omegaseamaster75

Welcome to my world as a Bay Area resident I am subjected to this mindlessness on a daily basis. I'd bet $100.00 that this lady lives in SF in a nice Victorian, has a designer dog, sends her kids to private school, is a vegan, has season tickets for the Opera and ballet, cheats like crazy on her taxes and hates Trump for no other reason than that he is Trump.

I disagree, you need to have qualifiers make a decision based on what you want in a spouse make sure your potential mate meets those or most of them and then take it to the Lord.

I can see that this is a subject that strike close to home. When we are deciding about who we are going to marry we need to weigh out the pros and cons. For many this might be on con side of the ledger. if it is on the con side the individual needs to ask them selves if they can live with this or not. For many this is a non starter. Just like marrying a girl with brown hair would be a non starter. I recommended that the OP not marry this individual based on the wording she used (addiction). I also asked the OP to qualify how she defines addiction to porn. Also the Boy Friends definition of addiction. I have not seen a response to either question. Those responses may change my opinion.

I agree, I would not ask that question of my wife unless I was sure of the answer, and maybe even then I might not ask, I wouldn't want to be blindsided.

Yes of course it can, some things can be deal breakers. This maybe a deal break for the OP we don't know. Yeah, we all have our check lists of people we will and will not marry. This should be on the list. Not true at all, for some this may not be a deal breaker and he should be honest. I commend him for it. I agree I also believe he is redeemable, in fact I/we have no idea where he is in his recovery or repentance process I only wish the best for those who have these struggles. So the question is, would your wife have married you knowing what she knows now?

Do they have iphones? social media accounts? TV access etc. take her phone away I bet compliance is just around the corner.

I didn't say that, not at all of course someone can overcome their weakness and become worthy. the OP is asking about marriage and by your own self admission your wife has suffered due to your own weakness. The OP now has the opportunity to decide if this is something she wants to deal with in her life. The obvious answer is no if she knows before hand this needs to factor into her decision about whether to marry this individual or not.

Don't do it, don't marry him. No amount of time will be enough for you to declare him clean. You have used the word addiction so I am assuming worst case here. If he is an addict you cannot/should not marry him. How do you define addiction to pornography? How does he define addiction to pornography?

My advice which i stated just moments ago is to wait. You have Minor children get them raised and then get married. Maybe your son will come around by then maybe not. At any rate he can't make the argument that it is negatively affecting his siblings.Be patient and think about the long term consequences of alienating your children. Once they are adults do what you want but if you ever want to see and visit grand kids or be invited to family events pump the brakes.

Bad advice, minor children are involved. OP don't be selfish raise your kids and then get married. Wasn't losing their mother hard enough on them? Take a step back and think about whats best for them. The youngest will be out of the house before you know it and you still have plenty of time to get married.

@rustyoz I'm on your side, but you have bigger fish to fry. Namely the free loading adult sharing your home with you. Decide where you want to plant your flag pole. Which castle do you want to defend? the $5/week. which adds up by the way for those who poo-poo it. That's $260/year that the OP doesn't get to see. Or the Freeloader who you should kick out. You net savings will be much bigger with the freeloader gone.

Every Bishop works differently, the executive secretary serves at his discretion. I served as Ex Secretary to our former Bishop and I kept his calendar, made the agenda for Bishopric Meeting and Ward council, Kept him on schedule with his appointments. (our ex Bishop would run over on everything if I didn't knock on his door). I also filtered out who would see the bishop and who wouldn't (to an extent) but basically if your wanted a meeting with the bishop you had to contact me, get on his calendar or he wouldn't see you. You would be shocked at how many people want to see the guy for the most mundane things, his time is precious and limited.

It all depends on how you interpret it. What did your grandmother think when she received the blessing? Did she think that she would witness in life the second coming? Maybe the patriarch was wrong. We don't know. Of course now that she has passed clearly she will arise and welcome Jesus upon his triumphant return just like the blessing said.

I was there, he didn't quantify his statement, it was part of his testimony. He said it and moved on to other aspects of his testimony. I agree that all worthy individuals will "Be around" but the way he said it, it was as if he would be alive in this life to see it. I guess you had to be there.

No one said this was a top secret meeting, and I think we need to be able to discuss openly what our leaders say. I think this 70 stepped in it. That's my opinion. I don't think it was purposeful, nor with the intent that people think that the 2nd coming is eminent, but members have a tendency to take things very literally.

I was at a leadership training this past weekend and present there was an apostle and 3 GA's, the temple president and the mission president for our area. There were about 110-120 in attendance so a somewhat small group. They did a little Q&A which was fine and wrapped everything up with testimonies. One of the GA's got up and as part of his testimony said that he would be around for the second coming of Christ. This GA is 56 years old and I am younger than him. I do not suppose that this was a conscious statement, but he did say it. I think it was a not well thought out statement. My experience has shown me that many take the words of our leaders and run with them as if it was the voice of God speaking to them. I take this as one mans opinion and if he has received confirmation about the his role in the 2nd coming it should not be for public consumption. Our leaders need to be careful about the things they say and how they say them. Just an observation.

Ran into this guy today he seems very concerned

In socialist or communist countries not good. I am speculating that that take you to an internment camp and if you get better you get better and if you don't they just let you die.

Pray to a certain extent by its nature is repetitive. Think about why you pray. God knows all of our wants and desires, he knows whats in our hearts. He knows that we want our food to be blessed, that we want grandma to get better, that we want good things for our children. Why then do we ask for the same things over and over? Vain repetition has been discussed and I think we can all agree that this is something to avoid. So OP why do you pray at all?

Yes we do.

they wont fit

There has been a lot of hype leading up to the conference that we are going to have in April. President Nelson asking the saints asking us to prepare ourselves and review our personal history with the BoM saying it will be a hinge point in the history of the church, to him pumping it up in the last conference. "next April will be different from any previous conference." "general conference next April will be not only memorable; it will be unforgettable." What exactly can we expect to see? WHy the hype? we should be tuning in anyways right?

While duct tape is not a bad idea it may do irreparable harm to he Psyche of the kid. If you have kids that are that out of control you need to start kicking them out. It is not fair to the other kids who want to learn and participate. You need to have a frank (difficult) discussion with the parents about the behavior of their kid. You will probably get push back on this because some parents like to stick their heads in the sand. Bottom line if they won't behave in a normal manner they are not welcome.

The new plan seems to be that there is no plan.

Does it really matter who started it? You can't go from a scuffle to a full blown assault and not expect severe consequences. While I think that Garrett has recognized that he did something wrong I don't think he believes that his actions were criminal. I do think that they were. If I were Rudolph I would file criminal charges.