ruthiechan

Backroads, I approve of the parents' decision. It allows the child to be involved in the choice in the future. With something that is so personal that has such profound consequences on that child I feel that intersex children have the right to choose for themselves. And that goes back to the question, what is a right? Do parents have a right to choose a gender for their intersex child?

Vort, this point could come from how you believe that homosexuals already have their rights and they are asking for special rights, yet other people disagree with this.

She may have been high on something else. . . that's why they wanted to check the brownies for drugs. Perfectly reasonable. Also, overripe strawberries smell like alcohol. If she ate anything that was overripe. . .

Uh, I should clarify, the ones that were warnings did not come true (I listened yo), but some of the get prepared ones did. I've also gotten spiritual advice too in my dreams. Oh, I once dreamed about having a blond haired little girl with cute puffy cheeks and frowning because I wouldn't let her have her way. While the setting was completely wrong, when my daughter get to be the same age I realized it was the same kiddo in the dream! I also dreamed that I went into labor in April (which made me think I was going to have the baby in April). At 10:20pm on the last day of April my water broke and I had to go the hospital. A little over five hours later and I had my kiddo. Everyone thought I was nuts when I kept pushing to get things prepared since I wasn't due until May 16th. Pretty cool eh?

Oh yes, I've had many dreams. Some were warnings, or get prepared since they came true.

Thanks!

The opposite of Molly Mormon is a non-stereotypical Mormon.

So, for class, I have to conduct a very short survey. If anyone would like to participate that would be great. You can email me your answers (ruthiechan AT ruthiechan DOT net) or PM me (and as you can guess school and family is where I've been spending most of my time instead of here). Please check mark which response closest resembles your opinion. Overall, do you believe that businesses are fair in their treatment of the family needs of their employees? __Totally fair, __Fair, __Somewhat fair, __Somewhat unfair, __Unfair, __Totally unfair Science tells us that the first three years of life are critical for a child's development. Would you approve of businesses being mandated to offer maternity leave of up to three (3) years? __Totally approve, __Approve, __Somewhat approve, __Somewhat unapprove, __Unapprove, __Totally unapprove Would you approve of businesses being mandated to offer maternity leave of up to two (2) years? __Totally approve, __Approve, __Somewhat approve, __Somewhat unapprove, __Unapprove, __Totally unapprove Would you approve of businesses being mandated to offer maternity leave of up to one (1) year? __Totally approve, __Approve, __Somewhat approve, __Somewhat unapprove, __Unapprove, __Totally unapprove These questions are optional: What is your age? What is your gender? What is your ethnicity? What is your marital status?

I think the biggest hurdle is trying to define religion as rational. However, I do like the idea of LDS people who are also into science and reasoning. I think slamjet is right, there is a lot of that on the Gospel Discussion. On the other hand, this website is defined by simply sharing the Gospel, not upon principles of logic.

This is why I think people need to be open to the idea of sharing so that the spirit can then more easily direct them to share an experience. If the Spirit is nudging you to share something then you know you're doing the right thing.

That what in my last sentence should be with in reference to my first post. >_<

However, love is also a choice, especially romantic love. I choose not to fall in love with anyone but my husband. But there are different kinds love and it's the shift in focus on the type of love that allows me to love without infidelity. One thing he must never do is complain about his wife to his coworker. They must never go out to lunch to discuss work together alone. They must never hug, or rub each other's shoulders. He needs to talk about his wife to her in positive ways, such as how amazing she is and all the wonderful things they do together, etc etc. It may seem over blown but it is not. This, what my above advice will allow him to work with this woman without having inappropriate feelings.

There are probably aspects of her personality that are similar to his wife's personality. I have had unexpected feelings for male friends but I realized it's because they are similar to the man I am married to. These men also happen to be my husband's friends so chucking them out of my life is not an option. I am just careful with boundaries so as to not trigger anything and keep my focus on sibling type love. If I begin to feel anything inappropriate again I take it to prayer and fasting and then go serve my husband. I also focus on the BROTHERLY love I have for them, and leave it at that.

And sometimes they are not a spiritual experience because it does not come from God but from those who followed Lucifer. What I like about your story is that it demonstrates how much our choices here affect the people who have gone before (what we do also affect those who are to come).

Well, that explains why she was so upset. Hopefully she has since been comforted. Since you do not have permission to do the first wife's work there should be a way to fix it all up and put everything in its proper order when Christ returns. edit: Thank you for sharing btw.

