ruthiechan

You are supposing that Christ would do the dishonest thing and sell/give the defect table to someone. That reaction would be sinful. However, this being Christ he would probably just say, oops, and fix it before passing it off to the intended owner.

Christ was perfect because he was without sin. I'm sure He, at some point, measured a table leg incorrectly and ended up with a wobbly table. That kind of mistake is not a sin. Sin is when you break the commandments of God.

There is no double standard on this. Here's why:

They should tell you the age range of the students who are bored. It'll change what you plan on doing about it. One idea for feedback is asking the kids for ideas on how to make singing time more fun. Perhaps allow more free choice (I hated singing the same songs over and over again, or the happy fluffy bunny songs, then again, I was depressed). One thing that primary kids seem to like is having a ball yard in a container that you have to spool out. A kid pulls out the yarn, slowly and the kids have to sing slow, if fast, then fast, if they stop then they have to stop. Silly activities like that. You can do the same kind of thing with red light, green light card. I really don't know what you personally do. I understand your feelings. Pray for inspiration. *hugs*

Ooo. Good point.

Well, when you want to wear lingerie and be sexy for your man, garments rather ruin the effect. And some spouses find the garments off putting, so finding some sort of agreeable compromise is a good thing. The Bishop who gave me the counsel that garments were not meant to be a barrier between intimacy said that men want two things from their woman. Sexiness and purity. It makes sense that with your man you can be very sexy, but toward any other man you would not be sexy. Hence you, as a woman, can be both very sexy and pure at the same time. Also, my husband says that the best things in life happen without pants. So yeah, we'll lounge in our undies or in nothin' at all when we can.

My Bishop told me, when I was having this issue with my husband, that the garments are not supposed to be a barrier to intimacy. What works for you and your spouse will be different than with me and mine. If you'd like details on how we worked it out PM me. :)

You can be sexually selfish by withholding sex or by demanding it. Is selfishness abuse? Yeah, probably.

Adoption is a perfectly fine alternative. You can go through LDS Services when adopting. If you do marry, I hope you take to the Lord about your choice of spouse before you put a ring on her finger.

Vort hit the nail on the head. SELFISHNESS It's easier to give up then work hard at maintaining a good marriage.

Yes, that was sarcasm. In the case I cited above the mother didn't do anything like that. She forced a sexual relationship on her son. You don't have to have any kind of penetration to be sexually assaulted.

Then there's the other end of it. A man is raped. Oh, but if it's a woman raping a man, that can't be because she can't penetrate him. I remember in my Adolescence class we watched a vid about a teenager who murdered his mother, but she had been sexually abusing him and he finally snapped. He was put in jail for life for it. Why? Because he's a guy killing a woman. Not only that but I recall a classmate behind me say that "if he really wanted to stop it he could've stopped it." Why? Because he's a guy and therefore bigger and stronger than his mother. I turned around, shocked, and told her that was sexist. She simply said, well it's true. Men apparently can't be raped or sexually abused (or abused in another way) by women. It's a horrible thing to believe and leads to grossly under reporting by men.

Rely on the Spirit. Always. Read your scriptures every day. Do everything you can to maintain clarity of thought and calmness of heart. I found that to be very helpful. Satan will use your own religion against you. Healing is possible. So is the rebirth of mutual trust.

I'm with Jennarator. Trust your instincts. Your instincts tell you to get away. So do it. You have support, you are fortunate in this. I will pray for you. Normally, I, too, am in the "work it out" camp, however, there are times when that is truly not an option. Not a good one anyway. *hugs*

Show him love and patience. You can live the tenants of the Gospel without getting baptized. The most basic tenant is love and service. You can do that for your husband. Love him, support him, pray for him. There are God-believing people who ARE mentally ill. Example, this crazy lady: Guilty verdict in 'exorcism' trial | The Journal Gazette | Fort Wayne, IN It's the absolute of ALL that is false. However, it sounds like he needs to know that you're not going to turn into a lunatic, that you'll still be the person he loves. Hence, follow the basic tenant of love and service and do so toward your husband. *hugs*

*laughs* My original "Duh!" comment was facetious. I find it pretentious when someone asks "have you read my post?" Age and experience are two very different things. Thanks for letting me know that you have an ageist attitude. I now better understand a coworker I used to have who refused to divulge his age.

Sensibility, it took me a second to realize that you're female while reading your post. LOL. Typically gay is used for males and lesbian for females, hence my initial confusion. (I think the gender based name differentiation is silly myself.)

