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Not in the relationship or able to properly view it, but I'm more concerned about the fact he was unwilling to get a job than his weight. 
 
So are you more bothered by laziness/apathy or his actual weight problem?

I'm more concerned with what happens after the food is harvested.  I have a friend who is a chemist who works in food processing.  They add so many ingredients to foods it is crazy!  They add chemicals to change the texture and taste to make people crave more of it.  If you use any processed foods you are eating some strange stuff,  I am convinced the best diet would be for me to have my friend tell me what the chemicals are and what they are used for in every food I eat.

Absolutely. We've been modifying foods for millenia, that's not the point. I want to know what I'm eating. I want to know about Monsanto's involvement in the food I eat - including its lawsuits against farmers.
 
When I teach information policy, I include a section on consumer food information. I admit, it gives me a place to rant (and inform students about) ag-gag laws as well as GMO issues. Being in a rural state, many of my students have either lived on farms or have family members who still run farms. They are not ignorant when it comes to food issues. You see a lot of info on this  on the veg*n sites, but you don't have to be veg*n to want to know what's in  your food or be against animal cruelty.  Last term, even though everyone in class was an omnivore, they were against ag-gag legislation and for GMO labeling. More and more people want to know what they're putting in their mouths and how it got on their plate.

OK, it's a bit of fluff, but Ingrid Bergman is so beautiful and Cary Grant is at his most Cary-ness, it's hard to resist. I'm talking about 'Indiscreet.' Aside from the furs, why don't women dress that way anymore? The gowns are breathtaking.

I have learned the hard way to just let my stylist take care of my roots. Instead of using the root cover ups made by the hair color companies you can get this:
 
http://www.sallybeauty.com/haircolor-touch-up/CLSTEV33,default,pd.html#q=root&sz=60&start=33
 
Just style your hair and only cover the roots where they are obvious. It will wash out in the next shampoo.  The other thing you can do is to get your hair highlighted.  I get regular color touched up every 6 weeks and highlights  every 18 weeks.  The highlights make the roots less noticeable.  Also, a haircut with more volume on top helps make the roots less noticeable.
 
We grey early in our family.  I've had to color my hair since I was 25.  So, I've had a lot of experience!

"Ancient Latin"?  You mean Latin? 
It used to be considered that you weren't educated unless you knew Latin or Greek. I had Latin 2 years in prep school, and attended Catholic Mass in Latin (using a Latin prayer book) for years before the change over to English. I'm not as good as I used to be, but I can struggle along.
 
Newsflash - library folks are the kind of people who know Latin & Greek & Klingon & Elvish - and wonder why everyone else doesn't know these things as well.

Is porn some big deal in Utah? For the life of me, I don't understand the Church's focus on pornography. I even spoke to my son, who 'talks' to people on a bunch of sites, including 'how to be a man' sites (who knew?) and asked if this topic comes up a lot. He doesn't see it as a hot topic when men are talking to each other. I'm in a field where people are quite vocal about their private perversions, and I don't see this as a problem people are dealing with.
 
What I do see, and what we've discussed in RS, is the almost soft porn status of some commercials. The stuff that comes into your house while you're minding your business watching TV is mind blowing. I don't know how parents with school-aged kids deal with it. The normalization of sexual activity amongst teens and unmarrieds in TV shows and commercials is way more concerning on a day to day level than pornography.
 
btw - I don't call looking at porn a few times out of curiousity a problem or addiction, tho I suspect some LDS would be shocked and freaked out if they found out their teen had done that.

I dig the debt free thing. I also dig a child having space to move around and parents being in their own place.
 
Since the interest rates are low and considering your living situation, if you can find an inexpensive house in good shape, I would go for it. BUT  I would not spend a lot on furniture, etc. I looked around for awhile before I found a townhouse that didn't need me to come in and change stuff (and I still changed stuff and had some repairs). People spend a lot of money once they get a house. If you can get a place that allows you to put money away for repairs and personal savings, then I would go ahead.
 
That said. I think you need to get out of your grandparents' place. What is wrong with renting a house? It might slow down your downpayment savings to pay rent, but you wouldn't be financially reponsible if something went wrong and you'd have the space your young family needs. If you don't have experience living in a house as an adult, renting may be a good idea anyway, so you can see what kind of problems and expenses arise, even if you don't have to pay them yourself.
 
