Honor

Whatever you do... DO NOT TELL YOUR WIFE! She'll flip. I doubt she has a sense of humor when it comes to things like this. BUT you might soften it all by telling her that you're going to make your millions by giving up your position as head LDS.NET Statistician and take up writing soap operas. :)

FT, are you out looking for one yourself? Look in the mirror! Your FACE is your nemesis and you know it! Welcome Charlie! Come jump in with the goof balls and have some fun! If turning 25 and being single qualifies you for Club Menace, I can only imagine what group I'd be lumped into as a 27 year old, divorcing, single mom. You'll be one of the lesser evils around here.

I find myself holding a similar position when it comes to the President of the United States. I was not an Obama supporter through the election and I'm not terribly fond of some of the things he's doing, but I will continue to pray for him and the choices he makes as the President of our country. There REALLY IS such a thing as going beyond the boundaries of good taste, even when it's regarding a public figure. I guess it just makes me think (regarding the Chia commercial), "Someone thought this was a good idea?"

Alright Doc, we need to talk! Did you assume that your KIDS were going to teach the little Devil Doggie about safe sex practices? What about abstinence?! Have you guys decided what to do with them? Giving them away? Keeping any? I'd love to see pictures. Regardless of your relationship to the sweet little things, congratulations on the new arrivals to your home!

I do not believe that our Heavenly Father would force us to be sealed to someone that we, A.) didn't have a relationship worthy of the Celestial Kingdom with, and b) didn't WANT to be sealed to. My bishop told me that they would not look at canceling the sealing to my husband unless I was about to be sealed to someone else because there were covenants made and blessings insured by entering into the new and everlasting covenant that weren't specifically attached to my being mortally married to him. I know that I'm treading on delicate ground here and I don't want to be stating anything as fact if it's not, but as far as my personal experience goes, I have been told and come to believe that the sealing is left in place so that if she remains faithful and true to her covenants, she can still lay claim on the blessings of the Celestial Kingdom. My personal fears have been put to rest in my belief that our Heavenly Father in his infinite wisdom will sort things out (He has an amazing way of doing that with our mistakes, even in this life, when we turn to Him), and that we will not be disappointed in any way with our eternal reward if we are faithful here. I got this far in typing before I realized that I'm still not even really addressing any of your questions. I don't have much to offer for #'s1-3, but in regards to #4, all of us (married or not) should have the goal of an eternal marriage. If we reasonably do everything in our power but still are not married, I don't believe that blessings will be withheld. I think we still have MUCH to understand about the process, blessings and opportunities that we will find when we leave this life. Possibly some of the answers to your questions will come through wise priesthood leaders (ask them!) and some will simply have to come through your personal relationship with your Heavenly Father and the peace and understanding that only He can send. You've probably already searched the boards, but just in case you haven't, here are a few other threads that touched on the issue (a couple might be slightly OT, but might hold some posts that help shed some light??...): http://www.lds.net/forums/general-discussion/20625-sealings.html http://www.lds.net/forums/lds-gospel-discussion/21409-official-stance-divorce.html http://www.lds.net/forums/advice-board/18010-temple-divorce-resealing-3.html http://www.lds.net/forums/advice-board/18465-sealing-abusive-parent.html I really hope that you find the answers that you're looking for. I'll be interested to hear what others have to post and what you are able to find out.

Did I miss the part about what happened to your room mate? She A) let them dump you on the sidewalk, and B) left you there for 3 days?!

I know! All the intrigue! I wonder if Dr. Smithline figured it out and smacked his forehead. I can imagine it'd feel like a let down - like the joke was on him, not on Jefferson.

And then there's those people like Dr T who instead of just admitting that he's 77 years old, they have to be difficult. Let's blame the whole ASL thing on them!

Does Olive Garden count as a group date? Does the Olive Garden group date qualify for the "fine" category?

I know I'm going to sound like I'm the pickiest person alive, but I promise I'm trying to help you out here. Throwing in (breaths) surrounded by ......'s makes it sound more like you're hyperventilating than breathing normally when you type. Don't worry D&C, I'm naming myself as your Social Mannerisms Therapist. We're gonna get through this.

Not this time my friend!

I found this thoroughly fascinating! Two Centuries On, a Cryptologist Cracks a Presidential Code - WSJ.com For more than 200 years, buried deep within Thomas Jefferson's correspondence and papers, there lay a mysterious cipher -- a coded message that appears to have remained unsolved. Until now.

It's my opinion that there is not a clear right or wrong way for a spouse to feel about this situation. Certainly extremes can be irrational, but within reason, I don't think you can tell someone something like, "You shouldn't feel that way about your wife having male friends." I believe we should all strive to be understanding, but the comfort levels are GOING to vary and that's ok. I think that it's something that people should address in the dating process - what they are and aren't comfortable with in regard to having friends and interaction with members of the opposite sex, and they should try to find someone that understands and can live with both of their expectations. If those expectations are too different, it's probably not a wise choice of a marriage partner. I think it should be less about a wife "not allowing" her husband to do certain things and more about him understanding her feelings about it and choosing not to because he loves her. It's the same outcome, but a different approach to it when it comes to free will. After all - all of us are going to be more willing to do something when we know that it's our own choice. Saying that I wouldn't allow my husband to do something would most likely only build resentment over time. It implies that he'd want to do it if I wasn't standing there watching him. Again, I think it has a lot to do with the people we choose to marry and things we identify in them BEFORE we actually make the choice to get married.

LOL ok so mentioning the heels was just me being facetious (similar to saying - have her sit her pretty little self in the drivers seat). I'm just surprised that when you told her to get out and push, she didn't get out of the car and walk away.

Ok, you probably don't need any more reminders of what not to do , but I've gotta ask it! You really didn't have HER sit with her heels in the drivers seat while YOU pushed started the car?

Honor's ASL

I've never taken offense to it although I hear people say that it's so terrible and that they hate it. All three of those things are things that most people ask at one point anyway, and that's just a quick way to find it out. Some people who are looking to hook up don't even ask it, and some people who aren't just looking to hook up do. It just doesn't bother me that much to be asked. Thank goodness this site kinda helps alleviate the problem because of the profiles (which not everyone checks, but can be a nice resource in knowing who you're talking to). Anyway, that's my .02.

Temple Square Performance Schedule - July Temple Square Calendar I just called the Temple Square ticket office and they said while the church offices will be closed for the holiday on the 24th, none of the things to do will be. It was pretty cute - the sister kinda laughed and said, "Oh yeah, Temple Square is never closed." Visitors Welcome - literally!

I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to share your experiences. I hope that you can find the peace and support here that you're seeking.

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Quit watching the clock!

I agree! Welcome! Hope you have fun killing time here with the rest of us.

In a conversation I had with my bishop, I had a similar feeling so I said to him, "I don't want to be sharing details or information that you really don't need or want to hear, but I just want to make sure that I'm being honest and that I'm repenting properly, are you sure that you don't need to know more about this?" And he confirmed that he didn't need to know anything else about this specific situation. I agree with the previous posts - Satan's tools are fear and discouragement. If you have questions, ask them, but be willing to accept the repentance for yourself.

Might be worth mentioning that it's not only about full disclosure, but also reacting to how your spouse feels about the situation.

I took a Marriage Prep class up at the U Institute years ago and I remember one lesson in particular on all the different types of infidelity - social, emotional, physical... etc. The teacher first asked us for our definition of infidelity in marriage (most of us assumed something of a physical nature), but by the end of the class we concluded that it really means sharing something that should be shared with your spouse, with others.