sometimes I would get so mad at him but then I step back and think, hey, my dad is human and he is doing his best to be a good father to me.  And when I acknowledge the great things he has done (I wouldn't be me now if it wasn't for my parents) then I don't get mad at him anymore.

 

Edited September 12, 2017 by anatess2

[Jane_Doe]

1 hour ago, anatess2 said:

  Highland Ranch, Colorado is also a good one.  Thick LDS presence there and they have good social programs for senior citizens.  Dunno how affordable the housing and taxes is, though.  I've only been there for a visit.

 

Highlands Ranch is a suburb of Denver, right by the Denver temple.  It is a very nice upper middle class area, but also super expensive.  If you want to rent a studio apartment there it's ~$800-1200 a month.