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  1. I don’t do the commitment pattern unless it is at work with a troublesome person I’m managing (where I am essentially ordering you to do it because I’m the boss and you give me a lot of guff). Other than that it feels manipulative.
  2. Howdy! Sorry I’m a bit late to the party, it’s been a crazy weekend. @zil2 already provided you the formal missionary link. I’m not a formal missionary, but would be thrilled to answer any questions here or via DM/email. Whatever you’d like!
  3. Before the Musk shenanigans, I had several friends that worked at Twitter. Since then many have left and the ones that remain are absolutely hating the chaos.
  4. Couple of thoughts: - A child choosing to use thier agency to choose otherwise doesn’t mean the parent failed. Remember, even a third of Heavenly Father’s children choose to leave. That is thier choice. - The best thing you can do is pray and keep the communication bridges open. Ideally a person should be able to discuss things early, before it becomes a fully fledged soup box.
  5. Honestly, I don't think if that's true that it would really matter. Like dividing 10^(9999999999999999999999999999999999999999) by 1.02 instead of 1.01. It's effectively the same result.
  6. From what I saw (I could be wrong) the school and even the Oregon governor came out with clear condemnation for the fans behavior- flat out calling it “religious bigotry” (which it is). While of course that doesn’t excuse the fans that did the actions, it is nice to actually hear the leaders take a stand condemning it.
  7. I’m an LDS Christian lady married to a he generic Christian dude. we are extremely happy. But you got to have a shared value set. Have a serious and open discussion with this lady. If she’s totally against raising Christian kids and it’s something you are passionate to do: that’s a foundational clash and the relationship needs called off. If her reaction is “it’s not for me but I respect that you love it and I’m cool with you teaching that to the kids”, then have an in depth and frank conversation about things. When you’ve been together for two years any question should be game.
  8. Haha. Ironically, when the Covid shut downs were in full swing, guess which state had zero decrease in driving? Wyoming. Honestly here’s my total driving for a full week: a trip to the grocery store (5 miles round trip), a trip to church (2 miles round trip), and maybe 2 other trips around town. We walk to school, friends, library, and before working fully remote I’d bike to work 6 months of the year. And then about every 6 weeks we got to go to Colorado for Costco or something (3 hour round trip).
  9. Why I love my small town (30k population): - Because I can walk/bike to everywhere I need. For all other shopping, there's Amazon. - I see familiar faces are the park, getting to know each other and that sense of community. And with 30k, it's enough to be familiar but not claustrophobic. - I can leave whenever I want. Hiking in the mountains is a 7 minute drive. Easy star-gazing with my daughter. There is freedom to spread my wings as far as I want. - "Traffic" is when I accidentally drive by the High School when the students get out. It's a really annoying 4 minute wait. - Just down to earth. No clutter. Why it's not for everyone: - (Big one) Work. There are a very limited number of business in town. I enjoy remote work, but it's not for everyone, and that's really limiting. - There are limited opportunities for in-person specialized groups. For example, for competitive sports it's slim pickings for teams here, and for games there's a lot of driving. - In a small town you got to entertain yourself. We don't have Boardwalk musicals-- but the high school puts on two performances a year. We do things like have huge bubble parties in the parking lot. The local parade and fair is the time the kids show off their pigs. - We don't have all of those "big city" amenities and shopping. If it can't be found at the grocery store, you either Amazon or drive to Colorado.
  10. Here in Wyoming we define "town" as a place having at least 1 of the following: - A gas station - A stop light - Is located on some road junction such that you say "turn right when you reach Johnsonville" It is a very different mindset then other places. For an example from 4 o'clock today: I work remotely and the company I'm working for is hosting a big "let's get together" event, with offices all across North America and Europe. An organizer from CT reached out to me, inviting me to go to the nearest office with promises of how fun this will be, food, swag, and socialization. She was shocked I replied that it was over a 3 hour drive. So she asked "would you manager approve of you flying down?". The airport is also 3 hours away. She meant well, and I thanked her for that, but it's just a different world than she's used to. In contrast: last week a co-worker of mine needed to have it verified in-person that he has a real passport. I was the nearest employee, so we met in the middle of the 3 hour drive. And he was thrilled I saved him from having to drive 7 hours both there and back. We met at a nice little town: they have a gas station (it's the only gas station 1-2 hours in any direction). For a third example: when I first moved to WY, literally that week I discovered that I was expecting and needed a new wardrobe. I live in a big city for WY standards-- we have 3 grocery stores and 2 thrift stores. No maternity clothes and I would have to drive to Colorado to get clothes. I was complaining about this and how I missed "civilization". My new co-worker asked where I was from: Denver. She replied "Oh, I like Denver, it's a cute little town". "Huh? Cute little town- there's 3 million people there! Where are you from?" "Beijing". Oh.... everything is relative. And I have since learned that small towns are way better than cities (more on that next post).
  11. I’m really not a fan ideas that put of the “mark of the beast” being a literal thing or being sensational. Rather, the marks that matter (good and bad) are on our hearts. “Woke” stuff can be silly, harmful, and a small part of it is actually good. As to the specific examples of posting pronouns (name tags, emails, etc)…. It’s kind of a “whatever, you do you” in my mind. I’m more concerned about underlying trends (like negating the idea foundational of gender). Name tags are just a symptom of a sick world.
  12. Honestly a lot of these answers are “it depends”. A major factor being the age and how close the kids/family are. I know that my kids will encounter other people who’s behavior I’m not ok with, so teaching them why this isn’t ok and how to deal with things is also important. As yo your situation: elementary age you can still veto friends. However, relatives are more complicated- you can more place “we will see you less” boundaries. But it also possibly gives you room to talk to the parents since you actually know them. Things that are just a no dealbreaker: hitting, anything sexual, breaking things. Things that maybe we can maybe work through and have “my house rules”: noise volume, taking turns, etc.