I agree with others - you can leave your student loan debt and don't use all your savings for debt repayment; keep some in reserve.

If I turn the TV on, I generally keep it on FoxNews if I am at home working during the day. I'm also active on a conservative message board (that aggregates the news, so a lot of times I'll see 'breaking news' there first), and I listen to Limbaugh, who, is an interesting commentator when he's not talking about football or golf. I get a couple of news feeds on my FB page. I try to listen to Cavuto or some other business news source several times a week, but I don't need it everyday due to the amount of business news I get online. The past few days, I've had a Korean cable news station playing online as I work. I can't speak Korean, but I can watch the pictures and get an idea of what is going on, especially since the American media isn't covering this tragedy very much.
 
I rarely watch local news and never watch broadcast news.
 
I probably don't need to watch as much news, but I have to keep up because of my work, plus, I admit to being a news freak.

Definitely an interesting read.
 
I can see both sides of this. I think too much fuss can be made about dressing just so ( a pride issue ) and judging others for their inability to do the same, but I also surely agree that too little fuss can be made to dressing up ( a respect issue).
 
My personal view on the matter is that Jesus would not care so much what was worn, but that he would care that it reflected an upgrade from the norm for the individual. Styles change. That's a fact. What we wear to church now is nothing like what they wore in Christ's time which was likely different from what was worn in ancient Israel as well. What we wear does influence how we think and act to some extent, as such dressing up can serve to put us a more reverent frame of mind.
 
Of course sadly too many people I know only dress up nice to go to the club or staff party. 

"Ancient Latin"?  You mean Latin? 
It used to be considered that you weren't educated unless you knew Latin or Greek. I had Latin 2 years in prep school, and attended Catholic Mass in Latin (using a Latin prayer book) for years before the change over to English. I'm not as good as I used to be, but I can struggle along.
 
Newsflash - library folks are the kind of people who know Latin & Greek & Klingon & Elvish - and wonder why everyone else doesn't know these things as well.

This is the wave of the future for librarianship. Digital librarians not only know how to digitize artifacts (that's the low level stuff that students or hourly workers do), but they know how to make the metadata and tag the items so you can find them. They classify it so it makes sense, they create useful web pages so the navigation is easy. They take computing and databases and they want to share everything with everybody.
 
That's where I come in and tell them that won't happen. There's not enough money. So put on your big girl panties and figure out how to get some grant money and work a budget and make the hard decisions about what goes online and what stays in the box.    I love my job.

It is with great surprise that I find myself saying a lot of things that Archie Bunker would have said. I was a lib back then and thought he was racist (he might have been), not hip, and certainly not right thinking (liberal).
 
I belonged to the Socialist Workers Party for a while in college. One thing it taught me was that white people complain a lot. They have all the privilege in this society, but they still whine if life's not perfect for them. I realized that my step-father had come from nothing (and no big student loans back then) to be a lawyer, my other relatives had dealt with segregation and restricted access to education to become teachers and leaders in education. I just couldn't sit back and moan when I saw other people had taken life by the reins and improved themselves. I left the Socialists and voted Democrat, mostly because I'd heard all Republicans were racists.
 
Years pass and I grow up. I get a law degree. I see how the world really works. I start noticing that I'm working like a dog and some welfare princess is walking up and down Market St shopping on my dime. What's wrong with this picture? I became a small 'l' libertarian, but I'd vote big 'L' sometimes. When Clinton was elected, I didn't vote for him, but was excited to see what someone from my generation was going to do in office (answer: not much).
 
I wind up working in a building with limited radio reception. The only station I could get was the talk station, which was OK, but then Rush Limbaugh came into the market. I had heard terrible things about him, but I was a talk show junkie and started listening to him. Like a lot of his listeners, I realized that I was thinking the same way. It wasn't 'I agree with Rush,' but, 'someone is finally saying what I think.'  When I had my own law firm and had to pay taxes, etc. I really changed politcally.  I voted for George W and prayed for his election. This is the only politician I have ever prayed for. I joined a conservative website where I am still active and have thousands of posts.
 