Anatess, my immediate family quickly got over me not marrying someone in the church, interestingly, however, I've had some in laws decide that there is something wrong with me because of it. To the OP, that makes me think that you'll get some people in the church or other family members looking at you like you are nuts for still showing your son love. But you know what, as long as you are listening to the Spirit's guidance, you'll do fine. Age matters? Really? Again, what does that have to do with anything? None of these things (age, number of children, number of gay children) have any bearing on the subject. I think you are looking for superficial reasons to invalidate my comments. Duh. And that automatically makes you an expert on judging when a child is gay? Child development is my field. I know whereof I speak when I say that playing dress up indiscriminately with male and female clothing is normal if the child is not discouraged. They naturally explore roles. It is societal expectations and beliefs that discourage boys from doing anything girly. Wasn't talking about being prejudiced. I was talking about labeling people. The two are not the same. You can label someone gay and not be prejudice. Yes, of course we love them no matter what. And OF COURSE that child is being influenced! My daughter LOVES trucks and tanks and things because she saw her father's model tanks all the time. We did not actively encourage it, it was just there. For all we know this boy identifies strongly with his mother and is roleplaying. It could also be that he has a female imaginary friend. Often times boys will impersonate their imaginary friend instead of simply pretending to see a person who's not there. My point is that WE DO NOT KNOW what is going on in that kid's head, what his motivations for playing with girly stuff is. Thus, it is necessary to refrain from making judgement calls on his sexual orientation. Pre-judgments change how we act toward someone, albeit subtly. That is so wrong on so many levels. That family did not act according to Gospel standards.

You are wrong. This does NOT mean that boy is gay. It means he's into girls things. There are many men who are gay and are not into girl stuff. It is possible that this boy just likes girl things. He could be a transvestite or a metro-sexual. Or it means neither! It is NORMAL for children to play dress up with their parents stuff, including the parent of opposite gender. Why is it that when we see boys playing with girl stuff we immediately label them gay, but if girls play with boy stuff they're called tomboys instead of lesbian? Seriously. Do not prejudge children. Geez. *** To the OP, you've gotten some awesome advice. One of the saddest stories I've heard is about a Mormon guy living a homosexual lifestyle and is ostracized by his family. His family *says* he's always welcome, but they won't allow his partner to any family events, so of course, he never goes. Can't say that I'd blame him. If my family told me I was welcome but because I married a nonmember he's not allowed to family events I wouldn't feel welcomed either.

Chiropractic also helps my migraines, as well as getting sufficient sleep, and drinking enough water. I really hate it when I realize I'm having migraine because I haven't been drinking enough water. >_<

Fetishes are only a problem if it: 1: Impedes your ability to function in society. 2: Prevents you from being able to have a meaningful committed relationship. 3: Inhibits your ability to feel the Spirit. 4: Obstructs Temple worthiness. Just because a particular fetish seems utterly bizarre to you does not mean it falls in either of those categories. It means you do not have that fetish.

Have you talked to your visiting teachers or your home teachers or Bishop about this? They may have some advice. Keep up your daily religious observances. It's amazing when answers to your prayers pop out at you during scripture study or while praying (and sometimes about something else entirely!). You're in my prayers. *hugs* I disagree with this. Blind faith is stupid, and is NOT the same as complete trust in the Lord, and thus doing as he asks without an explanation first. Also, a pause of doubt is not like Satan. It is human. Satan uses our humanness against us, but that's not the same as being of Satan. When feeling a pause of doubt that's when you reach out to the Spirit to confirm your feelings. Good feelings are nice and all, but don't necessarily come from the Lord. An idea or thought can seem like a great idea, giving you happy-like feelings, but actually have dire consequences. Nothing wrong with double checking.

I must say, however, that caffeine withdrawal can cause migraines. So those of you who OD on Excedrin, or take caffeine to reduce symptoms must do so with caution. Otherwise, the medicine that is supposed to help you will start to be the cause of the migraine instead in its absence. Make sense?

What music do you listen to? What movies and TV shows do you watch? What books do you read? What language do you use? Music that incites sexual feelings or has suggestive lyrics, stop listening to them. Movies and TV shows that have suggestive content, or sex them in, stop watching them. Books that are suggestive and have sexual content in them, stop reading them. Swearing (you know what words I'm talking about) and making sexual jokes makes you think about sex. When other people make those jokes ask them to stop and if they do not, leave. Eventually they'll get it and be cool with it. If you are an artist, switch to abstract art or animals, nothing that draws the mind to sex. Distract yourself with service. Go help other people when you begin to have those feelings. Get on your knees and pray when you have those feelings. Do something that will help you feel the Spirit.

Derp. Now that you said it, appears to be a quite obvious thing to do.