Guest Posted March 17, 2016 Report Share Posted March 17, 2016 12 minutes ago, LiterateParakeet said: Carb, do you know the video I mean? I'm afraid not. This was from an article that I once read about male/female relationships. I'm sure the video and the article I read had similar source material. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LiterateParakeet Posted March 17, 2016 Report Share Posted March 17, 2016 9 minutes ago, Carborendum said: I'm afraid not. This was from an article that I once read about male/female relationships. I'm sure the video and the article I read had similar source material. Ok, thanks. I think I might have subscribed to his channel. If so I can find it later and share it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunday21 Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 Have you considered emailing or texting him? Sometimes busy people just can't stand any more interaction. You should see me by the end of the day. By Friday night, I can't even stand to watch tv but I could take a text. See text, "pick up milk". Okay, no problem. But don't spend 5 minutes explaining why you need the milk. That's too much information for my tired brain. I once stayed with my brother, engineer, enough said. We were in the same room and we were texting each other! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest MormonGator Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 21 minutes ago, Sunday21 said: I once stayed with my brother, engineer, enough said. We were in the same room and we were texting each other! LadyGator and I do that, but only when we are laughing at other people in the same room Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zil Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 1 hour ago, MormonGator said: LadyGator and I do that, but only when we are laughing at other people in the same room My favorite mode of communication was between rooms - write a note, give it to the dog, and say, "Take it to Dad!" Eventually, sure enough, the dog would return with a response. Sunday21 and Backroads 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest MormonGator Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 9 minutes ago, zil said: My favorite mode of communication was between rooms - write a note, give it to the dog, and say, "Take it to Dad!" Eventually, sure enough, the dog would return with a response. At a family reunion once my sweet little LadyGator sent me a stunning assessment of how one of my girl cousins was dressed. She was 14 trying desperately to look Miley Cyrus. She looked disgusting, actually. I burst out laughing and everyone looked at me. My sister snatched the phone, read the text and then laughed out loud too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LiterateParakeet Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 @Carborendum .... found it! Backroads, this is a short 5 min. segment of a weekend seminar on marriage-but this 5 min. video addresses your question directly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LiterateParakeet Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 If you like the 5 minute clip, here is the the longer version. This is a little over 2 hours...and totally worth your time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zil Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 5 hours ago, LiterateParakeet said: @Carborendum .... found it! Backroads, this is a short 5 min. segment of a weekend seminar on marriage-but this 5 min. video addresses your question directly. So this guy is saying you always have to ask more than once. Every other source I've ever heard says asking more than once is nagging, and you shouldn't nag. There was this book, I think the title was Catch-22... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
estradling75 Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 35 minutes ago, zil said: So this guy is saying you always have to ask more than once. Every other source I've ever heard says asking more than once is nagging, and you shouldn't nag. There was this book, I think the title was Catch-22... I am not sure I agree that "You have to ask more then once"... If that one time is asked in the correct way. The trick is not the number of times asked but in getting it to stick. Remember the first part of the video when he is roleplaying the left and right side of the male brain LB: Did you hear something? RB: Nope.. As long as that "Nope"... is happening the man isn't hearing you. No matter how much you might talk you aren't communicating, until his brain actually engages. zil 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zil Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 8 minutes ago, estradling75 said: I am not sure I agree that "You have to ask more then once"... If that one time is asked in the correct way. The trick is not the number of times asked but in getting it to stick. Remember the first part of the video when he is roleplaying the left and right side of the male brain LB: Did you hear something? RB: Nope.. As long as that "Nope"... is happening the man isn't hearing you. No matter how much you might talk you aren't communicating, until his brain actually engages. My point, primarily, is that we're doomed so long as the advice is all contradictory. I like your way of putting it: (a) get his attention first, (b) ensure you actually have his attention, (c) then ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LiterateParakeet Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 59 minutes ago, zil said: So this guy is saying you always have to ask more than once. Every other source I've ever heard says asking more than once is nagging, and you shouldn't nag. There was this book, I think the title was Catch-22... Maybe we should take a poll here on LDS.net and ask the men. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
