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i went a public school in new jersey, just across the river from NYC, and we (boys) had to wear a jacket and tie (suits, suit jacket, etc.). this was from (for me) 1966 to 1970, hippie era, of which i considered my self one...hippie, not era. mini-skirts just came out and they were banned in school. next day, EVERY girl that owned one, wore it. next day, they were no longer forbidden. some of the boys tried to do the same with jackets and ties (other schools in our county didnt have to wear them) and it failed miserably. girls rule!!

i totally agree with whatever maya said......lol...and welcome

nice one, gwen

excuse me, but......TORTUGA family?......SPANISH for turtle?.......SPANISH? yeah..whatever. (psst....vito..if any of thdese goombas try to tell me thdat tortuga is italian....give em a wack) (huh?...what?.......YEAH......WACK 'EM......geez.......my sista's kid...wadda ya gonna do?)

and if he doesnt....because this can be a VERY confusing issue......you need to set your own boundries and cut him loose if necessary.....i hope you dont need to. this goes VERY deep......and his recovery is...a challenge. give him support...but dont coddle him. and if he falls.....help him up.....but dont let him lean upon you too much...he must find his own strength.

maya...i can be such a procrastinator......PLEASE teach me finnish. oh....wait.....finnish, the language......yeah, right. ok..sorry...by now.

BLAST......ok...so maybe that sounded arrogant.....didnt mean for it to. i was judging....sorry. fact is, if it came down to me providing for my family (shelter, food, medicine, etc), in all honesty.....i would do what is necessary and accept the consequences......for my love of them. wouldnt you?

dont let the shortcomings of others be a guide for your life......because no one says anything doesnt make it right. we all make our choices in life...and will deal with them...no excuses.

(OOPS.....didnt mean to send that to the editor quite that fast) something......... SOMETHING ...... GREATER THAN ALL OF HER PASSION FOR LOVE...FOR LIFE...... for....TRUTH!!! and in ways, we find that greater truth. that moves us beyond our dreams. when she finds that....if she does........ how wonderful in truth will her books become?

ok?...see?....happy ending? goes through life...passionate......about, LIFE!! but stil..out of touch with ..........with....... BLAST!!

what do i need....thats it? well going by your picture, i would have thought the the pookha reference would inspire something other than that. or did i spell it wrong for you to google it? maybe i'll take a nap. just kidding. welcome.

lost?......have you ever felt that someones love can be more humbling than anothers insult? i think i see the reason for this post....and you're right. you're loved. DEAL WITH IT.

i ABSOLUTELY agree with beefche (dang...just HOW is that pronounced). she needs to find her path to........all of it (blast, that sounds trite). as for my agreeing with beefche?.......yeah, right.....as if i'm even in the same league.

welcome, harvey..........what are you sellin' ? you HAVE to be a salesman, right? unless you're a pookha.

JOKER...I HAVE TO ADMIT....YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. sometimes the process of wanting to stop and finding out how, is the therapy.

ok...so i will admit that i didnt read all of the posts, so here goes. seems to me that in order to write such a novel, your friend must have some passionate ideas about love and can communicate them.....it is a romance novel, right?..or is it just flat our porn? lets say romance...i like that better. so, your friend is passionate. the world is passionate. no denying she is writing about what happens in the world. she goes to church. struggles with her passionate/worldly love and her spiritual love that coexists side by side with it, which is every bit as passionate. --------------------------------------OR-------------------------------------------- she writes about being so passionate in the world, and niave about it, but has a sense of spiritual love as well...and thge confusion that ensues..... ----------------------OR-------------------------- the list goes on. surely there is some way that a creative and communicative mind such as hers can turn this from soft porn to spirit.

LOL.....good one....i love questions of timing.......and, as stated above, yes. sometimes we are this, sometimes we are that....it's all a question of timing.

I love that!!!!!

Tarnished, i would recommend that your friend start therapy with someone who has experience with this issue. Because your friend was introduced at so young an age and it has left such a strong imprint on your friends life, i do beleive that any self-help method will be ineffective. i was also introduced to extremely explicit porn at the age of 7 by an older friend......there weren't magazines then, just real photos of what you knew were real people. This is more serious than your friend can know, because of your friends age at the timke. The old saying of "get them while they are young" works for ill as well as good. Your friend has lots of work ahead, i'm afraid.

LOL....good one, sheep...you so got me. i saw that post and i was like......ok, lets see...... LO)L........that was great, good for you.

Bini....shoes off is one of our (my wife and I) rules, but we don't always enforce it for her family (mostly elderly....no, they're old...folk), a habit i got into living in Indian culture (East India, not native american). i think that all rules need some flexability, but with a strong core, so to speak...lol. there is only one set of rules written in stone, and those belong to HF.....and even those that are broken can be forgiven. i have to laugh sometimes, at the "rules" i deemed important, that were broken and how ypset i may have gotten about it, only to realize, if i died right then and there and was asked, right then and there, what was so important................guess i'd have to answer, " my own sense of control", and then ask for forgiveness.

Most chapels i've seen have a piano in it......a string instrument.....isn't it?

as i recall, way back when, all (or almost all) of the worlds scientists were priests and holy men...yes, i mean WAY back. seems pretty intelectual to me...and lets not forget that just because technology was lesser back then, doesn't mean intellects and spirit was as well. i am christian and LDS, and i believe that christians do not have a monopoly on truth. please dont confused that with salvation. i have found undenial spiritual truth in other religions, as i know many others have as well.

my wife reminds me, OFTEN, that she new right away that we would be together. it took me three years. we are so opposite about so much, but we do love each other very much and that does calm things down when one or the other of us tries to exert their way, instead of our way....lol. i feel blessed to have her.

yes, welcome back....hope that things smooth out for you