Bad Karma
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On 11/30/2017 at 3:37 PM, Nick0123 said:
I have been dating this girl for awhile now. I have bought a ring and everything and we are deeply in love. There is one thing that has come up a couple of times that has been a source of contention. We always get over it but I just want some advice about what I should do. Okay so we will call her Susie. Susie loves to go tanning. I know it seems harmless to her. However I have read the statistics and just how dangerous indoor tanning actually is. Increased chance of melanoma by 75%. I expressed this concern in the nicest way I knew how but she did not like what I said. She reassures me that she will not get skin cancer but I dont know how she could know this. I just want her to be around when we have kids and not laid up in the hospital or recovering from skin cancer. Anways any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks!!
Mister. You just need to quit it! Knock that foolish controlling and petty stuff off before she smacks your nose with a rolled up newspaper and tells you to go marry a duck.
- zil, Sunday21 and askandanswer
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31 minutes ago, Blossom76 said:
Off topic so I apologise but you can please explain what you mean when you say Jesus Christ is Jehovah? I'm fairly new to this so forgive me if this is something well known in the LDS community.
In simplest terms, It's a name in a common tongue. He's also called "Yeshua" in Hebrew. I would not worry about that, in your and our common tongue, we more oft call him Jesus.As such, hence "The Church of Jesus Christ of latter day saints".
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On 11/24/2017 at 6:45 PM, MormonGator said:
I was thinking about this on Thanksgiving. We had a friend who posted some Scout stuff on FB. Are the Scouts really in a position to kick someone out? You've got a guy who wants to help them. At this point it would be like Sears turning away someone who actually wants to shop there.
DOH!
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22 minutes ago, zil said:
She means you need to make an appointment to receive your own endowment - the first time you go through the temple - for yourself. You're describing going to do proxy work - and you're right, no appointment needed for that.
Ok, I'm blushing now, reading comprehension sometimes eludes me. OOPS!
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Ok, ok, all humor aside, *WE* believe in ONE GOD. Of course, in the Godhead, there are THREE holy influences, each with it's own realm of practice, yet part of a whole in purpose. GOD the Father, Jesus Christ THE SON (And our savior, advocate, defense counsel if you will) and the HOLY SPIRIT, (Wise counselor, OUR inner voice is HIS, not ours, You KNOW it when you feel the presence). However, there is only ONE God, and he does not have multiple personalities.
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3 hours ago, Sunday21 said:
At my local temple for which I am part of the staff, you need to make an appointment.
It may be that way fairly universally, although I can not say from my own experience, I've never NOT made an appointment, I have been excessively early, but at those moments, temple staff have only been happy to utilize me in sealings and initiatory ordinances, which is cool with me, I'm happy to help out.
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Wow! Man, you've really had a tough time of it. I had the exact opposite experience as you when I went through for my endowment I am not sure I could have been as patient as you have been. I probably would have handled it poorly and had to go stand in the priesthood corner for wayward elders.
Chase after it, don't be afraid to be pushy, assertive, lovingly, but assertive never the less, and NEVER take "I'll get back to you" for an answer. If I were your Bishop and you were jumping all over me to go to the temple, I'd be making some phone calls to the Stake Presidency to help you make this happen. We're SUPPOSED to go to the temple! The temple is for EVERYONE, therefor, those in church leadership have an obligation to only hold someone back insomuch that requisite things that need be done get done.
Charge forward!
P.S. I am not a Bishop, nor do I play one on TV.
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2 hours ago, Me too said:
Totally agree with everything you've said. It's not in our culture but yes, men have feelings too and women should court their husbands too. Sorry I'm venting now.
Nah man, vent away.
While you're venting, you do realize that real love is FREE, it does not demand reciprocation, keep track of wrongs, real love exists for the sake of love. It's not a two way street, it doesn't have to be. In fact, the more your wife refuses to love you, love her even more. Have that compassion for her that she must be really sad and hurting to feel so disconnected from you. Yes, we men do have feelings, we're also taught at a young age to not be governed by them, but it's nice to take those feelings out for a drive now and then.
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8 hours ago, workingonit said:
Last February I disclosed to my wife about a pornography addiction and multiple same sex affairs. She decided to stay with me and help me work through these problems I had caused. I recently had a relapse with pornography. I haven't told her yet. I'm scared to tell her. I had been clean for about 8 months. I feel angry at myself, I feel terrible about the pain this is going to cause my wife, I feel terrible for taking a step backwards. Inside I want someone to tell me I dont really need to tell her, but I know that I really want her help, love, and support to keep moving forward to beat this addiction. I hate this because it probably changes my timeline to be re-baptized. I think I'm still on track spiritually, but keeping this from her is eating me alive, or the fear of telling her is...i'm not sure.
Well, you certainly have a contrite spirit, and your conviction inside must be the callings of the holy spirit to complete repentance. Look, you want to open up to your wife, God wants you to open up to your wife,, so, open up to your wife.
Stop looking at porn! It's not like you accidentally bump into it, you're actively seeking it, making an effort. To not look at porn requires no action on your part. Pray to the father to make you clean, to heal you. Get CLOSER to your wife, lean on her through this. Don't go it alone. Talk to her, tell her what you're feeling, thinking, what's going on inside of you.