estradling75 Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 (edited) 22 minutes ago, zil said: My point, primarily, is that we're doomed so long as the advice is all contradictory. I like your way of putting it: (a) get his attention first, (b) ensure you actually have his attention, (c) then ask. That would be good advise to women... Of course to be fair the advise to give men is... "When you realize that you wife is talking.... pay attention." Because improving communication should not be a one way street Edited March 18, 2016 by estradling75 zil 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zil Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 13 minutes ago, LiterateParakeet said: Maybe we should take a poll here on LDS.net and ask the men. We'd have to get their attention first. Sunday21 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 2 hours ago, zil said: We'd have to get their attention first. What? What are we talking about? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zil Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 19 minutes ago, Carborendum said: What? What are we talking about? I was asking whether you wanted a jet-propelled lawn mower, delivered by the Swedish women's volleyball team, but you said "no", so nevermind, go back to whatever you were doing. Sunday21 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 Oh. Is that all? So, back to my bowl of chips and salsa again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NightSG Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 7 hours ago, LiterateParakeet said: Maybe we should take a poll here on LDS.net and ask the men. If you've got questions, you'd better be bringing sandwiches too. zil and Vort 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vort Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 14 hours ago, LiterateParakeet said: @Carborendum .... found it! Backroads, this is a short 5 min. segment of a weekend seminar on marriage-but this 5 min. video addresses your question directly. The preacher is pretty funny and a good storyteller. But before I invest two hours, or even ten more minutes into this guy, let me ask a couple of questions: Is the "men are so clueless" schtik common through all his stuff, or was it a feature only of this particular story? If the woman so desperately wanted it painted, why didn't he tell ter to paint her own darn ceiling? NightSG 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zil Posted March 18, 2016 Report Share Posted March 18, 2016 45 minutes ago, Vort said: why didn't he tell ter to paint her own darn ceiling (I agree, especially for 1-offs like that, and where she's capable of doing it herself.) Meanwhile, time to praise my dad (and mom). When I bought my house, my mom and dad came for the move-in event. The garage was dry-walled, but not painted. Dad said, "If you don't paint it now, it'll just be a lot harder later after you've got a bunch of stuff in here." I said, "OK, let's go to the hardware store and get what we need." Dad stared up at the ceiling, so far away (it's a very high ceiling), and said, "Well, that's gonna be hard to paint with anything but an airless paint sprayer..." (for those who don't know, this is a big thing with a motor, a hose, and a wand with a spray head on the far end). Mom's saving part in this is that she knew where he was going and didn't object at all. I, of course, said, "What's that?". Dad explained and said he'd buy it and paint the walls and ceiling (then take it home with him), if me and mom painted the concrete at the bottom of the wall and out about 4 inches of the floor - a different color, so it would look nice. We all agreed, dad got his new toy, explained to us how to tape off the floor so it would look nice, and I got a painted garage. I'm pretty sure this is how it's supposed to work. Vort 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LiterateParakeet Posted March 19, 2016 Report Share Posted March 19, 2016 10 hours ago, Vort said: The preacher is pretty funny and a good storyteller. But before I invest two hours, or even ten more minutes into this guy, let me ask a couple of questions: Is the "men are so clueless" schtik common through all his stuff, or was it a feature only of this particular story? If the woman so desperately wanted it painted, why didn't he tell ter to paint her own darn ceiling? 1--- If you mean is it two hours of men bashing? No, he teases women quite a bit as well. 2--- I wondered the same thing. Maybe it's one of those really high ceilings like Zil mentioned. Somehow, I missed the memo that you aren't supposed to ask more than once. Thank goodness my husband didn't get that memo either because sometimes he has to ask me more than once....especially if he's asking me to cut his hair. I procrastinate because just about the time it gets to the length I prefer, he thinks it's time for a trim. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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