a mustard seed

Thank you so much for the support you guys! You really made my day with your messages. <3 <3 <3 <3 I sometimes forget how far I've come and to take the time to enjoy it. I was able to wear jeans today that wouldn't fit up my thighs before coming to Rexburg today, so, that was another thing to just hammer home how much has changed for me. *hugs for everyone* @priesthoodpower I don't think I could do that diet. It would not be a sustainable lifestyle choice for me. Unless eating carbs made me ill, I will probably never be able to let them go(unless it became a commandment, then I'd have to pray every day for the Spirit to console me through the loss of pasta and Italian bread and bagels). I really respect people who are willing and able to give certain things up for the long haul.

Thank you for the responses. Yes, I do have a current temple recommend but it was the part that @Jane_Doe mentioned in the interview questions that had me concerned, because I didn't remember the phrasing exactly, only that it comes up in order to get the recommend. That's mostly what I was worried about and I literally work all day every day except after 2 on Saturdays. But no, you're right @Vort, I should have taken the initiative if it were really important to me. I got a text from the executive secretary tonight(either my bishop has an account here and saw my thread, lol, or Heavenly Father let him know this was a concern of mine and that we needed to meet; I felt the Spirit very strongly when having a sit down with him when I first met him, so, definitely the latter) and we'll try for Saturday but if not, I told him I'd make the other days he's available work. And I know if I said something like that, my work is full of LDS and they love me, so, they'd be willing to let me go early to make a meeting with the bishop if I asked. So, yes, it's silly to make a thread asking a question when I am now taking steps that I could have if it was a priority to me to begin with.

Okay, that sounds reasonable and makes me feel better that he would talk to me in person first. I do pay a full tithe online and I do not carouse around. I barely have time for church, lol, I certainly don't have time to go around partying it up.

It is temporary. I start school in January so will only be working one of the jobs while taking classes. Undecided which one yet. The plan is, to get the education so I can do what I love but until then, I'm willing to sacrifice time and socializing to make money to save and pay rent. For now, I will work both for as long as I can. Aw, the call center is not so bad! Most of the time it is just a ringing phone in my ear because people don't answer if they don't recognize the number or caller ID. So, I doodle and write while waiting and dialing. I'm kind of just letting them pay me until they figure out they're outdated and can't compete with the modern age. That sounds good about the bishop. I was hoping he'd contact me somehow if he felt I needed to be changing something or if he wanted to know what was going on.

So, I was wondering, when would a bishop take away a temple recommend if you stopped going to church? Would he let you know? Or would you just visit the temple and when they scan it, "Oh, I'm sorry, it's not valid anymore. Go talk to your bishop."? What's happening: So, the week before the eclipse in August, I got my second job at the Super 8 hotel! Yay! So for the last month or so, I've been working 65 hours a week. Yahoo! Dollah, dollah bills, ya'll! But my job at the call center had me working one Sunday a month. And now, since all the old school gals at the Super 8 decided to be flakey as all get out lately and got theirselves fired today, my boss wants to make me her assistant and now I have to work Sundays, 9-1 there. Yaaayyyy.... And today, I changed my schedule at the call center because I need a day off sometime and Saturdays, the only shifts available are 8 hour shifts and I have to either work every Sunday OR work every Saturday and just one Sunday a month. ...So I chose Sunday. 3-8 because I work at the Super 8 9-2 basically every single day. My sacrament meeting starts at 1:30. Because of these shifting things going on, my attendance has been spotty. I went 2 weeks ago but then this last week was my "one Sunday" for the call center and so I went to a different ward, earlier in the day. But then I'm thinking, "My bishop probably doesn't know that." And I wasn't able to get done at Super 8 until too late today because of all the...um..."position changes" happening. My cousin gets married in the Idaho Falls temple October 7th and I'd really like to be able to go. I'm going to try to keep going, since my church building is actually positioned between my two jobs, I could make it for the hour for sacrament meeting. But it's a YSA ward in a college town and you have to schedule a meeting with the bishop in order to just sit down and talk with him. I was just wondering because he hasn't known me for longer than 2 months and I'm scared he'll think I'm inactive...because temporarily, I have been as I've been trying to sort juggling all the things. I just wanted to know how this sort of thing works, even though I know the most likely answer is that it is based on individual circumstances and the revelation he receives on how to deal with my specific circumstances. And yes, in b4 "talk to your bishop!"

