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She passed away at a young age after having several children with my boyfriend's father. He remarried my boyfriend's mother and they had one child, my boyfriend. ugh, confusing. The marriage to my boyfriend's mother always seemed a bit odd to me, they never met or courted. They were 'referred' to each other by family (living in the same area) and they decided to meet. They both drove halfway to meet each other (they lived in different states), met, and married the same day. She was a WONDERFUL mother and wife (old german family - great cook). I visit her grave every few months and leave flowers, and I always feel like she is with me. Doing her temple work was awesome. But it always confused me why she allowed her husband to be burried by his first wife, while she is buried halfway across the cemetery alone. I mean if I was in this situation, I don't care how much my husband loved his first wife, he is getting buried by ME. If there is room she can be on his other side, but if not, too bad! But in all seriousness, when I was walking towards the sealing room with the card in my hand I could feel how happy the second wife was, and I could feel the husband there, and he was calm, but the first wife seemed so upset it was almost like there was something pushing me back away from the room. I really had to stop and pray about it. I realized that THIS sealing was about the two people that were happy, and I wouldn't take this ordinance away from them just because of something else holding me back. I wonder if she is upset because she knows that her work isn't going to get done until the millenium... I'm not sure. I have never felt her before, but man she was NOT happy on that day. I know this all seems supernatural and wierd, but these were MY impressions in the temple. I hope I'm not the only one who has these kinds of feelings when doing temple work, otherwise maybe I need to update my meds... :)

p.s. the question is intended in an inspirational manner, not a crazy wacky manner.

What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?

that's sooo mean!

Okay, I know I will have to ask at the temple to be sure, but I thought I may as well ask here and get a few opinions... I have permission to do my boyfriend's family's temple work. My boyfriend's father was married twice. Do I have to get permission from his father's first wife's family to do her temple work? If I do, I won't pursue it, but when I was doing the temple work and sealing for his second wife (my boyfriend's mother) I got the distinct impression that the first wife was not happy about being excluded. The father is buried next to the first wife, and so I would seal them together also and let them figure out what they want to do with it from there! But it was such a huge impression on me that the first wife was not happy about the sealing between him and the second wife that I almost didn't go thru with it. It was crazy!

This is why *I* am not a big cat fan

It's in my phone calendar now! I won't miss it!

A cat that knows magic?!? oooooohhh... me like!

You have a right to free speech, but not when you are doing it as a representative for a company, if they disapprove. I tend to agree with the housing people, because we want to make sure that there isn't any possibility that there is housing discrimination going on. If he publicly criticized disabled people I would fear that he would possibly discirminate against them too... That's just my first take on it, and I don't know ANY of the details, so I may be wrong. Again. Yes. It happened once before.

This is why I like to practice and promote catch and release style hunting. CAMO Big Game toy bow and arrow set When the arrows are tipped with suction cups you can still get the 'thrill' of a big game hunt, but when you catch up to your quarry you can easily remove the arrow, and no harm done!

All the ladies in the house say, whoot whoot! Congrats!!!

okay, did not see that one coming.

And the case goes to the jury....

so what was the answer?

I COULD do that with my dog, but I would never want to leave my dog for a week. A cat, on the other hand, yeah, I could see wanting to leave for a week. Unless it was Anne's kitty, then I would never want to put it down. Ever.

Canadian Police Chase Fail | BLUtube

A cat on a cop's head | BLUtube I think we should get this kitty for slamjet!

wow. just wow.

In all seriousness, this is something that I have struggled trying to figure out (now I'm tooting my own horn). I want with all my heart to be a GOOD person. I am guessing that because this has always been my goal, and that in my childhood I was so freaked out that I would do something bad, that if ever did anything bad I would punish myself quickly and harshly. It was just my hearts desire to be a nice good person. My counselor told me this week that I needed to stop trying to be a good person, because I already was. :) THAT made me so happy! Lady, first let me say how sorry I am that I hijacked your thread! It's an emotional issue, and I am thankful to you beyond words that you brought it to our attention. Yes, I think we SHOULD start a support group forum (mods, are you listening? :) ). That is really what I wanted to get out of joining lds.net... I can't tell all of you how much being able to tell you guys what happened to me has helped me have a different perspective on it. The majority of my life has been wrapped up in trying to keep all these things secret, and to be able to make it very public has been wonderful. Thank you, everyone, for your kind support. I say, tell us about it!!!