I'm very conservative, more so than many of the candidates put up by the Republican Party. But I'm also a child of the 60's/70's and some things just don't bother me. I don't care about marijuana. I don't care too much about gay marriage (I do care about what school kids are taught about sexuality, tho). I don't care about casinos or online gambling. I will watch what movies I want to watch and listen to the music I want to hear. I am a lapsed feminist and do care about the role of women, but am OK with not having women in the priesthood. 
 
I could never be a lib again. Kennedy's type of liberalism and Democratic Party are long gone. What we have are socialists at best and racists and communists at worse (if you don't think liberalism fosters racism, take a good look at the types of legislation libs are for and against. Few political movements have destroyed a people the way liberal Democratic politics have destroyed the black family.)   I fear the loss of our American culture and the middle class.
 
It's been a "long strange trip," for sure. I don't think my 25 yr old self would recognize me now.

This is the wave of the future for librarianship. Digital librarians not only know how to digitize artifacts (that's the low level stuff that students or hourly workers do), but they know how to make the metadata and tag the items so you can find them. They classify it so it makes sense, they create useful web pages so the navigation is easy. They take computing and databases and they want to share everything with everybody.
 
That's where I come in and tell them that won't happen. There's not enough money. So put on your big girl panties and figure out how to get some grant money and work a budget and make the hard decisions about what goes online and what stays in the box.    I love my job.

putting a flowers in a bouquet or vases in the pulpet in the sacrament hall is not just a design or  better arrangement of a sacrament meeting.. it is an evidence of  faithfullness of the members . .. ,especially when we put white roses on the vases which represents  holiness ,purity and new beginning.. it is important that we put fresh flowers in our chapels  every sacrament meeting to lift up the faith of each of us especially the new converts.. no matter what, i am bringing fresh flowers on the chapel every saturday on to the chapel in preparation for sunday sacrament meeting.. as a result, it makes me happy.. :)  

I was a huge Big Love fan. I don't think it presented the Church in an unfavorable light. What it did was show FLDS and polygamous offshoots in an unfavorable light - that is why Bill Paxton's character was trying to start his own chuch - a polygamous church that didn't marry girls off to old guys or throw out teen boys.
 
I didnt know much about Mormons at the time, but I knew enough to know I wasn't watching a show about Mormons.

I was a huge Big Love fan. I don't think it presented the Church in an unfavorable light. What it did was show FLDS and polygamous offshoots in an unfavorable light - that is why Bill Paxton's character was trying to start his own chuch - a polygamous church that didn't marry girls off to old guys or throw out teen boys.
 
I didnt know much about Mormons at the time, but I knew enough to know I wasn't watching a show about Mormons.

I was a huge Big Love fan. I don't think it presented the Church in an unfavorable light. What it did was show FLDS and polygamous offshoots in an unfavorable light - that is why Bill Paxton's character was trying to start his own chuch - a polygamous church that didn't marry girls off to old guys or throw out teen boys.
 
I didnt know much about Mormons at the time, but I knew enough to know I wasn't watching a show about Mormons.

Hee Hee. I haven't said anything out loud, but I've had a few uncharitable thoughts. I find I have to play heavy rock and roll on the way to the chapel to get the 'devil' out of me before service. I don't think I will ever be a sweet spirit. 
 
The hardest thing for me has been tea. I was never much of a coffee  or liquor drinker, and didn't smoke, so giving those up wasn't a problem. Tea was a constant companion for me since childhoo. I don't care for most of the herbal teas; they don't give me the same comfort and pleasure that black tea does. I made a comment in Sunday School about the Snapple aisle calling my name. Born Mormons who've never had tea or liquor or smoked don't know what a sacarifice, what a change iin daily life, converting can be.

I was a huge Big Love fan. I don't think it presented the Church in an unfavorable light. What it did was show FLDS and polygamous offshoots in an unfavorable light - that is why Bill Paxton's character was trying to start his own chuch - a polygamous church that didn't marry girls off to old guys or throw out teen boys.
 
I didnt know much about Mormons at the time, but I knew enough to know I wasn't watching a show about Mormons.