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Just now, anatess2 said:
Yes, I heard you the first time.
Excellent!
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Just now, anatess2 said:
Sigh. I did not attack your position on absolute monogamy. I put it into context. Obviously, Joseph Smith and Brighan Young not being in monogamous marriages was not disrespectful to their wives.
When God commands something - like he did to Joseph Smith - it is righteous regardless of how you feel about it. God commanded Nephi to kill Laban. God commanded Abraham to kill Isaac. God commanded Joseph the carpenter to marry a woman pregnant with a child not his own. God commanded the Apostles to leave their wives. In these instances, obedience is righteous, disobedience is unrighteous.
Your statement of absolute monogamy is applicable because God commanded it. This CAN change. This is important because polygamy is an important part of our Church history.
I don't see God changing his mind, he was present when I made my vows, I'm pretty sure a state of monogamy was expressly spelled out, so NO, IT CANT CHANGE. Not if he's a God that keeps his promises, right?
Again, I remind you that this discussion has an origin of my post about immoral sex, swinging, that kind of thing.
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2 minutes ago, anatess2 said:
Yes. You are free to go against God. But you didn't answer the question.
Then I'll take my free agency and use it. I'll voice my refusal respectfully to heavenly father, lovingly, but I will voice and act upon my refusal nevertheless.
AGAIN, I remind you that our conversation ORIGIN is about wife swappers, sexual immorality. You attacked my position of absolute monogamy, which is doctrine now. Your argument lacks substance other than an odd attempt to pick a fight with me. Kinda not knowing why you're carrying on.
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Just now, anatess2 said:
So, let me understand this... You don't believe that God commanded Joseph Smith, at the point of a sword, to marry another woman?
Do we have FREE AGENCY?
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I just don't see God commanding me to bring pain and disrespect to my wife. Why would God give me free agency only to threaten me with an angel armed with a sword. Nah, not buying it.
But again, we're not talking about polygamy here, you and are talking about the wife swappers, or that is the ORIGIN of this conversation between you and I.
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Just now, anatess2 said:
If, like Joseph Smith, God would tell my husband he has to take on another wife... in a heartbeat. I need help with the laundry.
Oh wow... lol
Nah, I'll take my free agency and use it, to which I think would be the wisest choice. I've already have a wife, I've got too much love and respect for her to do that kind of thing to her.
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Just now, anatess2 said:
Ayayay... hang on a minute. Let's qualify this here. As you know, we had polygamous prophets. So, absolute monogamy is only as God instructs... which can change.
Ok, I'll give you that. but we're not talking about polygamy, we're talking about swingers. and still, any man that would share his wife with another is still a punk. So, we've already received instruction from the prophet no more polygamy. This is our doctrine.
Now, would you want another woman in your house that you would have to share your husband with?
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10 hours ago, Latter-Day Marriage said:
Even with that, this place is refreshingly sane compared to other forums. I've seen more than one LDS specific marriage/sex forum or discussion board where Mormons openly talk about how swinging and porn help their marriage and justify ditching the G's for date night so the wife can wear something revealing out in public because it turns her husband on to have other men give her attention. And the mods put up with it. I got kicked off of one for being a little too effective at refuting them.
ANY husband that would share his wife with another is a creep. A LOW "man", an oath breaker, a pervert. One can NOT call themselves LDS and be a swinger, how they think swinging makes their marriage better is insane. You can't REALLY know your wife at all, if you're messing around or having another mess around with her. There's a friendship and trust that grows out of absolute monogamy.
My wife and I were talking today about monogamy, I'm glad I can give her a husband who's body belongs to her alone. Such a violation would bring endless tears to her beautiful face. Nope, not happening. She's just too important to me, she's that person that I would crawl on my hands and knees through five miles of broken glass for to get to her if she needed me.
A so called LDS forum where that kind of talk is not only acceptable, but the norm, isn't a forum worth visiting, who wants to read that kind rubbish? Bleh....
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7 hours ago, Subir Valhalla said:
I wish that were the case, but there are open jokes about cocaine usage and ridicule on this thread. Which seems unusual since if I was a woman posting about being physically abused people would most likely be empathetic and compassionate. Instead, because of my terse delivery of my message I've had a read some well....let's just say the second great commandment isn't getting filled by "LDS" people.
On the other hand some comments have been very helpful, and I have given them much thought.
I don't know what to tell you, other than I am glad I am not you, but you must understand that I have a huge dislike for complications. You are comparing yourself to a woman who has been abused, your situation has nothing to do with an abused woman, or an abused man for that matter. You're a married man, AND you have the hots for your sister in law to where you have such an attraction to her, you've created this thread. That's kind of creepy.
What is it you think the LDS community is denying you? the second commandment is to not make graven images, what does that have to do with you?
What do you want? Do you want for someone to come along and tell you that you're ok? This is ok?
- JoCa and Midwest LDS
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13 hours ago, Subir Valhalla said:
You married the wrong guy it sounds like.
Oh no you don't, mister.... Nope..... Considering the below referenced gem of yours, you have nothing to say to her.
http://mormonhub.com/forums/topic/63286-dangerous-affection-caution-long-post/
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