Uh oh. I think I must have called in sick the day they were handing those out!

Oh, here's the latest gem... I can't have access to large quantities of ambien because of my depression. all my meds are locked up and administered by my honey every night. Recently I started getting my meds thru a mail order place. They have to send the medications to a physical address, not a po box. I asked my mom if she would let me have the ambien sent to her apartment so that it wouldn't come to my house, and I wouldn't be in danger. She REFUSED because she didn't want the mail man to think that she was on any medication. I told her it would be in my name, and unmarked, but she flatly stated that it was more important to her that her name be 'unsullied' than for my life to be in danger. Here's another good one - not narcissistic, just mean... when I told her that I had a brain tumor she responded, "Well, you have wanted to die before, so I guess it's no big deal then, huh?" yep, thats my loving mother.

You are in a motor boat on the ocean, alone with your narcissistic parent. You are 8 years old and your parent is 40. Suddenly, there is an small explosion in the boat. No one is injured, but it is clear that the boat will sink. There are no lifejackets, but there is a lifeboat. Unfortunately, the lifeboat will hold only one person. (If 2 people try to get in or hold on it will sink). Therefore, it is obvious that only one person will survive. What would your parent do? 1. Tell you to get in the lifeboat and row to shore, and say: "I love you." 2. Tell you to get in the lifeboat and row to shore and say "I'm a hero because I'm saving your life" 3. Get in the lifeboat and say: "I'm doing the practical thing---you wouldn't have been able to row to shore anyway" 4. Get in the lifeboat and say "you've always been a disappointment anyway" and tell everyone on shore you died in the explosion 5. Get in the lifeboat and laugh as you go under this is from Voicelessness and Emotional Survival--Narcissistic Parents I think my mom would do #3... This question kind of brings things into focus.

Here are some things that I've read today that resonate with me... "These traits will lead overly narcissistic parents to be very intrusive in some ways, and entirely neglectful in others. The children are punished if they do not respond adequately to the parents' needs. This punishment may take a variety of forms, including physical abuse, angry outbursts, blame, attempts to instill guilt, emotional neglect, and criticism. Whatever form it takes, the purpose of the punishment is to enforce compliance with the parents' narcissistic needs." wikipedia "Because mothers take the major role in child care, N mothers can do major damage to their children, if they are narcissists. A N mother is emotionally immature, the child has to take care of her. The needs of the narcissist mother come first and are like the needs of a hungry baby bird. "Feed me, feed me" the narcissist mother cries to its child, instead of caring for its child's needs, the mother is like a vampire feeding on the child. I have seen a narcissistic mother playing this game with daughters - the daughters would mimic a feeding bird - very childish actions for women over 20!" Narcissistic parents This describes my mother to a T. When I turned 18 she 'retired' and let me work full time while going to school full time to take care of her. She let me run up a ton of debt to take care of her needs and told me that she would never help me pay it off. While I was still working on getting my license she refused to drive me to school (I had to walk quite a ways) because she said it made her feel like she had a 'schedule'. It wasn't until I had my first major brain biopsy surgery and literally COULD NOT bring home a pay check that she got a job and started working, even tho months before I had begged her to find a job because I was emotionally falling apart from the pressure. I wasn't even living with her any more, and she still took my ENTIRE pay check (my honey had to feed me because I had no money for food, even tho I was working full time). It was a really sick and twisted relationship. She still makes me feel guilty that I am not able to support her financially. And I'll freely admit that I am an idiot for pandering to her. I am still coming to terms with the extent to which she BRAINWASHED me to believe that I was the source of all her pain, and I 'owe' her something for being my mother. Ugh. Yes, Anne, it helps to know what is going on with her, and it helps to know that I'm NOT alone.