Read the thread and that was certainly engaging discussion. Gave me a lot to consider and think about, but at the end of the day, I concur with Wingnut and Dravin in that context is of the utmost importance. You can have all the truth in the world but without the right approach to fit the audience, you're likely to do the opposite of what your intentions are.

I just took our elders to dinner at a restaurant and then over to Walmart for some groceries. Our calendar is for every night of the month unless they have some zone dinner or something.
 
With so many men in the ward working shifts at the hospital, when I used to set up the dinners, often they wouldn't be until 6 or 6:30. People have got to get home. Sometimes things run late - the idea of eating only from 5-6 is not workable for most people and doesn't take into account lateness. I can't tell you how many times the missionaries were late for dinner.  Shoot, they were late to the restaurant (and not even the same missionaries). What a false constraint!
 
One of the elders had come from a branch where the members were not encouraged to feed them. I just think that's terribly sad; especially in these small branches where there really isn't much for the elders to do (maybe service). Why not feed them? Will it hurt them to be in a nice home with a cooked meal and maybe talk about something other than the Scriptures? I let the guys talk about what they want. Sometimes I get a lesson, sometimes I don't. Don't care; that wasn't the point of feeding some mother's son who is thousands of miles from home and needs to be treated like a person and not just a missionairy machine.

I just took our elders to dinner at a restaurant and then over to Walmart for some groceries. Our calendar is for every night of the month unless they have some zone dinner or something.
 
With so many men in the ward working shifts at the hospital, when I used to set up the dinners, often they wouldn't be until 6 or 6:30. People have got to get home. Sometimes things run late - the idea of eating only from 5-6 is not workable for most people and doesn't take into account lateness. I can't tell you how many times the missionaries were late for dinner.  Shoot, they were late to the restaurant (and not even the same missionaries). What a false constraint!
 
One of the elders had come from a branch where the members were not encouraged to feed them. I just think that's terribly sad; especially in these small branches where there really isn't much for the elders to do (maybe service). Why not feed them? Will it hurt them to be in a nice home with a cooked meal and maybe talk about something other than the Scriptures? I let the guys talk about what they want. Sometimes I get a lesson, sometimes I don't. Don't care; that wasn't the point of feeding some mother's son who is thousands of miles from home and needs to be treated like a person and not just a missionairy machine.

I just took our elders to dinner at a restaurant and then over to Walmart for some groceries. Our calendar is for every night of the month unless they have some zone dinner or something.
 
With so many men in the ward working shifts at the hospital, when I used to set up the dinners, often they wouldn't be until 6 or 6:30. People have got to get home. Sometimes things run late - the idea of eating only from 5-6 is not workable for most people and doesn't take into account lateness. I can't tell you how many times the missionaries were late for dinner.  Shoot, they were late to the restaurant (and not even the same missionaries). What a false constraint!
 
One of the elders had come from a branch where the members were not encouraged to feed them. I just think that's terribly sad; especially in these small branches where there really isn't much for the elders to do (maybe service). Why not feed them? Will it hurt them to be in a nice home with a cooked meal and maybe talk about something other than the Scriptures? I let the guys talk about what they want. Sometimes I get a lesson, sometimes I don't. Don't care; that wasn't the point of feeding some mother's son who is thousands of miles from home and needs to be treated like a person and not just a missionairy machine.

I just took our elders to dinner at a restaurant and then over to Walmart for some groceries. Our calendar is for every night of the month unless they have some zone dinner or something.
 
With so many men in the ward working shifts at the hospital, when I used to set up the dinners, often they wouldn't be until 6 or 6:30. People have got to get home. Sometimes things run late - the idea of eating only from 5-6 is not workable for most people and doesn't take into account lateness. I can't tell you how many times the missionaries were late for dinner.  Shoot, they were late to the restaurant (and not even the same missionaries). What a false constraint!
 
One of the elders had come from a branch where the members were not encouraged to feed them. I just think that's terribly sad; especially in these small branches where there really isn't much for the elders to do (maybe service). Why not feed them? Will it hurt them to be in a nice home with a cooked meal and maybe talk about something other than the Scriptures? I let the guys talk about what they want. Sometimes I get a lesson, sometimes I don't. Don't care; that wasn't the point of feeding some mother's son who is thousands of miles from home and needs to be treated like a person and not just a missionairy machine.