Suzie

Everyone knows that marriage takes work, having said that kindness and gentleness is so extremely important in a relationship. Many times it isn't what is being said but how it is being said. The way those sentences are phrased in the OP, can cause a husband to feel heartbroken. Women should never assume that just because our spouses are male, they automatically can and should take and swallow all our frustration, bitterness and resentment without saying anything, they have feelings and they are sensitive just as we are. There are other ways to express the same issues without hurting our companion.

I think terms such as "Ex-Mormon" are giving a negative connotation because it describe others for what they are not rather for what they are and let me tell you nobody likes to be described this way.

The way I see it is like this: It is normal to have friends of both sexes but when you are hiding them from your spouse then I think there is reason to worry.

Mine talks mostly about material possessions and "excessive riches" that I will be blessed with depending on my faithfulness to the Lord. I guess I still have work to do because I didn't see a penny.

I think I understand your point but don't you think you are perhaps taking it a little too far? First let me say that I am not a fan of Facebook or any social network site because I like to be anonymous, having said that I don't see anything wrong with a wife sharing with her friends on Facebook about all the great things her husband does for her. You ask if it is bragging, perhaps it is, I don't know. I would say a lot of people brag about their families specially their children, in and out the Church you hear things like "Tommy is so smart because he got great grades at school" or "How my Erica is serving a mission in Japan and learning the language so quickly!!" and so on. I understand the importance for being sensitive and compassionate about other people, but I am not sure where the line is drawn in this sort of situation because with this reasoning, we won't do or say anything at all because otherwise it might hurt someone.

I think it's quite possible (based on church history and Oliver Cowdery's confusing testimony about it that perhaps the restoration of the Melchizedek Priesthood didn't take place as a single event but rather several events leading to the conferral of the high priesthood. There is no really records of angel visitations or the visitation of Peter, James and John in any diary until the mid-1830's. As a matter of fact, Oliver and Joseph took approximately five years from the time the Church speculates the conferral took place to talk about the visitation to the saints. Joseph made mention of the visit of the three apostles in 1838 but 10 years later Oliver, talks about "the" holy angel being the person who conferred them the Priesthood. I know anti-Mormons use this to try to portrait Joseph and Oliver as liars but in my opinion it shows the possibility that again, the restoration was done in phases. Perhaps, the phases taking place between 1829-1831 including the visitation and confirmation done by an angel as recorded by Cowdery and the final conferral taking place around 1830-1831.

In the case of Cowley it seems like it was a request by President Joseph F. Smith not sure about Taylor's case although both resigned the exact same day. It was bound to happen with or without pressure.

I just wanted to add (since we were discussing in another thread about Emeritus status as well as resignation of Apostles in the present day) that before Matthias Cowley's priesthood was suspended and before John W. Taylor was excommunicated, both resigned as members of the Quorum of the Twelve.

Hugh Brown* (you gotta love the guy) was one of the first leaders to propose giving Emeritus status to Apostles like himself but when the Church did institute it back in the late 70's, it was applied only to those below the Council of the Twelve Apostles but he tried. * Same amazing man who proposed the lift of the Priesthood ban on blacks nearly a decade before that change was announced in 1978. His proposal for the Emeritus status was around the same year.

We had several Prophets with health/age related conditions where in many cases, the first counselor or both counselors became unofficially "acting presidents" of the Church. For example, President Hunter, President Benson, Heber J. Grant, George Albert Smith and President David O. McKay.

My situation is unique (raising children with life long disabilities) I don't wonder what happens next in life when my kids have moved forward in their own journey....instead I wonder daily if they will have that chance at all. The feeling of depression and despair are similar. How I cope? I try to remind myself that I'm just human and take one day at the time and try to remain POSITIVE. VERY hard to do in my situation but God knows I try my very best and even though I don't know what the future holds, I try to remember I am not the only one going through this. Oh and I watch Ellen (the TV show) :) Because she always features people in very difficult situations that still remain positive despite all their challenges.

Thank you so much for the responses. Today we started talking a bit and I asked her if she has any hobbies, and she talked non-stop about it for 25 minutes! lol I was very surprised, she didn't make eye contact while talking but looked at me for a little bit when I was the one doing the talking.

Someone introduced her. She was red as a cherry and kept saying softly "omg" over and over and over again. Then I saw her during lunch time talking to her burger.

I met a new co-worker yesterday. She seems to be very nice and polite and very shy. Well, I guess you all figured out by now that I am far from shy. I introduced myself and she kind of introduced herself, then she said that she is very shy and walked away(I know, I scared the woman already). She came afterwards and we talked for a little while, she never makes eye contact. I know she wants to fit in but I am not sure how to approach shy people, I have a hard time relating to this type of personality. Any tips? I don't want to overwhelm her yet I want her to feel welcome. Any ideas?