I think walking is alright. I cannot afford a bike right now and it's not necessary. I can get places pretty fast just by walking. Maybe in a few years when I'm not using all my money for rent and school savings. I do like the idea though of walking a certain amount of miles before rewarding myself with certain foods! That is good motivation as well!

So, Sunday weigh in: 238 lbs! I am just relieved that I keep losing weight and not gaining any of it back, although I wish I had more self control and could lose more, faster. I broke down and had some Chinese food this week and ate at Taco Bell twice. My favorite is that crunchy taco put inside a soft taco with cheese between them. I don't know what it is called and I better not learn the name of it. This week, it rained and all of a sudden it is cold now. That chill of autumn has definitively set in. Going to try on my skinny jeans tonight and see if I can start wearing them because it'd be nice to wear something a little longer than my capris while I walk to work. Even if they do end up being a little snug for a bit. Wish me luck! Oh! And some pictures I've been meaning to post. Orange shirt is August 17 and blue shirt is September 6. Do I look skinnier than the pic in the OP? It's hard for me to tell, even as my clothes fall off of me, lol. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I think the scale is lying to me.

I definitely agree about the little habits thing. As soon as I got out here that's what I did. lol, I remember when my aunt and I first walked around the half a mile block where we live and I was dying, by the time we got home and had to stop to rest frequently. Now, I walk 4-5 miles each day but I got there by progressively adding miles and giving myself plenty of time to stop and rest when I'd add more length. It often meant arriving to work a bit early occasionally but the habit is born now. Also, I like what @NeuroTypical said about gratification and I agree, it's not necessarily that I do it for the attention because I really just want to be able to go wherever I want with no limitations on my body, to feel energetic and feel good. People's compliments or noticing the loss definitely keeps me pumped and willing to continue during this process though. Cheat days also works for me. I don't count calories but I know a bad snack when I see one. It keeps me motivated and keeps me from falling too far if I occasionally eat something greasy, super bready, or sugary. Like the pizza on Monday night. That was great! And now I can put it aside, and dismiss any cravings because I JUST had pizza. I'm good! The rest is healthy lifestyle changes to my overall diet, which, I get people thinking that word means "fads" or "limiting food" but a diet is "how you eat." Like, eating a ton of McDonald's is called an "unhealthy diet." Not because you're on some crazy fad or limiting how much you eat but because those choices of food patterns are unhealthy; that diet is unhealthy, etc. If you're "dieting" that has different connotations, obviously more related to the colloquial use of the word.

Oops, forgot. Sunday weigh in: Another 3 lbs this past week. I'm down to 243 lbs. I'm starting to notice in the way I look in the mirror and...I'm basically swimming in my garments. I thought I could put off getting new ones until I reached my goal weight at 180 but give it another week or two and these puppies are going to be falling down on Sunday. >,<;; Kind of embarrassing to talk about but I am very grateful that we have a Deseret Book right next to where I work and a distribution center inside. So, as soon as I get the time, I'll have to stop by or just order them online. Seriously though, not even joking when I say I don't have time. Work at the call center is great and I love it but they keep giving me more and more hours, lol. I feel like my life is swallowed up. Ate pizza tonight but this will likely be the only "bad thing" I have all week. I plan on sticking firmly to better meals for the rest of the week. Going to need to rely on energy drinks to keep me up at the call center for the length of time I have to be there every day but other than that, I've got some good choices available.

Not at all! I thank you so much for providing the links and advice. Also thank you, @Jane_Doe as well. As I said, I enjoy this so much and if it is going to seriously become my main method of not only transportation but exercise for the foreseeable future, then I probably do need to take steps to make sure I am not putting undue stress on my body or risking injuries. We do have a bike and running shop right on my path to work, actually, so, I can stop by there sometime. I looked inside today but was in a hurry to get to other job, they do have a treadmill near their shoes, I think for the thing you described. I'll have to stop by when I have more time sometime soon.

Oh! Lol! I did think it was a type of shoe! I thought, "Does he mean a journal? Hm, he must mean a type of shoe(assuming the journals and shoes were made out of the same thing?)" My bad. Uh, no, I did not put anything on my feet before wearing the new shoes. They were basically the same shoes I got about 6 months ago and the same size(the old ones are wearing in the heel and the inner soles so I'm glad I got new ones for my birthday) and I didn't have problems with blisters on my heels from those, so, I just assumed I wouldn't and didn't wear any bandaids or anything to prepare. They felt good on my feet. But like I said, I think the wetness and how loose and comfy they are(11s are too tight but the 12s are just a little roomy in the front) that it must have rubbed on the bottom of my feet wrong. Then I didn't wear anything except a bandaid and antibacterial inside my sneakers during my housekeeping job and then took both off and let them air under my desk at the call center job(of course, setting my bare feet on my flipflops, because ew, to touch that carpet).

