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By focusing so much on her personal issues she is essentially stealing from her place of work. Given that she is a coworker you really have no authority to make her change only the management does. However you do have a legit complaint if her distraction forces you to do her work. My first suggestion would be to gentle talk to her and explain that is it not fair that you have to do her share of the work. She seems like a very giving person and she might be quite shocked to realize she is 'hurting' you. (Or she might not care) That is about all you can do directly with your co-worker. The next step is to go up the ladder to your supervisor. As sympathetic as the supervisor might be, they still have a job to do. It is very possible they are not fully aware of how invasive it is, and might not until someone complains

Pepper spray is better then a bullet too. Given the age of the kid I think its pretty clear his 'support network' has failed. The unknown is why. While I concede the possibility that the kid has some condition's that they were not prepared to deal with its not the first thing I would assume

Prayer, and you personally doing the right things is the best step I can see based off what I can see from your post. The questions you need to find answers for are, "What does the Lord want you to do." Then "Can you build and maintain a respectful relationship with each other even with your differences." The rest will follow from finding those answers

How about it is just a desire... Righteousness or evil is in how we act about it

That could really be a problem. But at the same time the church might very well have resource issues. The allot of qualities that make a good teacher also make for good church leaders

Per 2 Nephi 26:29 2 Nephi 26Â I don't think many in CES would qualify as Priestcraft (Of course people are people and there will be exceptions) Please note that the definition of Priestcraft isn't in getting paid. (After all the laborer is worthy of his hire) It is in doing it for the money and the honors of men.

Mormon's son... That Moroni was given the charge to protect the plates, which enabled him to pass that on to Joseph Smith while he had them.

You've had three threads now... All for the same general pity party principal. And we do understand and we do sympathize. We also know that when times get darkest and we struggle the most it can be hard to remember the important things of the gospel. So in these three thread you have gotten sympathy (Yeap sometime our local leader do things we do not like) and the reminders to hold on. However you see the reminders as personal attacks as if we do not care... The only reason that I can think of for this is that you are not looking for help staying on the Plan of Happiness, instead I think you are looking for justification to stray. To do it your way instead. You are looking for someone to pat you on the shoulder and say it ok to let go of the rod of iron, it ok to stop enduring, its ok to stumble and fall and not get back up. The problem is that justifying you sinning, hurting yourself, and taking the harder path is not something that a true friend or someone that really cares does. We can understand the appeal of that path, and we can respect your right to choose to take it, but we have to try to wave you off that path if we can.

I don't mean to sound trite but it takes as long as it takes. Repenting is not like baking a cake in the oven. Certain Temp over certain time then Bing your done, No... It takes as long as it takes you to deeply and truly show that you've changed and willing to do what the Lord asks of you. I can promise that doing it the Lord's way is the fastest and easiest way to go. Not that I want you thinking this is going to be fast or easy, its just better then any other options you have.

Now that there as been more more people telling you to wake up I feel comfortable adding my two bits. Be a man... Or more importantly be a priesthood holder. You have a conflict. Take it to the Lord, and get his instruction. (assuming of course don't already know what it is) Then lead the way the Lord would have you lead. If you can't convince your wife to do the right thing with persuasion and long suffering, then lead by example.

Indeed an answer from God changes things. Once you have that answer then any challenge you face become a refining and testing challenge. Rather then something you might have brought on yourself because you made a stupid choice. A person can't and should not try to avoid the first ones, but I try very hard to avoid the second kind as much as my failing nature permits.

I think MM was talking of a generalized knowing about your partner for sure. Sure someone might know for sure of their personal medical condition, in fact I would hope so. However if you are weighing and considering a partner for marriage, you can't know for sure if they have an undisclosed/undiagnosed medical condition.