  13. The three weeks are a buffet of options to pick from. Anyone whom had a special moment related to any topic is free to talk about it, and the teacher brings a list to talk about to fill any gaps in discussion. But we don’t try to cover every point.
  14. We’re fine on our home, but thank you for the concern.
  15. My family is directly affected by this shortage- baby boy is still a baby and I’m physically unable to breastfeed. We had several cans of formula in the recall. Since then we’ve been able to get formula, but the prices are super high and it takes work - buying one of the few little cans on the shelf, rather than in bulk like I prefer. In fact I need to go shopping this morning best we’re nearly out (again). Im a person who’d rather keep focused on helping people and working through things, rather than making things political (whomever is to blame).
  16. Back in the day, my sisters & I loved it so much we decided to memorize it and perform it for our parents. We each had parts, costumes, sets, etc. I was the Brothers (yes all 11) during this part. We put puppets on my hands to show the "many" people I was playing and then all the Brothers "punched" Joesph & threw him in the pit (played by the baby of the family whom did get all of that attention). Even today I still have the songs memorized and still sing them to my baby boy when he's having a rough night and I need songs I can sing for an hour straight.
  17. Hugs for @Vort and his wife
  18. I totally get that. though I would like ooh t out that the Orthodox churches do also claim that church authority matters through their lines.
  19. We actually read Moroni 10:3-5 together tonight. After explaining to her what it meant, she said “but I already know the scripture are true.” “But you need to know because you asked God yourself, not just because Mommy and Daddy told you.” “Ok, Heavenly Father are the scriptures true? He said yes. What do we do next?” …. Not sure here… Alma 32 and highliighting the word “faith” was her assignment to do over night and we’re talk about it tomorrow afternoon.
  20. The impacts to me & my family have been relatively minor. The most annoying are supply chain issues and the recreation center has very limited hours due to staffing shortages.
  21. This doesn't really seem to be specifically about Catholicism, more just about general Creedal theological philosophy (that is am much bigger umbrella than Catholicism specifically). I'm going to start with this broad picture, and then move into more specifics. The idea of the "immovable mover" pre-dates Catholicism, the Creed's and even Christ's mortal ministry. The founding philosophers on this question were the Ancient Greeks (Plato, Socrates, etc). These philosophers rebelled against the very Pagan materialist pantheons around them (let's face it: Zeus is essentially a super-powered bratty teenager), and instead looked for larger meaning in non-material things. Eventually they came to largely see anything with physical components as being lesser, and more interested in the essential essence of something. History moved forward: after the pagan Greeks came the Pagan Romans and then the Christian romans and then the Early Church Fathers*, most notably Saint Augustine*. (*I'm using caps / their traditional titles out of respect to those faiths, even they are not ours). The earlier philosophical traditions influenced the later ones, some for good and lots for ill (this is part of the Great Apostasy). This idea that "physicality = lesser" heavily permeated Creedal understanding of God. The humanity of Christ was greatly downplayed. The humanity of the Father nigh erased. Focus become of the "essence" of God, reflecting back on that Ancient Greek mentality. In this tradition, God could not be God unless this primordial God-essence predated everything else. He had to be the one to be alone in the beginning. To have good and evil be simply what He declared them to be. Honestly I find, the deeper you look into it, the more nebulous it is and "because God said so and He's the prime mover". God must be alone in the beginning else's He's not God. <<In contrast>> The restored Gospel of Jesus Christ does not teach this. We acknowledge a eternity that is MUCH more massive. For example, in addition to the Father & Christ always existing, we acknowledge that each of us always existed. That doesn't remotely make the Father any "lesser" -- He's still our Father after all! We acknowledge that we each can become joint-heirs with Christ, becoming one with Him & the Father. That likewise doesn't threaten the Father's or Christ's divinity, rather I think it is more marvelous over the "prime mover" view. We can become like God and perpetrate things forward, though we know very little details of what this actually looks like (use humans fail to grasp the tiniest iota of eternity). As to what is right versus wrong: for LDS Christians, what is right is inherently right, and what is wrong is inherently wrong. There's no reality where going around murdering random folks is not wrong-- it's just inherently wrong and inherently bring misery. God says "thou shalt not kill" because He doesn't want us to go down that miserable road. He tells us to do other things (like being honest) because those inherently bring joy in the big picture. These things just are. Our Father in Heaven so deeply embodies the road to happiness / joy / glory / mercy / justice that they are at the core of who He is as a person. Everything He/Christ/HS tells you to do is for your Good. It embodies that Goodness. God's mission is to bring about the glory & eternal life of man. Not to be the "prime mover" the Ancient Greeks saught.
  22. For context: I am trying to improve teaching my elementary aged daughter about the Gospel & strengthening her testimony. She's also extremely "to do list" oriented: she thrives/required having clear stated expectations, a stated goal, outlined schedule of the day, and stated check marks to get there. Which is VERY different than how I'm wired! And I don't want her getting baptized just because it's an expected box to check -- granted, she'll be ecstatic to check the box. The Gospel isn't just going through outward doings (obviously), though also don't want to discount my daughter's testimony because she wired differently than I and does enjoy the outward. So, my question for to-do-list oriented people: what's your experience with learning the Gospel? Do you have any insight here? Pinging @Backroads because her teaching experience could be really useful here?
  23. I was teaching my daughter the story of Jesus’ betrayal this last week. We were acting it out with a bunch of toys and her playing the part of Jesus. The Pharases toys came up to Judas and said “we want to hurt and kill Jesus! If you show us who he is, we’ll give you 20 cents.” Daughter’s hand shot in enthusiasticly in the air. “I want 20 cents, I’m Jesus! Mommy can I have 20 cents?”