JaneDoe Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 After being in a marriage for over 5 years, married to a spouse who is a sex addict, I've decided to set sail on another ship. I'm exhausted, mentally and physically from all the wrong choices he has made that have affected our marriage. He has not shown any signs of improvement. He talks down to me and our two children when he certainly has no room to speak. I'm tired of it. Tired of hurting. Tired of the cycle he puts us threw. Ugh. Now where to go from here. All I can do now is turn this hurt and pain over to the Lord and have Him guide me. I don't know where we (my daughters and I) will go, or what I'm going to do from here. I have a college degree. I can get a job, but I hate the thought of having my girls in day care when I've been the one caring for them since they were born. A lot of things are about to change and I pray and hope things will look up soon... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 Been there done that. While the financial part was tough..emotionally I finally saw light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. I wish you the best of luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaneDoe Posted April 29, 2012 Author Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 Thanks, Pam. I need all the luck I can get right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsMagnolia Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 It is hard but oh so worth it. I'll keep you in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 Good luck to you. I wish you the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 I think you also need to follow your avatar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaneDoe Posted April 29, 2012 Author Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 I'm trying Pam. Trying to have faith about what the future has enstored for us. I'm nervous, but I know it will all work out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pam Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 I'm trying Pam. Trying to have faith about what the future has enstored for us. I'm nervous, but I know it will all work out. Totally understandable about being nervous. It's a huge life change. It's scary. You'll have more responsibilities at times than you will know what to do with or how to handle. I'm not saying that to frighten you. Just being realistic as someone that has been there. But you are right. It will all work out. Just keep the faith. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skippy740 Posted April 30, 2012 Report Share Posted April 30, 2012 Just a clarifying point that "JaneDoe" is NOT the wife of our head moderator "JohnDoe". :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vort Posted April 30, 2012 Report Share Posted April 30, 2012 TWO Jane Does? What are the odds? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMinja Posted April 30, 2012 Report Share Posted April 30, 2012 I wish you the best as you chart this new course for your family. I hope you've made the decision carefully and prayerfully, and not out of frustration. Remember that such a big change will present very new challenges, but it will all be worth it if it is truly the right course for you and yours. Make sure all your legal matters are in order. As a single mother and aunt to two nephews from a divided family, I would be glad to offer you whatever comfort and advice I can from my experience. And I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
autismmum Posted April 30, 2012 Report Share Posted April 30, 2012 Sorry to hear of what you are going through:( My advice is to just take it one step at a time and hold on to your faith. You are doing the right thing. I have been there in a way as my ex husband walked out on me and our 2 year old son right after we found out he was autistic ( he went off with my best friend but thats another story) I was scared and felt like I couldnt go on..didnt feel brave enough. I only worked 2 days a week as a nurse and didnt know if we could survive financially. By taking it a day at a time I worked my way through the sadness and came out the other side. After a year I met a lovely man and we have now been together 5 years and are married. I can now see that the first life wasnt for me...it wasnt my path and despite the sadness I had to go through I am glad it all happened. Wishing you all the luck in the world to you and your daughters...stay strong xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaneDoe Posted April 30, 2012 Author Report Share Posted April 30, 2012 Thanks, ladies!! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MorningStar Posted May 11, 2012 Report Share Posted May 11, 2012 I'm so sorry to hear it, Jane. I know you have done your best with this situation. Prayers for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ALLBEEF Posted May 22, 2012 Report Share Posted May 22, 2012 I hope it gets better!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seeking_peace Posted May 27, 2012 Report Share Posted May 27, 2012 It DOES get better. There are a lot of things that become easier when you finally let go. You will no longer be the keeper of his secrets. Your pain will be more evident to others and help will present itself. You may have to swallow your pride and ask for help, but it will be there. Heavenly Father will bless you for your years of faithfulness. He knows your heart. You will be blessed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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