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  4. Need help in wording this.

    in Advice Board

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    I'm going to be planning a party and I need help in wording my preferences. Basically, I'm looking at making reservations at a restaurant that's family friendly but on the pricier side. I want guests to know that children are welcomed to come but we will not be footing the bill for them. I think that's nicer than saying adults only, at least, this way it gives parents the option of bringing the kids or getting a sitter. (I don't really mind making it an 'adult only' get together but I know that some guests won't come if they can't bring their children due to arrangement issues.) Any ideas?

  7. Favorite way to save money?

    in General Discussion

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    Buying the good stuff. As I get older, I find I save money by paying a bit more initially for stuff that goes further.

    I'm pretty good at bringing a lunch to work, but buying out can be tempting. My school is literally surrounded by restaurants (and the Bishop's storehouse) including my favorite Thai place. But if I don't bring a lunch I can talk myself into spending a quarter on a peanut butter sandwich from the cafeteria--I happen to love pbj.

     

    Except, as a first time mama, buying "the good stuff" really just puts a damper on the wallet. I totally fell into that trap. Bought everything brand new for my first child. Silly because she outgrew it so dang fast. Otherwise, yes, I agree - for myself - I spend waaay too much money on "the good stuff" lol. (Shoes and bags are my weakness but since I'm vegan, I don't buy anything leather or animal fur, so I actually save on that.)

  8. Right or wrong??

    in Marriage and Relationship Advice

    Posted

    Too many variables to layout a blanket statement on this. I agree with bits of what others have already said. This shouldn't be something that overwhelms you, there's some simple considerations to make, which can help you figure out what's appropriate and what's not.

     

    For example; is this kiss...

     

    • a cultural way of saying hello and goodbye?
    • a doting gesture to show someone "I love you" towards a family member or friend?
    • fueled by passion, the kind typically reserved for couples?

     

    I think if you can figure it out in those easy peasy steps, it won't be so confusing. Point 1 and 2, aren't things to be concerned about, I mean honestly. Point 3, I think some extra common sense in regards to what degree of intimacy the kiss is. Is it just a simple peck but you still feel passionate about the other person? Or is it a lot more intimate? Personally, I think the first is fine, even among teens, a kiss of that nature just isn't a biggie. I think when it gets more hot and steamy, that opens doors that lead to other potential situations, ones that might be hard to back out of once you're halfway in.

     

    So yeh, consider what I said and use common sense.

  10. After Death Communications

    in General Discussion

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    I haven't experienced such thing. I have been spooked but I can have an overactive imagination at times. If I happened to feel the presence of someone I loved who had passed, I doubt I'd share it with anyone but my husband and or children. For me, when dealing with something very personal, I tend to keep it that way.

  11. got out, now to get over it!

    in Marriage and Relationship Advice

    Posted

    i left an faithful spouse who after the deed became very emotionally/ physically abusive. I had to leave my best friend that i married and loved with all my heart and soul. im finding it hard to cope, theres no going back, how do you stop loving?

     

    I've been in your exact situation.

     

    There is no magical time frame for when hurt is healed. It varies from person to person, and some wounds, are always there but they do get less painful as time goes by. I can honestly say that I do not love my ex in any sense, shape or form. He was unhealthy and destructive to be around. The best decision I ever made was to walk away, while there was still time. That said, I hold no grudge towards him anymore, but do I love him? NO. I forgive him and I forgive myself. Now, my love is for my current husband and our children.

  12. What has your child taught you in 2015?

    in Parenting

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    Sometimes I overlook the fact that my daughter has taught me some valuable lessons. She's not quite four yet, so even though the teaching moment is unintentional, there's still an impact when I reflect back on it. I remember one evening, I was feeling miserable, and I ended up loudly snapping at my husband over something silly (as in, not important or worth getting aggravated over). My daughter says, "Mama, that hurts me ears! Please don't shout. When you feel so mad and you want to roar, take a deep breath, and count to 4!" (This is a Daniel The Tiger song.) It definitely made me stop and think, hmm, I need to cool down. Also reminded me that children are sensitive to how parents interact with each other.

     

    Another teaching moment was being at the store. I consider myself friendly and approachable but among strangers, I don't tend to go out of my way to smile or greet others. I find it so cool that my daughter feels comfortable smiling and greeting people we walk past, kids or adults, it doesn't matter. She has this charity in her where she gets joy from reaching out to others. Most people return the smile or greet, and occasionally she's totally ignored, but it doesn't seem to phase her - she continues to do it. She's such a great example of not worrying how others perceive her and showing kindness. I guess I need to work on breaking out of my comfort zone and not worrying about whether such a gesture is returned in fear of awkwardness.

     

    Okay, feel free to share your experience. What has your child or children taught you in 2015? This isn't limited to small children but grown children, maybe even grandchildren, too :) 

  15. Across the Universe

    in General Discussion

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    I'm curious to know the points of view of non-LDS forum members on the topic of whether there are "human beings" on other worlds throughout the universe. Do any verses in the Bible contribute to your belief in the existence of extra-terrestrial children of God one way or another?  Do you entertain any thoughts on the topic from a spiritual or religious standpoint?

     

    There are no verses in the Bible that influence me, one way or another, I don't follow it. As for human beings or ET's out there, sure, could be. I'm not really concerned over it, to be honest.

  23. Tight and revealing

    in LDS Gospel Discussion

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    I'm not sure if some of you are referring to the popular maxi dresses and or skirts. Indeed, they are flow-y and can become static-y, causing material to cling to the body. But personally, I don't find them to be immodest or inappropriate for Sunday church attire, I think they're a good choice for women who are pregnant and women that might be curvier - it's definitely a comfy choice for mums, period! I would bet that the majority of women choose maxi dresses and skirts for comfort, as well. But yeh, sometimes as a woman you just can't win! An outfit is either too tight, or too loose. Aiya.