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I'm sorry, I didn't explain myself properly. No, there aren't 30,000 people missing from the islands. The 30,000 people I was referring to were kidnapped, tortured and presumably killed (missing) during Argentina's Dirty War from 1976 to 1983. The military government at the time, used the conflict as a mere distraction for the awful state of affairs of the country (in all levels). At the time of the conflict, Argentina's military service was military conscription and 18 year old kids were sent to fight this war completely unprepared and untrained (in a lot of cases, they didn't even know how to hold a weapon) compared to the professionalism and experience of British soldiers. Hence, the numbers of 649 deaths for Argentina and 255 for the British. So for the typical Argentine, getting back the "Malvinas" isn't about oil or resources or even national pride, it's about rationalizing that if they get their islands back, the deaths of these young men wasn't after all in vain. Cristina Fernandez de Kirchner seems to be trying a similar approach as the military government at the time and is trying (very unsuccessfully) to win back support by touching a very sensitive issue for the population. Even though Argentina was able to receive the support of 32 countries from Latin America and the Caribbean, we all know that Britain won't allow any sort of "negotiation" or "communication" with regards to the sovereignty of the islands, (even when the UN requested such communication). Yes, there is oil there of course. What I am saying is that I don't think the issue of getting the islands backs is the oil. For the people, as I explained it's about the loss of their children and for the President is just a way to distract the population from a failing economy and corrupt government and deep inside, with high expectations of becoming the second "Evita".

I respectfully disagree. If you search Argentine history (1970's, early 80's just before democracy was restored and after many years of military governments and more than 30,000 people missing), you will know exactly why this conflict is so sensitive and important for Argentinians and it's definitely not related to any sort of resources.

Well, we all know that. I realized it a long time ago when I saw Dravin as Vort's mouthpiece and sort of translator. Yes, Vort has a language of his own.

I volunteer in a place where there is a lot of teenagers. This problem of "he/she won't tell me his/her password" is very common, specially with phones. It is just shocking to me to see parents thinking and acting like they don't have a choice.

I always say, Primary is not a babysitting service.* If there are children who seem to have problems adapting to the class or they're out of hand and very disruptive, call the parents. Let them sit with them and see if their behavior changes. *When I was called to Primary many moons ago, there was this little boy (around 2) who was still in diapers. As I was teaching the class, I realized he did "number 2" so this is how the convo went when I called his mom: Mom: Hey, everything is okay with Justin? Me: Oh yes :), I just came to let you know he needs a diaper change. Mom: Oh...wait...wait! *runs back inside the classroom, returns and gives me a diaper* Me: *looking at the diaper* Mom: *looking at the diaper* Me: *looking at the mom* Mom: *looking at me* ODD SILENCE.... Me: Ohhhhhh!!! Yes! Huggies make the best diapers! (*handing over diaper back to HER) Mom:

No reaction I think both couples could do an amazing job.

When you say "mutually agree" you mean father and mother or you mean parent and child? Because let me tell you something, when it's about internet use in my home, we (parents) decide everything. (how long it can be used, what sites are acceptable and what sites aren't, etc) and internet use is considered a privilege, not a right (if it's not school work related) constant regular checks, and computers are outside the bedrooms so everyone can see what is being searched. Really? His own computer? He paid for it? No kid of mine has the "upper hand" or will refuse to give me a password. I was very clear from the beginning. Do that to me and...

How horrible Applepansy!

Oh, I thought you was referring to the OP since the sex offender in question spent 18 months in prison for sexually abusing his granddaughter (after 20 years of abusing his own daughters). However, if you are referring to generally unfounded fears such as "That person looks like a pedophile" therefore let's not talk to him/her and avoid Church, I agree with your line of thinking about being paranoid. Having said that, sometimes we get the feeling that might tell us something isn't right and we should be more observant.

Really? I don't think so. If we believe the story shared in the OP, the sex offender in question is not a suspected pedophile, he IS a sex offender who will be attending Church tomorrow. I have a very hard time believing that someone would avoid Church because "maybe someone is an uncaught pedophile". There IS justified reason (IMO) for the fear and anxiety some people feel and that it was expressed in this thread. I agree with you though that avoiding Church it's not a good first measure (I would think that a person would first do everything in his/her power to try to resolve the issue) however, if this is not the case or the parent feel the measures taken aren't sufficient, I think it's their most important responsibility to ensure the safety of their children.