jjrogers

As a woman, I would be livid with my husband. I would yell, scream and threaten divorce BECAUSE of how hurt, devistated and betrayed I would feel. For the sake of my children I would stay. But our marriage would be in serious trouble and I would have great difficulty in ever trusting him again. On top of that to find out he hadn't talked to the Bishop would make me even madder that he did priesthood duties he wasn't worthy to do. And to know that God was not important enough in his life to at least face God even if he didn't want to face me.

I hold onto the fact that God would never ask me to go through something that was so hard unless it was truly for my good. Now, having said that, it doesn't cover consequences from my sins.

I also like The Coming of the Lord by Gerald Lund.

dang and I was hoping this was a place I could put telling my BIL and SIL not to buy a house 19 months ago in Mesa Arizona because home prices were coming down. (They ignored me and bought a house they couldn't affor and are paying 1600 a month on an interest only loan.) Oh and the house is now worth 40,000 less than what they paid for it. I was suprised that 1 in 100 carry that gene. It would be interesting to see how much of central american and south america have this gene.

Actually cell phones work off of radio technology.

I actually bought it in the last couple of years. THey have reprinted it.

never ever say maybe when you mean no. you should only say maybe if it is leaning to the heavily yes area. It isn't fair to say maybe to someone if you mean no. How would you feel if you had asked your dad to do something that was super important to you and he said maybe and then no? Saying maybe with no intention of saying yes is actually cowardly. It means that you are going to do what you want to do, but you don't want to have to deal with the consequences of telling someone no. I REALLY hate it when parents or grandparents tell children maybe when they mean no.

I would check out NACD. The National Association for Child Development I have seen good success with my brother who has down syndrom. And with some of my friends children.

I found this quote in a book called The Coming of The Lord by Gerald Lund. It is talking about what we need physically to build zion. The quote is from David O McKay in 1935 "If we have in mind the physical Zion, then we must strive for more fertile acres; bring from the mountains gold and silver in abundance; found factories to furnish more employment; extend in length and width our concrete public highways; build banks to protect, or to dissipate, as has been the case recently, the wealth we accumulate; transform our vast coal fields into electricity that will furnish light, heat and power to eavery family; improve the means of communication until with radio in our pockets we may communicate with friends and loved ones from any point at any given moment." Can I just say Cell phones. I love prophets.

When I was on my mission, I taught a girl that was told in her gift of the holy ghost blessing that she had been promised in the pre mortal life that she would be able to have the gosple and that the sisters who made those promises had kept them. So I know that being a convert can mean that you were promised the gosple. Second, I think that we have an equal ability when it come to being wicked or righteous. So when I think of evil dictators, I think about how righteous they could have been if they had chosen that. I don't think there were fence sitters. I think the fight was bad enough that everyone chose sides. I think everyone cared about the fight. I think satan would like us to think that we were fence sitters so that he make us feel down and depressed. I truly think it is actually an attack from satan.

I think the oil in the lamps represents our personal worthiness. That is what God is going to look at, at judgement time. And it is the only thing we can't share. I heard that with President Benson he would be sleeping in the meetings and the meetings would reach a point where a decision would need to be made and he would wake up and say what should be done.

Okay, I have totaly issues in this area as well. At this time I am not having to take care of my parents. However it is getting really old to have my mother tell me that we owe it to her and my dad to take care of them and that the church says we have to. Please understand that she was abusive and neglectful growing up and does not respect boundries. I don't feel like I owe her anything. I definately don't need her in my home, making my life hell. My siblings and I have talked. We will either all chip in and pay for her to be in a home, or one of my brothers has offered to take her in when the time comes and we will send him money. I don't think we owe our parents to take care of them. Especially when my mother has made no effort to set things up to take care of herself. She wants us to all chip in and pay 3800 dollars for new hearing aids for my dad, while she is still buying stuff she doesn't need off of ebay.

There are 3 kinds of trials. 1)the kind that come from sin or bad choices we make 2)those that come from having a physical body. (like your bi-polar) 3) those that God allows to happen for us to grow. with number three, which you are exsperienceing some of are an opportunity to grow. I think when it comes to your daughter you need to support her in charging him. I think another thing to remember is that when we pay the price for other people's sins we actually recieve an understanding of the atonement and the price that Christ paid for our own sins. I second the person that suggested councling.

My mom and I actually had a huge argument about this. I feel that the choice he made was not the choice I would have made. Having said that, I feel like I have way too many things in my own life that I need to change to worry about what someone else is doing. Maybe it is bad of me, but other than my dh and children, I really don't care what other people are doing. They are responsible for their choices to God, just as I am responsible for my choices to God. And someday we have to account for them. I am teaching my children that we live a certain way, regarldess of how others live. And that quite frankly the way we live is going to be very different from others. I also told my mom that if you watch entertainment that makes alcohol, or other things we don't participate look fun and good, how are you any different than the actor? Much of entertainment actually makes alcohol use look more enticing than the commercials for it. But my mom is the type that loves to critisize how everyone lives and the choices they are making. People like this are usually the most unable to accept any critisizm about their life. I am sure the actor knew when he took this job that he would get flack for it.