Sorry I missed the part about going to another Bishop. That will not work either. The other Bisphop has no authority to work with you. The best he can do is call or write your bishop and let him know... Which results in you being called in to face your bishop anyways. The bishop's job is to help you repent. So when you talk to the bishop he is going to take into consideration everything he know about you and what the spirit tells him and then work with you through the repentance process. One of those factors will be did you come in on your own to get right with god or did he have to drag you in. You said you are afraid of what your bishop might think of you, and you are afraid of being punished. I am going to take that last bit to mean you are afraid of what other people will think of you if/when they find out you are working through things with the bishop. That is a sad thing that shouldn't be an issue, but people are flawed, and you know your locals better then we do. In this case you have to ask yourself do you fear God or Man more? Their will be people that do judge you, but any one that judges someone harshly as they struggle to get right with God, is in need of repentance themselves

It will not work... And you are not being humble. Humble is doing what ever the Lord has deems necessary. In this case the Lord as laid out the necessary steps as going to your bishop. You can try to end run the system, but baptism means nothing if you go into it with a heart full of lies and deceptions. You will not get clean that way. And the church keeps records for a reason. You can attempt it but your will most likely be caught and have the Bishop pull you in anyways. Even if you fool us mortals you will not fool God. He will not be pleased with your attempt to say that you know better then him and try to lie, twist and corrupt his ordinances and will to get your way.

I think while the Church does a good job of talking about the importance of marriage, and the need for marriage. It doesn't do so well on teaching you how to choose a partner. I put choosing a partner as at least the 3rd most important and life changing decision a person will ever make. Unfortunately to many people meet fall in love (which could be simple hormones if they are not clear on the difference) and assume that is all they need so they get married. Many people forget or ignore the very real and important step of taking it to the Lord. God can see the larger picture, god knows you and the person you are dating better then any one. People need to follow the standard command to study out the problem and take it to the Lord in prayer. My wife had a vision that I was the one. I got spiritually thrashed until I repented of my desire to get a career going first. And being married has not it been easy, I've had struggles that common to marriages. When those struggle come I can take comfort in the fact that I am on the right path with the right person.

Congrats on learning more... While clearly new to you, this is not really a new... This is gone into some detail in Alma 12:21-22 and Alma 42.. Check there for details on why they couldn't be allowed to partake of the Tree of Life at that point

I'd say no I would not

I see.. so more gentle persuasions have failed... Then I see that your brother really only has two options. Either he waits it out and hopes the the gentle persuasions and time work on on your sister-in-law to bring her around. Or he can start escalating. Both options have some serious risks, but ultimately it his marriage and his life, and he needs to plot his path and make it happen.

But is it obvious to your Sister in Law? From what has been presented that seems unlikely.

I would have to say that if together the two of them can't work out the problems they are having with their sex life. (or any other major life issues for that matter) Then they are really not ready the stress, burdens, and demands of having kids.

That does seem to be the general opinion of the majority of those that have posted to the thread that you started

An Unconsummated Marriage is considered legal grounds to getting an annulment. Which legally puts in in the same category as fraud, and being unable to legally enter into a marriage contract. So while not a commandment there is a very strong expectation. And it is considered the reasonable default assumption of what will happen and grounds for saying the marriage never really existed if it doesn't. Clearly if before the marriage it was discussed and no sex was agreed to then none of the above applies. But given the opening post I have my doubts that happened. So to me the Brother has a completely reasonable expectation and need. Clearly there are issues (the exact nature of which is unknown) And it appears that the Brother was supportive and willing to work through the problem and that she has given up. Of course that is one side of the story... Maybe the brother wasn't supportive as assumed. This wouldn't necessary something Backroads would know, but we go with what we have to work with. And at this point it is that the Brother is unhappy living with a roommate instead of a wife. It is serious, but only the Brother can make the call if he wants to live that way, and/or if there is still hope that something can be worked to meet both their needs. Perhaps the brother need to be more explicit to is wife that is not working... (Although I would hope he had already done so if its reached this point)

I have never talked about addiction... And the idea that all sins are an addiction is just flat out wrong. As for your position you have stated that Sinners are always weak in whatever the sin, whenever committed. I challenge the absoluteness of your statement. While I recognized that some can be weak not all of them are. For example Alma the Elder. He was a priest of King Noah and he indulged in the vices of King Noah's court (which included harlots) Until he converted by hearing words of a prophet. According to you Alma the Elder will always be weaker and lesser. According to the scriptures he became prophet and the leader of the church. Same with Alma the Younger and the sons of Mosiah. Vilest of sinners, converted into beacons, stalwarts and examples. I find your absolute stance unsupportable in is absoluteness. If you think you are some how better then the Alma's and the Sons, because you didn't break the law of Chasity I would like to warn you of the dangers of pride.

Right but being a bit behind is worlds different then your claim that they will always be weak to that sin. The absolute positioning you make on weakness is contrary to the idea of Christ showing people their weakness so that he can make them strong.

That statement is completely contradictory to the way Christ sees it...