Test Tube Baby

[DougFunny]

Hello everyone! I just got back from second mission! Nice to see a forum (and to have internet!) Here is my problem.

I'm going to have a baby with my wife. The doctors need 'something' from me. They told me that they can get it by surgery - if that is required. I don't want to risk surgery, but I'm not sure how I can get 'it' without sinning. Should I ask my Bishop about this?

Can I get it myself? Should my wife be there? If so, how should she collect it? Is it wrong if I ask for help from the nurse - as a medical professional? I look forward to your thoughtful responses.

[DougFunny]

Also, I have a problem with my dominant hand - I forgot to mention. I think this may make some options less feasible.

[slamjet]

Did that, done that, got beautiful kids from it. It's a medical thing so I wouldn't think too much about it.

[DougFunny]

Should I try not to enjoy it? What should I think about?

[slamjet]

Ok, I'll confess that I needed "help" because of the stress to perform. Funny thing was that they had a special room that was outfitted and filled with helpful material. So if thinking about your wife doesn't work out, well, it's a judgement call if the ends justify the means.

[DougFunny]

Thank you very much! Does anyone else have advice/experience?

[blackknight5k]

See if your wife can go back there with you? Then you can have her "help"? I know at least 1 guy who did that.

[Wingnut]

Just got home from your second mission? So are you in your 60's? 70's? Just trying to figure out a timeline, and why you're trying to have a baby now.

[Gwen]

I see it as a medical procedure, do what you have to do. If it were my husband I would not think anything bad of it (or him) for doing it.

On the other hand if he couldn't get what he needed without help I would want him to ask me to be with him rather than look at whatever was supplied by the dr's office.

Ask a nurse? That would be a huge no (I can't imagine a nurse that would see it as more than macho sexual harassment to overcome denied insecurities).

[NeuroTypical]

Yeah, I second the vote for having your wife there to help.

[swampgeek]

I'm sorry, I was going to try and make an actual attempt at a "helpful" answer...but my mind keeps filling with things that are totally inappropriate. I must now go and find a room to pray in, to keep from having my express, window seats ticket, upgraded straight to hell. Sorry...

[Bini]

My husband had to do a semen analysis once. There is no sin in this.

To add. No medical professional will physically assist you in producing a semen sample etc etc. It doesn't work that way. There is material provided to help stimulate you and if that fails, request your significant other or in your case your wife to assist you.

[Backroads]

Call me crazy, but I think it would almost be more meaningful to have your wife there during the time of the extraction of 'it'.

I wouldn't stress too much in advance, though.

swampgeek: lol.

Actually, while I recognize this as a legitimate question, it does make me appreciate the intense awkwardness that has made it the subject of so many sitcom episodes...

[Maureen]

If you live close to the hospital you probably can provide this semen sample in the comfort of your own home, therefore making it easier for your wife to assist you. This is how my husband did it. In fact the medical staff associated with the fertility clinic I went to didn't even meet my husband. I would take his semen sample with me keeping it close to my body to keep it warm (especially in the winter time). If your wife already has to go herself for tests or a procedure, just make arrangements for her to take your sample with her. Ask the doctor just to be sure.

M.

[pam]

Maureen when I was going through infertility that's how we did it. Was taken at home and I had a certain (though limited) timeframe to get it to the lab. But so much more comfortable than attempting to provide a sample in a facility.