Smoking pot does have effects many people don't realize. If a pre teen girl smokes pot it can actually halt puberty. If a man smokes it he can grow breasts. I had a drug brain and behavior class in college. when the professor made the statemnet that a man can grow breasts, the guy behind me said, that can't really happen can it? We all knew who was smoking too much pot. So just because pot may not make you violent like crystal meth does not mean it is not affecting your body.

There are two kinds of depression. One is biochemical and the other is situational. With biochemical depression the medications are very effective. To say someone should eventually stop taking them is like telling me I should just stop wearing my glasses and I should be able to see. (without my glasses I would be considered blind.) There is something wrong with the way the body works. The meds help it work. Post partum falls under this catagory. People who have this kind should be on their meds their whole life. The depression will not go away if they are not on meds. And many people in this catagory are quite suprised at how much better they function on meds. With Situational depression the meds aren't so helpful. This is the type of depression that people tend to have with divorce or death or other life events. These people could get off meds and not need to be on them after a bit. Usually what is needed here is time and changes in life.

I read the whole post. I am not sure how I feel about it. I do know that if the brethern tell me to leave, I will leave. I am working on our food storage because it is a commandment and loads of emergencies can happen. I do believe that we can be given dreams. However most of our spiritual experiences are for our on good and we aren't to share them because of the sacred nature of those experiences. We are to only share them when moved upon by the spirit. I worry about being deceived in these last days as that has been prophecised about as well. I have also seen apostate groups form preaching and teaching things that the bretheren just aren't "allow to teach to the general membership of the church" and then these people leave the church over it. So I guess I will wait for the prophet and follow him.

Sorry, I wasn't very clear. How is it going to change in california? What is going to be different?

How are saying california will be changing soon?

I have been homeschooling for 6 years. It is what the Lord has told us to do for our family. I just ignore the people who tell me I am dumb for doing it. I find it interesting that people think teachers have no gaps in their education. I have a bachelors degree as well. And there is still so much out there for me to learn. One of the things I really like is that my children actively like each other and miss each other when one is gone for a couple hours. They help each other and in general are kind. Also my kids miss out on a lot of the garbage of the world at this point. Both of my neighbor girl's became sexually active in the 7th grade. My oldest would be getting ready to enter into middle school next year. He is not prepared to enter into that kind of environment where sex is normal at the age of 12-13. I guess I believe that in general it takes a very special child to be put into an R or X rated environment and come out PG.

I quit watching Oprah about 6 years ago. The reason I quit watching her show was because I felt that she was actually making most women unhappy with their life. She would do a show on affordable outfits. The outfits still cost 200+ dollars. Ummm maybe my definition is a bit different on what is affordable. She showed a lot of materialism in her show. I decided it was adding nothing constructive to my life. I know a lot of women that would quote Oprah in relief society. I wonder how much better that hour would have been spent studying the prophets and being able to quote them. As for the book mentioned, I saw that author on Oprah and heard her tell Oprah it didn't matter which religion or path you take, everyone is going back to live with God again. That is definately not truth. I watched the show because I knew the author was LDS. As for Dr. Phil, I felt that at first he did good as well. If someone asks me to go on his show, I will know something is definately wrong in my life. I do like his statement, How is that working for you?

I have to say I am married to a very good man. I think a big problem is Pornography. More men are addicted to it than women. And that leads to other sins. Now if something was to happen to my dear husband, I have to say I wouldn't date a person with this problem. I have watched too many of my girlfriends cry over this issue in their marriage. I know I could not handle it. So I guess there are sins that a person could do in the past that would make me not date them.

We don't forget our sins so that we don't repeat them. Sometimes it takes us longer to forgive ourselves than it takes God to forgive us.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Please understand it will take you a long time to trust your husband again. What he did was devastating. I know that Christ can help you with this burdern and help you know what to do. One of my dear friends had this happen to her. They have been able to rebuild their marriage over the last 7 years. If you are both willing to work at it, it can be done. If he isn't willing to work at it or you aren't it won't work.

Actually most of my experiences with evangelical christians have been bad. I have been informed multiple times that I am going to hell. My first experience was at the age of six when I was informed that I wasn't allowed to play with another child because I was "mormon" and going to hell and her preacher (the mother's) told her all about what we "believed" (most of it false) and how evil we were. At 12 I was informed that at church we dance naked down the aisles and horns come out of our head. I have been told I couldn't send my kids to certain schools or join certain groups because I was "mormon" and therefore not Christian. I find it interesting that evangelicals think they actually get to decide who is christian and who isn't. I thought that judgement was up to Christ. I get sick of the anti-mormon literature that they continue to pass around some of them knowing that it is absolutely false. But ultimately, that is between them and God. I am accountable for my actions and they are accountable for theirs. I simply am polite and don't bother to argue with them.