Thank you for the info, @Carborendum. I admit, I know basically, "protein will make you feel full and will have better value in the long run than sugars or fats" and intuitively I understand fruits and veggies are better for you overall. But other than that, I'm not too knowledgeable about health and dieting. I just instinctively know that fast food is not good for you. That sugars and sweets in excess are not good for you. That sugary drinks are not good for you. That water is good for you. So, I'm not looking to completely deprive myself but just trying to make common sense choices. Once in a while, a soda is fine. One or two every single day? Not good. My thing is it is a compulsion thing. I'm not sure what I'd be getting from gummy candies or fizzy drinks(other than misplaced emotional comfort) but those are the things I crave the most. It might be worth trying to find out what my body needs from the different things I'm craving. Thank you! I do not use moleskin. I use Kangaroos, lol. Not for any reason other than you can get them for a good price at Payless and I like the colors. The ones I have now are just sneakers/tennis shoes. They don't have any special tread and you know how tennis shoes have a kind of pumped up look to them? These have that same design but a bit slimmer, almost like a running shoe. I've never been fitted for anything or had anything checked. It wasn't like I decided I would exercise and it would be walking. It was, "Okay, I don't like being a burden and having to be driven everywhere and I don't like the gym or exercise classes and I can't use the pool on campus until I get my student ID. I have to be at work at this time....I guess I will walk to get there on time!" Now with the two jobs, it's become a thing like, "I don't have time to do this any other time and going to work/coming home are good motivations to stay active." That's it. Just like with the diet changes, I'm not really studying it so much as this is something that I've decided to do when I can do it. Yes, I carry a bookbag while I walk, usually with a change of clothes, an umbrella, and two big water bottles in it, so, it's not heavy. I carry it with both straps on both shoulders. Not a problem! Feel free to ask questions. I forget what I've already said a lot of times and don't mind repeating myself for you. At this point, completely healed! My aunt and uncle gave me rides Sunday through Wednesday. By Tuesday the popped blister on the bottom of my left foot(which had turned into a hole by Sunday morning) was no longer hurting me but just to be safe, they gave me a ride Wednesday morning. Now I walk on it and it's fine. I love walking so much. I was walking home tonight as the sun was setting and the wind was blowing, yet it was warm and I felt slightly winded but nothing ached or hurt and I walked home in a good 40-45 minutes. I was just reveling in the freedom to be able to go where I want to go and my feet can take me there. So, it is scary when something gets injured or wounded because I don't like to give that feeling up...but if I don't for just a little while, then it could prolong my sedentary state even more.

The two examples you've given are exactly those situations that I've stated I'd make exemptions, no questions asked for: Bishop and mental deficiencies. I would consider this girl, who has a lack of filter and a lack of boundaries, despite her capabilities otherwise being fine, as falling into that "I know it when I see it" category. She doesn't have to have a label of mental deficiency but you know there's things she's missing and I of course would be compassionate and sensitive to that. --- It's a bit exhausting when people don't read what you're saying and instead just jump to assumptions like "so if you won't do this innocuous thing that might not even be helpful without guidance from the Spirit, then does that mean you question EVERYTHING the Lord has actually told you to do already??? What? You can't be charitable and just listen to the whims of anybody who demands anything of you? You have to talk to the Lord or one of his appointed servants first? How selfish!" So, I'll state it again because this did change from my first post to my latest ones: I don't know what someone truly needs or how to help them with 100% certainty. Even friends and people you are close to, you might not have the full story or truly know their heart. So, in all situations of charity, I would not trust in my own wisdom to judge whether they need or don't need a certain kind of help from me, regardless of what they ask for. I'd pray about it, I would study it, I would fast, and I would become more involved with the person's life as a friend and a sister, so that I could understand the situation better. If the Spirit told me to do something I WOULD DO IT. If the Bishop told me to do something, I WOULD DO IT. Again, for those in the back with reading comprehension problems and/or a really weird, personal investment in this vein of the discussion: I'll state again because this did change from my first post to my latest ones: If the Spirit told me to do something, I WOULD DO IT. If the Bishop told me to do something, I WOULD DO IT. I will always trust the Lord's wisdom and perspective more than my own.

