I think that sometimes we harm others in the church when we show that "outward things are just fine here facade". I have come to believe that everyone struggles at some point in their life and showing the perfect family life only adds to the guilt we carry in the church. We (my husband and I) were called into the bishops off and asked a serious question by him. The question was how can we make our ward closer? My husband looked to me this time for an answer. I said that people need to start showing their hard times to others so we don't believe that we are the only one who struggle. What makes a good ward... service and getting into peoples lives, caring. Having people accept you in spite of your difficulties.
Once again I will advise you to wear your garments. Wearing them, as we should, teaches so much to our children and who matters more than they do?