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Thank you for all your prayers for my brother a while back. I got a call tonight that he passed away this evening. Some of you remember him battling cancer. He lost his final battle tonight.

He was only 57 years old, not much older than I am. He leaves behind 2 daughters and 2 grandchildren. I feel sad that he won't be here to see the babies grow up.

He also leaves behind 2 brothers and 2 sisters as well as our mother who is 82 years old now. I am really really concerned about her and how she is taking it. They all live in Florida, so far away.

I did get to go and see him at Christmas. His weight had gone from 385 to 120 since February of 2005. In February he was given 6 weeks to live, so he fought hard.

Heavenly Father has other needs for him now. While he is not LDS, I know he is in a better place now.

Sorry for rambling on, thank you for your prayers.

Marsha

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Marsha,

I am so sorry my heart goes out to you and your family members. I am grateful that you were able to see him at Christmas. Remember the good memories and not be afraid the keep his memory alive to all who knew and loved him.

(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) SF

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My condolences Marsha. Our prayers will be with your mother and the rest of your family now.

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Marsha,

I offer my condolences as well. I know that it has been very hard on everyone involved. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and ask God to give you strength, faith and understanding during these difficult times. May God Bless!

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Sorry to hear this Marsha, it is a very difficult thing to lose a brother, i have lost both of mine, and i still hurt, but the memories i have always help me get threw the bad days, and knowing they are in a better place, .......i have so many good memories, and when a song comes on the radio that they loved i can feel them, just like they are around, My prayers are with you!

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My thoughts and prayers are with you too, Marsha, and I’d also like to make a few comments, which I hope you will find to be comforting.

He was only 57 years old, not much older than I am. He leaves behind 2 daughters and 2 grandchildren. I feel sad that he won't be here to see the babies grow up.

It is sad that he died at such a young age, but no matter how long he lived on this Earth there is no way all of his grandchildren would have been able to see him as they grew up… yet he may continue to see and help them to grow up.

Or in other words, just because you can’t see him anymore right now, while he now lives beyond the veil, that doesn’t mean he can’t see you and his family grow up, as you all continue to live and grow up.

And who knows, there may come a time when you will see him again on this Earth, because some of us do actually get some visitors.

He also leaves behind 2 brothers and 2 sisters as well as our mother who is 82 years old now. I am really really concerned about her and how she is taking it. They all live in Florida, so far away.

What is it that causes you concern for your mother? At the age of 82 I would think she feels she has already lived a good and full life, and while she may yet have many more days to live here, I would think she is now looking forward to seeing him again as soon as she passes on.

For instance, I have a friend, an older lady, who was recently told that she only has 6 months left to live here, and while she is sad for her husband, who will most likely remain here a while longer, and while she is also sad for most of her children and grandchildren, who will also most likely remain here a while longer, she has been anxiously thinking and doing some more research about the people she wants to see again on the other side.

Or in other words, I would think your mother is more concerned for you and how you will feel when she passes on, rather than how she feels about going.

I did get to go and see him at Christmas. His weight had gone from 385 to 120 since February of 2005. In February he was given 6 weeks to live, so he fought hard.

It sounds like it was a good time for him to go, if ever there is a good time.

Heavenly Father has other needs for him now. While he is not LDS, I know he is in a better place now.

I know that too, Marsha. And I know he looks forward to seeing you again too.
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Marsha, I am sorry for your loss. When my BIL passed away last year some posters here sent me the loveliest of poems, here's one:

Death is nothing at all

Death is nothing at all.

I have only slipped away into the next room.

I am I and you are you,

Whatever we were to each other, that we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name,

Speak to me in the easy way which you always used.

Put no difference in your tone,

wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow,

laugh as we always laughed

at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Pray smile, think of me, pray for me.

Let my name be ever the household word

that it always was.

Let it be spoken without effort,

without the trace of a shadow in it.

Life means all that it ever meant,

it is the same as it ever was.

There is unbroken continuity,

why should I be out of mind

because I am out of sight?

I am waiting for you

somewhere very near

just around the corner.

All is well

by Henry Scott Holland 1847-1918

Canon of St Paul's Cathedral

M.

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I want to thank all of you for your kind words and prayers.

The poem helped much Maureen, thank you very much.

Ray, you have given me some things to think about, thank you.

It has been a rough night and day. Maybe the sun will shine again. :(

Yes, I am sure it will, just takes time.

What is the saying something about Time heals all.

Marsha

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Marsha,

I am sorry for your loss and what you are going through at this time. Loss is hard, even when we understand the gospel and know he is in a better and wonderful place, we still have to work through our own loss. You will miss him and grieve for him and that is natural. Allow yourself the time to feel that loss and put it into prospective.

One thing that has helped me immensly with the loss of my father and son is to come to the realization that they are not lost to God, nor to me, eternally. To realize they have just moved to a different place and I will join them later. We move accross the country, they have moved accross eternity so to speak. When I could put it into those terms, I could deal with it. I still miss them very very much, but I do realize that they are just in a different "country" so to speak and I will join them later, even though I do miss them now. May sound childish, but it helped me.

Take care dear and know our thoughts are with you....

Josie

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