This is another thing about it that I disagree with. How the mother knows. If I were the mother in this situation, I wouldn't even go to my son with it. If I were a leader over this girl in some capacity, I'd talk to the Bishop about how bad this problem is for the young woman. If I wasn't, then I'd simply tell the leaders in her life, you know her stewards, the folks who will be inspired by God to make the right decisions on how to help her. If the Bishop then turned around and asked me if I could tell my son not to wear the tie, then I would not hesitate to sit down with my boy and he'd not know the reasons why except that the Bishop, the Lord's appointed servant, had requested this of him and me. I do have the right to get involved and actually help this person rather than this bizarre excuse of a temporary solution masquerading as charity.Yeah, you know, I can give some money to some folks I never see at church because they complained to someone or even me about not having enough money to survive and yet I go to their house and they're cooking lobster and opening Amazon packages of whatever. I can walk away patting myself on the back for helping them no questions asked like I'm such a good person but I'd be delusional. We are counseled to be wise just as much as we are told to give of ourselves. And this circumstance with these parameters (someone at church has asked you indirectly or directly to not wear X because they have a problem controlling themselves) does not fit the criteria of wise help, either in regards to the simple logistics of it and the mental health criteria for actually helping someone with this "exposure" problem. If the Lord told me to through either the Spirit or the Bishop, I would gladly hop to it because my thinking is done at that point. I don't have to ask reasons or logic it out. I'd know the Lord was on it and handling it and all I need to do is obey in order to help. So, that is to say if I prayed about it and I was led to zil's provided scripture and felt the prompting of the Spirit, I'd know this scripture specifically applied to this situation and this was what the Lord needed of me.

The discussion was in regards to modesty and clothing. Do I agree in helping others and being charitable? Uh, yeah. You're calling this "don't wear X because of someone else" charity. I don't believe that it is. If the mom is going to tell the boy why the girl needs him to stop wearing the thing, I think it is reasonable for him to ask if she's being helped other than by him not wearing this thing and waiting for her to add to the list of demands. I've been to church where the Bishop asks members to attend church or to take a calling if they ask for monetary or food help from the church. I am not saying they have to do it by themselves and they will earn so much more from me helping them become self-sufficient than just writing a blank check or submitting to their whims. Even Jesus Christ asked those whom he helped to "sin no more and follow me." Even His Atonement requires participation on our part to receive this gift. It's not a "do whatever you want" party. If I truly love someone, I help them in every way I can not just in the way that they ask. An alcoholic can be suffering and in pain and say that a drink will make it better. I know better. You can call that prideful or whatever but in regards to CLOTHING(otherwise appropriate and temple worthy) and what this tie girl or daisy guy need, it may not necessarily be what they ask me for.

Well, if you want to twist my position to be an aggressive and attacking one like response number one, then maybe I truly didn't make myself clear. Here is a just as Christlike and charitable response: POSSIBLE RESPONSE #3: Jr. Wow, it's really a problem, huh? Maybe someone should sit down with her and tell her how much the Bishop loves her and will be available to help her find Christ in this trying time. Has anyone looked up therapists for her? Maybe we could start an anonymous fund in the ward if she or her family cannot afford it. I know, mom! Me and the guys in YM can have a car wash to help get this thing started! Oh, she doesn't want to get help for this issue? She won't talk to the Bishop or seek some measure of counseling? Hm, this seems like a burden I shouldn't have to carry, especially if she's not willing to work on it. After all, there is nothing immodest or against the Lord's wishes in my simple green tie. POSSIBLE RESPONSE #4: Jr: Is she mentally retarded or autistic in some fashion? Okay, I guess I won't wear that tie anymore. Those are the more reasonable options when you're not exaggerating me or what I'm saying. Either the person can work on it or they can't. If they absolutely can't that is the only time I should go above what the LORD has instructed me to do. If they can but they won't? How is that being charitable? Explain it to me. This young, lustful sister has all her faculties, is very capable of living life normally regardless of this tie issue. She has avenues and opportunities available to her in order to get herself right with the Lord and regain control of this one area of her life. She won't. She refuses. And she continues to come to church and complain how all the guys wearing this particular tie are being unthoughtful to her by wearing them. How???? How?????????????????????? How is it charitable to say, "okay, we won't wear those ties. You go on being you. Any other demands, sweetheart?"

