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7 minutes ago, Sunday21 said:
Dear @dddd Thank you for your concern. No I do not have OCD or anxiety disorder. Thank you for taking the time to post.
It doesn't make you less of a person to have it. I dated a guy who described what you did almost verbatim and after we broke up he went to a counselor and got help. Not meaning to be offensive, just ghat what you described seems out of the normal spectrum
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1 hour ago, seashmore said:
From a practical perspective, I advise against sleeping nude. Should a house/apartment fire or other sudden emergency happen, I'm guessing you wouldn't want to waste precious time dressing.
Any opinions on sleeping "Mormon naked" in just garments?
There are apparently some health benefits to sleeping in the buff, which is why I wondered, because I sleep in a room with no AC and used to do it all the time before my mission.
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3 minutes ago, Overwatch said:
You haven't. I responded to your other post "Given some Prophecies..."
Keep up the good the work.
I am going to take my Wife and girls out, FRIDAY night WOOOO! Be back later. So you or anyone messages me I am not ignoring you and my phone will be on silent. See ya guys in a bit
Good job!!!!
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2 minutes ago, Overwatch said:
But seriously. You are an adult, again, if he was ready I would have said go for it. I think you are doing the right thing at this moment. Seeking advice from The Lord, Leaders, parentand now your peers.
Thank you! I looked at Pres Nelson and his wife and thought if they could do it why not me but they are very healthy lol. And I feel at peace with the decision but it totally makes me feel like I have missed the marriage train somehow.
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2 minutes ago, Overwatch said:
It's not the same thing, especially since you have served a mission already. If the man was righteous then maybe he needs to take some time to get to know your father and mother. You will always be seen as your Daddy's baby girl. Give him some time. If this 40+ year old man was the one not wanting to go to his Bishop then you have your answer right there.
Ultimately he broke up with me because of family disapproval which he knows is important to me. I think I commented about it on your marriage
advice page. It was only later I expressed to him I could not be committed to someone who wasn't temple ready, as he was saying he hoped it would work in the future.
But aside from his issues, my family knew nothing about that. They still encouraged me to break up with him over an age difference. Danged if I do, danged if I don't I guess. My aunt literally said she knew no one in my age bracket to set me up with because they were all married, and then proceeded to tell me what an awful idea it was to date someone older than me.
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6 minutes ago, TurboGirl said:
why is there no mention of Jesus being married in the temple in Bible or the BOM, or that he was married at all?
Plus in both of the articles they talk about how much better a marriage is if you know it is for eternity. I know lots of strong marriage that did not begin in a temple.
People make fun of the virgin Mary so much. Imagine how they would exploit his wife. Horrid. And if you read, really read, it strongly implies Jesus was married.
And point being with the strong marriages not being in the temple, we haven't seen the end or even the behind the scenes in a lot of cases. ALSO, if you follow the principles that God has outlined for success and marital happiness (which are contained in the commandments/temple covenants) no matter who you are or if you have access to them or not you'll be blessed. To say that no marriage outside of a temple is happy is like saying that no one who doesn't take a financial success seminar will be rich. It may be the best seminar in the world, but if you live principles regardless if you were formally taught them or not you will get the results.
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1 hour ago, Overwatch said:
ex: 30 yr old woman dating a 25 yr old man. He will not be on the same level BUT some men are very willing to step up and learn from their future wife.
What about different age brackets all together? I broke up with a man who was 18 years older than me because my family disapproved of an age difference. My aunt was especially opinionated. But I feel like a woman in her mid twenties dating a man 18 years older is not so worrisome as a teenage girl marrying her boyfriend who was 4 years older than her within days of graduating high school, which is exactly what my aunt did.
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4 hours ago, mdfxdb said:
OP. do you have a link to the original article? I am of the opinion that women should not compromise their values by marrying outside of the faith.
http://www.ldsliving.com/How-Long-Should-You-Wait-for-a-Temple-Marriage-/s/63887
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On 4/30/2018 at 5:34 AM, Sunday21 said:
as time passes, you may age out of the mission serving age.
Not in this case.
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On 8/10/2016 at 9:50 AM, paracaidista508 said:
If my daughter were writing a missionary and he never wrote back Id tell her to dump him. If you are not worth writing to in his mind then he is not worth being around.OR he could just be an honorable missionary whose priority is not to write to all the girls sending him letters. He shouldn't be thinking about his romantic interest in her. When you go on a mission there are just some different rules...
I would be more worried about him being marriage material if he IS always writing back.
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On 8/8/2016 at 10:11 PM, mt_mck7 said:
Would it be better if I e-mailed him instead of writing letters? Thanks!
Short answer: yes.
But there may be a rule in his mission where you are only allowed to write home, not allowed to write to girls, or can only write to girls every few weeks. So it's best to not expect anything back and just be a support.
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Whoops did not realize this was so old
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Maybe this will be easy for you in that case but your life, your wife, and your children will be a lot happier if you always make sure you love your wife more than the kids. Science-backed fact.
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Just now, lostinwater said:
Optional blessing i get. Shows respect - and respect is great. A horrible relationship with MIL/FIL can really mess things up.
