Jane_Doe

You tell your family "No." I recommend some research into healthy personal boundaries, and start implementing them. What you are describing here is NOT healthy at all.

The number of cases where illness are caused by sin are a tiny tiny minority. Christ when He heals someone is doing TWO things: healing the physical AND spiritual ills.

Sure, especially when something new comes around. Asking question is a GREAT thing. You then investigate and pray about it, and listen to God's answer.

@Manners Matter answer this nicely already. Another important aspect to add: when a person is baptized, they promise God to keep the Word of Wisdom, which among other things includes abstaining from coffee. Keeping promises with God is a BIG deal-- and realistically it's super easy to just not drink coffee, super super easy. If you instead go and break that promise with God, that does damage your personal relationship with God. Repeatedly and unrepentantly even more so. So even if the Mormon Police* don't come and arrest you, you are still harming yourself and your relationship with God. *(Nonexistant) Mormon Police. Haha. Don't worry, they're not strange to us. In fact I think all the questions you've asked so far are in the FAQ section

D&C is the scriptural word of God. It's rightfully taken pretty dang seriously. D&C 132's primary message is NOT about polygamy. Rather it is about the New and Everlasting Covenant: families being bonded together and their eternal destiny. God's words never change and aren't discarded, but our understanding of things does evolve as we learn and grow more. So I think the better way to ask this question would be "how is a person supposed to tell how something is interrupted and fits into the bigger picture?" The simplest way is to just ask. For example if you asked about "how do I interpret this passage about hot drinks?", a person can answer, and if you're interest provide you with the prophetic guidance on that section. Probably. The scriptures are not just a "rules of church members" handbook, and that's really not how they should be approached.

Remember: *things* are not what makes a baby/child happy or what they deeply need.

This story is essentially a teacher not knowing a religious tradition and just trying to enforce school rules. It's sad that she didn't know, and I feel bad for the kid. This something that everyone involved needs a hug and open heart. A social media swarm is the opposite of that.

She's extremely clueless. And you both need to MAKE time to be a parent.

I'm glad things are working out for you @dahlia! My husband is diabetic, so things didn't remotely go over my head- this is talk is pretty routine for us actually. Additionally, I get really sick and start puking if I miss two or three meals, so I relate to you there. My philosophy: the purpose of fasting is for humility and putting the Lord first. It's not to make yourself literally sick. So do what works best for you. I'm really glad you've found a good method of control and are rocking it out. Keep in tune with the Spirit and your body, sister!

She should already be having regular appointments with her OBYGN, and this is something to bring up with them. It will also likely get more dramatics as the hormones progress, and then MUCH more dramatic after the birth.

That's excess worrying the definition of an anxiety disorder.

The books NT recommended are mainstream and of good quality. I own them and have read them myself. I would go with them, and yes you should read them even if they are dull- it's important. Articles online can be... frequently of poor quality.

Again: your girlfriend is completely misinformed, and likely suffering from an anxiety disorder. She should 1) talk to her doctor about that for treatment and 2) you both should read some parenting books.

Your mom is wise. Babies do NOT actually need that much. Despite what American consumer fed culture will tell you.

A stoller is $5-20 bucks at a second hand store. Even a super fancy new one should only cost you $100. I would agree with PP's that it's a possibility your girl friend has an anxiety issue, lack of education on parenting, and there's a lack of parental figures in both of your lives. These should all be addressed for your collective sanity.

Absolutely- whenever possible. I would guess that ~80% of my daughter's things are second hand. It's more economical and more environmentally friendly. No it does not increase the chances of getting sick. Everything my daughter uses then goes goes to another kid. Your girlfriend is completely misinformed. There's no need to worry about viruses/bacteria because you WASH things before you give them away or use them. The few things to be cautious of are are things expiration dates attached to them, such as food and car seats. You just want to make sure those things aren't expired.

Howdy! I'm another LDS person married to a non-LDS person It is good to have a community to chat about Christ with!

The Father, Son, and Spirit are three different persons. They are ONE God through unity. Because of this, God can be referred to in singular or plural. "Elohim" is actually a plural word. Both scriptural accounts of the creation (Genesis and Abraham) speak of God (in plural) creating the Earth. The Father designed and direct, the Son did the actual sculpting.

You come off as an extremely reasonable, respectful, disciple of Christ who's interested in Truth, love, and service. You speak with a small still voice. I know some individuals who try to share Christ by being the most condensing jerks screaming Hellfire to whoever's in the room. That goes no where, and I think your methodology reaches FAR better.

I'm not a Stephan King reader, so I'm admittedly not sure what that reference is to. Honestly I did not enjoy my time in Rexburg. Partially it was due to a mismatch of personality, and part of it was me just not handling some things well. I'm from a place where there's a lot of diversity and people tend to be very honest (which includes if they don't like you, they curse you out). Rexburg is very homogenous on the surface (of course not if you go deep, which I didn't bother with- my fault). People are VERY nice. They always smile at you, even when it's obvious that there's something upsetting them, and that really got under my skin. I'm a recluse by nature, so I would try to eat lunch by myself to have 30 minutes of quiet in my otherwise 12 hours straight of classes. And >90% of the time somebody would try to come sit with me and talk and be nice-- they wouldn't just leave me alone! (Horrible right?). In 20-20 hindsight, a polite comment explaining that this was my quiet time would have been the better way of handling things, instead of just inwardly raging. Hey, I was 19 and stupid. I was also horribly homesick and handling that in all the wrong ways. But the reason I stayed as long as I did was the quality of education. The professors truly care about their students, the education quality, focusing on wellness, and things like that. Having now working with a dozen+ universities in some capacity, I have to say that BYUI did/does top notch on focusing on quality education and caring for those that want it.

Ok, so for Rexburg you have two populations living there: 1) The college students. 2) Everyone else, which mostly consists of potato farmers. Talking about population #1 BYU-I is very strict on things. It is a Church ran school, so there is a lot cross over between church/faith into culture and rest of life. For example, it's not uncommon to start any class with a prayer. Various religion classes are required. Additionally, because it is a Church ran school and vast majority of the operating cost actually come out of the Church budget, not student tuition (which the Church strives to keep very low). There are certain behavioral requirements each person is required to abide by to attend the school. Some of these are pretty logical (like no having opposite sex people sleeping at your place overnight). Others are... cultural quicks that don't always make a lot of sense, especially at BYUI. Like there's this long saga about whether or not flip-flops are acceptable attire. And there's just the normal college town quirkiness with you have an abundance of young adults hanging around. Population #2: native Idahoans are good hard working people. It's a small town, insular community, very devoted to faith. With your usual small town quirks.

About Rexburg / BYUI? Ask away, I lived there for 2 years.

You asked this and then give EXACT answer I was going to give!

Or to knock out a small tiger.

Good to see you again @StrawberryFields! Sending prayers and thoughts your way.