I agree with you to an extent and I do love when you talk "Feminism is Cancer" because it is a drum that beats in my heart as well. So, let's switch it and see if it truly is a Christlike attribute or if it's just something we think we can tell women to do. A sister has a problem with lustful urgings and thoughts when she sees men wear ties. Do the men who go to church with her extend the brotherly consideration and stop wearing ties? What if its just ties of a certain color?

I was in agreement until the weird flower print dress discussion and the Cain comparison. I'm a believer in cognitive behavioral and exposure therapy. I'm not a doctor but trigger warnings for things that aren't applicable to more than an individual, innocuous things like arms, boats, daisies, etc. are not my responsibility to dole out. You could encounter these trauma triggers at any moment, quite randomly, or more pervasively in the right environment and circumstances. Exposure to things desensitizes us to them the more exposure we get; we adapt to the trauma it causes and we get better able to handle and deal with situations when our innocuous triggers come up. I think if Brother John is aroused by shins or daisies, it would be a blessing for me to wear those things occasionally when around him, so that he can become stronger, able to develop the healthy habits he needs in order to survive in a world FULL of shins and daisies. I'm not saying that applies to things the Lord has commanded me, specifically to do with my body and clothing style, but I agree with the idea that if the LORD ever commanded me to not show my shins or wear daisies, I'd burn the applicable clothes that day and buy new if necessary. Again, in case that wasn't clear: I will not wear immodest things because "Oh, you should be desensitized to pornography; I'm helping you." Lord's rules are the Lord's rules. But in my mind, there is not charity NOR respect in catering to a weakness of such broad and specifically individual states, unless that person is mentally incapable of developing the healthy resistance I'm talking about. And I'm also not saying it's my job to go around firing off a weapon at the sky to help the poor brother who suffers from PTSD from being in the war. But I'm not going to mentally and physically censor myself for every possible situation that brother with the daisy/shin fetish to cross paths with me. If we want to have a discussion about mental capabilities and how much consideration is afforded to people of varying mental capacity, then I'll say right here, it's an "I know it when I see it" line for me; I'm not completely heartless, so, if a guy with mental retardation has a weakness for something I find innocuous, you can bet I'll be sensitive to that. Someone at the common threshold? You can discuss it with your therapist on how to cope when I occasionally show up to church in the dreaded daisies or with my shins bared. And you can pray for Christ's Atonement to strengthen you so that all the frigging daisies in the world you see can stop being such a big problem that daily life is affected. What can sometimes happen with particular traumas that have these certain innocuous triggers is that particular trigger is a reminder of something specifically related. So, Brother John might get aroused by daisies because he watched an explicit video where daisies were a central theme or object in relation to it(or maybe he's just really into flowers, I don't know!). Let's say I say to myself, "Okay, Brother John doesn't like daisies. I can wear dresses with lilies and roses on them, though." Then Brother John, because he's trying so hard to keep himself from thinking of this explicit video, one day, he suddenly can't look at any flower print dresses. Okay....so I stop wearing flower prints and just stick to polka dots and stripes. Brother John is trying really hard, and everybody around him has started wearing different patterns to help him, feeding into this mental incapacity he has, so, suddenly, he can't look at any patterns without being affected(I'm assuming, if it is so "charitable" not to wear a daisy print dress to help this brother, then he must be so affected that such a mental affect can logically occur; afterall, if you're saying he needs my help with this weakness, to be hidden from all daisy print, then he has some larger issue and could be susceptible to such evolving mechanics, in much the way others develop ever increasingly specific triggers for traumas so far removed from the triggers themselves as for it to be difficult to follow the pathway they used to get to the point; which is why most therapists will suggest exposure therapy as treatment for phobias and other anxiety and trauma related maladies). Or how about this, Brother John only ever has a problem with daisies. Fine, we're good. But then Brother Paul has an issue with purple. And Brother Steve has an issue with jean fabric. And Brother Dennis has a problem with plaid. When do I just start listening to the Lord rather than worrying about all these porn addicts who have weird triggers and fetishes? When do they get peace from daisies, purple, jeans, and plaid from their Savior? Will they think to lean on Him more readily if they keep getting exposed every time I'm around or if I shelter them will they think they can put that prayer off for another day, because at least ole mustard seed won't wear it and they won't have to deal with it right this moment. And they surely won't be able to receive that same amount of peace and relief from me.