But i really don't get permission - where the parent gets the final word. People are not property.
Do you support a society in which the parent would be able to prevent a child from making their own choice in terms of who they can marry? Not an accusation, just a request for clarification. i actually don't think you do - you are just explaining Costa Rican society, right?
Well in America at least, there is no way in heck that another person is property so I view that segment of the argument as moot. Legally another person can marry someone even if both sets of parents say no. Heck, they'll still give you a temple recommend. But it depends on the person you are with. I would be a person where permission/approval is 100% the final word. (Unless I got a vision from heaven telling me to disregard my fam's wishes or something.) As a kid my mom did not always get along with my dad's side, my dad did not click with my mom's side, and even my mom didn't click with her own side. My happiest memories were spent at grandparents with cousins so it broke my heart to be withheld from making memories because of my parents' disdain for whatever was going on in the family at the time. In fact, about two weeks ago I was dating a man recently as we started putting a timeline on marriage but found out my dad did NOT approve. Broke my heart but we both decided to end it.
And if there was a country that would prevent someone from marrying based on parental approval I would not call that an abuse of human rights and additionally would support their right to keep that legislation. If the lovers are dead set God wants them to marry against their parents' wishes, they can run away to a country like America. Love will find a way (;
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So you view having a child as life being destroyed? Was this unplanned?
14 minutes ago, Lee said:rro
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Just now, Lee said:
I don't have any kids but my wife is pregnant
Congrats! That's so exciting!!!
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3 minutes ago, Lee said:
It isn't my fault that God gave me the greatest woman as my mother.
Do you love your children or your mother more? Genuine curiosity
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1 minute ago, Lee said:
2) Sex is powerful and should only be engaged in when both partners desire to. One partner making the other feel bad because they don't want to is disgusting and a misuse of trust.
Agreed but who said anything about shaming your partner into sex?
What about making a marriage partner feel bad because their spouse is not willing to be intimate with them? I think that would hurt anyone's spirit and self esteem.
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1 minute ago, Lee said:
I do cleave only to my wife but that doesn't mean I can't love my mother more than her.
Well the first question you get when you get to the judgement bar won't be about how much you loved your mother.
https://www.lds.org/ensign/1981/07/brethren-love-your-wives?lang=eng
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On 6/7/2018 at 11:07 AM, Lee said:
Seriously? If you have found the woman you want to marry and who God wants you to marry, then to bail because she or you are unsure about being sexually compatible is a terrible idea. Sex with your spouse should not be a consideration of whether it is right to marry your fiancee, that is carnal and completely wrong.
To think of sex as only carnal is wrong. Sex is the highest expression of love and a huge physiological way couples bond...I think its selfish to demand it of your spouse but also selfish to withhold it. You could uncover these attitudes before getting married and save yourself a lot of pain. Find out if you're going to be on a different page for eternity.
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On 6/7/2018 at 11:15 AM, Lee said:
Heads up my wife once asked me if I loved her or my mother more. I told her it was no competition of course I love my mother more. I think I slept on the couch for a couple of weeks. If your wife ever asks you that just lie.
The Bible says cleave unto your life and none else, so basically your wife has a biblical pass to put you on the couch.
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18 hours ago, Maureen said:
Permission? I'm assuming your oldest daughter is an adult. I'm agreeing with @Fether regarding this tradition. The only person's answer that matters when a man proposes, is the woman's. A woman is not the property of her father (not like in the olden days), so it is very condescending to think that a father's permission is required for his adult daughter to marry. If you think some kind of tradition is necessary to show respect, I can see asking the woman's parents for their blessing, but that's as far as I would go. Men can show respect to their future parents-in-law without having to cater to condescending traditions.
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I'm a 25 year old woman and I do tell people (even jokingly) my parents own me. Even being financially independent now...They gave their life to raise me. They invested everything they had to get me to the point of adulthood where I CAN consent and legally make binding decisions for myself. And because I love them and trust them and know that I'm here because of them, I do want their approval in this. And that's the tradition. I see nothing in the tradition that the mother is not aware and consulted as well.
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Just now, BeccaKirstyn said:
Yes, there was a lot of symbolic doctrine to take in, which we continually go back to relearn. The garment instructions are laid out first so it can be clearly listened to, but if you forget them they're in handbook 2 which was conveniently referenced by @zil, as I said earlier. And like @omegaseamaster75 said, now you know.
That's great. Next time I'll go to the handbook now that I have it, but I've just been surprised at the shaming attitudes people have on this site for lack of knowledge.
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2 hours ago, BeccaKirstyn said:
There were specific instructions given to you prior to the endowment session the first time you went through. @zil has posted the handbook 2 reference regarding what those instructions were like.
They are not up for interpretation, and are very black and white. Hopefully that helps with the question you have, or any others regarding how to wear the garment.
Don't tell me that I'm the first person to tell you that there's a lot to take in when you get endowed. I mean please. Literally the only thing I remember was the Matron telling me that she was not going to tell me how to wear my underwear and telling me how much she loved sister missionaries and loves being a mission mom.
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A lot of times even the person will fail to recognize their behaviors as a way to combat OCD especially if the behvaiors are socially acceptable.