So, the second wife was being sealed to her husband before the first wife? If so, I think that might actually matter. You may have made the first wife the second wife.

Oh, wow. Were you doing another family member's temple work or some random person you've never met?

You'll be in my prayers. *hugs*

Vort, buddy, you can do better than to resort to name calling. If you go back and reread Iinarihoudai's response you'll see that despite her ire she did give a reasoned response about why Traveler's extreme example doesn't wash, namely that pregnancy by rape is one of three reasons why the church will not discipline a woman for getting an abortion. Therefore the assertion that the benefit of life coming out of the rape is more beneficial than homosexuality does not work. It seems to me that you are doing the very thing you are saying that Iinarihoudai is doing to Traveler.

I've shared spiritual experiences on the internet as well. If I'm comfortable with it and the Lord is comfortable with it, then I'm good. What you share is between you and the Lord. Your story is interesting because I would not think that an upset spirit would be allowed in the Temple. It sounds like I need to reevaluate some assumptions. Why would the first wife be upset with you?

Go back to church, see if it's something you really want again, before marrying. Learn how to pray again and how to feel the Spirit again. Then pray about it. I am married to a non-member. I prayed about it and much to my surprise I got a green light. It's hard sometimes. But he knew I was Mormon and woudl stay that way. I am not intent on changing him though it'd be nice. I'll get my temple marriage someday, with or without him, if I choose to. We have a daughter. We agreed that she'd be raised in the church but that she would not be required to be baptized or to go every Sunday (she chose to get baptized and comes to church regularly, her choice). I teach her the Gospel at home which is reinforced at church. So far so good. But here's the key thing in all this. I took it to the Lord. You should too. It's the only way to know for certain if marrying him is the right thing to do.

It sounds like he's setting up an expectation of controlling you completely. If you accept this from him, what other kinds of mistreatment will you get out of him? He's belittling you albeit in a subtle-like fashion, making you think he's the one with the issue but if you say anything about anything he's saying it'll be your fault that it doesn't work. The moment you make a mistake he'll say it's over, you'll cry and beg and he'll come up with some other ultimatum to further control you. Take this to prayer about what to do. Bishops are fallible. He will likely tell you you need to try to work it out, but working it out is a two way thing, not an ultimatum with one person in control of the relationship. If you do not leave now you will likely become a victim of domestic violence either psychologically, sexually or physically. No, I am not kidding. This is a 180 from his previous loving behavior before you were married. That's a huge red flag. Also, don't have sex with him or have sex with him with a condom to prevent throwing children into the mix.

Dreams that are visions feel different from regular dreams. So there's that. Also, sometimes you don't see the person but you feel the person. I've had some interesting experiences and so have some people I know. I gather from your post that you really want to see your wife again and hope that she's okay. I am so sorry for your loss. You can help her be okay by finding someone who will have her work done for her. You can still pray for her that she'll accept the Gospel. You can also do whatever it is that YOU need to do to be able to be sealed to her. It is possible. It really is. If you do, great blessings will be in store for your family and it'll be wonderful.

I recall seeing a lady in Sacrament meeting bending to get something out of her baby's diaper bag, and boy did that show off a lot of cleavage. I remember thinking she needed to dress modestly. Then she sat up and her shirt was COMPLETELY above her breasts. No cleavage showing whatsoever. Was it immodest for her to bend down to get something? The only way for her to not show *ANY* cleavage when bending over in her seat was to wear a turtleneck, which would be a ridiculous requirement. She's not fat, she's just busty. That's not her fault. Anyone faulting her for this would be in error. Women can do their part to keep modest, I am all for that. Women need to dress in a manner that does not further accentuate their sexual bits (private moments with the spouse excepted). HOWEVER, men need to do their part too! After all, men can't control what worldly women wear, and they can't control a woman's bust size. They can only control themselves.

Just because standard callings are always filled doesn't mean some new calling can't be given. Someone was recently called to basically write up/type the relief society lessons that are given, recording comments, and what the teacher said etc, for the ladies in callings that require them to miss Relief Society, or if someone had to miss church. So, there's always something that can be done, and sometimes people would love to have an official assistant! I visited Utah, I know it's not all sun shiny roses over there, it just looks like it sometimes. And you know, we ALL screw up after we get baptized. Really, we do. So don't worry about that. *hugs* That's what repentance is for. We do the best we can and the Savior makes up for the rest. Regarding the abuse and therapy I second what LiterateParakeet said. *hugs*