Bad week. Didn't lose anything. But, the silver lining is, I haven't gained anything back. I'm still at 246 lbs.from what I weighed last weekend. Working has been both a blessing and a curse because now that I have a good flow of money, I am more likely to make bad choices. I like to stop at Broulim's to get breakfast and the bagels are really cheap. So, each day, I've been buying a bagel and an energy drink. Lunch is a protein bar and I usually am not able to eat dinner until 8 or 9 at night because of how late I work. It works out well because I'll eat small portions as well and be full enough to sleep. Also, on my birthday, my cousin introduced me to the shop Runnin 4 Sweets and altho I'm able to resist the candy, I like to try sodas from their novelty section every once in a while. Plus, eclipse day was my birthday, and we had peach cobbler and brownies and ice cream AND I had gummy candy as a present. So, this week was full of bad choices, lol. Next week I'll try better. Also, work has been a curse because on Tuesday with my brand new tennis shoes(exactly like my old, just new and not worn out) I was walking to work and it began to rain. By the time I got to work my shoes were soaked but I was not able to take them nor my socks off until 8 or 9 at night(and they got wet at 8 or 9 in the morning). Now, at the end of the week, I tried walking home yesterday and this sensitivity on the bottom of my feet that has gotten progressively worse made it impossible and I had to get a ride home. The sensitivity feels like a callous right in the fold between the pad for the muscle under my big toe and the rest of the muscles under the toes. Like, my toes are fine, the middle of my foot is fine, the arch is fine, and the heel is fine. It's those pads where the toes meet the foot, not sure what they're called, and right in the middle, right after the big pad under my big toes, on both feet. I poked the left side one with a pin last night and it wasn't full of puss or bleeding or anything but watery, like I'd popped a blister. There's not one on the other one though. To the touch, they feel like callouses and they hurt to be touched or when I flex my feet inward so that part of the foot creases. Thank goodness I have Sundays off. Going to rest and pray that by Monday I am able to walk on them.

Celebrating my birthday! At home, though because I live in Rexburg. :/

Woohoo! And thank you! I'm glad it's not just me able to get encouragement from this thread! And yes, I've lost 25 lbs. since moving to Rexburg. I am starting to notice small differences like certain clothes getting looser but so far looking in the mirror, my hips and middle still seem thick to me. But, I'm in it for the long haul; I would love 3 years from now to be able to walk 4 miles a day like I have been with the same amount of "taking a lovely stroll" feeling that I do now. You do pushups? I've thought about other workout type things but the only thing I like to do is walk, lol. Keep up the good work, NeuroTypical! You can do it! We'll all get real pretty and then have a mormonhub get together with a fabulous group photo, lol.

Thank you! I'm very proud! While walking a route I walked the first week I got here, I was astonished by how easy it was now, remembering a time when I was left gasping and stopping every few minutes to rest. Lol, that's awful, anatess! XD I remember the freedom of eating cake or ice cream or Cheezits for dinner. *sigh*

Sunday weigh in: 250 lbs. I didn't check in last weekend because I only lost two pounds; I ate a bunch of taffy and drank a bunch of energy drinks. This week was better and I walk about 4 miles each day. Got two jobs now. I basically work and walk.

My favorite scripture has to do with the mustard seed, Matthew 17:20. My second favorite is Alma 17:9-11 because it talks about being instruments in the hands of the Lord. My favorite story is Alma the Younger because I really identify with his rebellion and then return to the church. I didn't really find myself a whole lot in the scriptures when I was younger but when I started coming back and reading the Book of Mormon, I really found ways to apply its teachings to my life.

I'd confront them first, try to have a reasonable discussion with them about boundaries or whatever. If it didn't change anything or didn't look like it would, I would tell the Bishop and nobody else. He's the one who is the steward of everyone in the ward and would be the most able to work with them with inspiration from the Lord. However, if someone else complained to me or confided in me about something similar happening to them, I would tell them about my own experiences and tell them to tell the bishop as well(this assuming all of this happened after I'd already done everything above; if someone told me about something nasty happening to them and THEN it happened to me from the same offender, I'd still start at step 1. and confront the person about their behavior towards me personally before then going to the bishop). I think there is value in talking things through but as in your case, Sunday, where he was seemingly put into a position of authority, I'd less assume it was, "Oh, hey, he's being rewarded" and more that the bishop probably thought, "This guy doesn't seem to have enough to do and his idle hands are causing trouble." I don't know the full extent or details but that would be my impression of the bishop's choice in the matter. Sometimes when you give someone who is acting out or acting inappropriately a challenge or responsibility, they step up; it clears the perspective. Sometimes.