omegaseamaster75

Stacey Harkey comes out Really? no one can be suprised by this can they? Somehow this is news?

Never heard of him

If this is your first girlfriend and you claim to be >20 I would advise you to move on. You don't need this kind nonsense and it sounds like she is not ready to settle down either.

The first one? How old are you? Play the field a little, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

That's different and you know it. Stop it.

I can see how you got that, but my intention was to point out that we are not the enforcers of the law, just like how we don't chase down every speeder or hassle every litter bug.

Since we are on the topic of hiring illegals, what do we do? They perform services at a price which legal residents are not willing to do. If we want to go after someone we need to go after the employers. Mandate that they put these people on payroll, pay a fair wage, pay the taxes associated. (the laws already exist) From the employers side I totally get it they are motivated by greed. The workers are grateful for a few american dollars. The consumers like paying $1.00 for a head of lettuce. Everyone is happy. If the law is enforced than you the consumer will feel the pain.

Sure, when I hire a contractor say to pave my driveway I don't grill him about his hired help. My assumption is that they are legal. When I hire a courier I assume that all traffic laws are being obeyed When I hire someone to haul away my junk I don't grill him and ask where it is going to be dumped I assume a safe and legal space. Now if I KNOW prior to my engagement then yes I have a moral quandary, and I will not hire. If I find out subsequently I may not use their services in the future or recommend them.

What is the overall purpose of your hypothetical? Maybe the question should be: Is it morally correct to hire someone who uses illegal labor?

No I would not report them. I am not immigration enforcement. You don't follow every speeder you see and report them to the police do you? do you chase after a litter bug and enforce the no littering codes that many cities have? Only if I wanted the contractor to quit. I better have a backup plan. No kidding? the price is lower because of illegal labor? I'm shocked!!!!!

Yes So what? However this should be something that should come up if you are serious about marriage, there should be no secrets regarding medical history.

Have YOU done therapy? Start with yourself individual therapy, you can't change her but you can change yourself.

If you are looking for this you are going to be looking all your life. I am not saying that "romantic" does not exist but I would give it another name, ie. lust, infatuation, etc.

So you prayed got your answer. Was God wrong? This does not help things AT ALL knock it off. Divorce or not you need to get this straightened out...again knock it off Welcome to the club, we all like to look at a pretty girl. I guess it all depends on how you define attraction. I suspect the way you are viewing it it is inappropriate. There are deeper issues at play, deeper than what us inter-web commandos can help you with. You need to see a real counsler and then attend counseling with your wife. If you want to salvage your relationship with your wife and have your child in your life you need to make an investment. That means breaking open the wallet and getting real help.

Member for 20 years Barely understand the principles of the church and the gospel? Your two statements are conflicting. Were you inactive for an extended period of time? Did you or do you live in a country where you had no access to scriptures, the internet or other sources of information about the church? You claim in another thread that you are involved in scouting at least that's what I got from it so do you currently have a calling? This is a serious question, are you currently on any type of medication or on the autism spectrum?

really?

Is your son an adult of not? Sounds like he wants to throw the adult card around and you are enabling him, but only to a point. Once people mention adult activities outside of sex with his girlfriend you stop cold and say he isn't ready. So which is it? is he an adult of not? certainly biologically and legally he is. Sounds like mommy does not want him to move out so you will continue to coddle and make excuses for him. Let's be honest he is having extra marital sex with a girl who most likely will not be his future wife, you are getting in the middle of your husbands deeply held religious beliefs, or did he just spring those on you and your surprised? Protect your marriage, enforce the household rules on your adult man child and protect your marriage.

Well then you know the answer, on a side note full disclosure about your religious history will probably be important sooner rather than later if you decide to date him, if he is even a moderately practicing member this may be a deal breaker

He should want to take care of this for himself not because you're pushing him. This is nonsense he is a big boy and knows what he needs to do. Did you marry a man or a little boy who needs his mommy to take care of him. By doing everything you're enabling him. Honestly, what are you still doing there? See my first answer....in reality is he addicted or does he have bad habits?...there is a difference Yes, go see a family law attorney, and don't have any kids.

Aren't you former LDS?

Learning the language is the easy part. I served before we had the inter-web thingy. The most important part is integrating with the local people, becoming a part of who they are integrating into their culture and understanding how they think.

A guy in my ward has 7, nothing wrong with it but your your not allowed to complain about not being able to find a babysitter.

I stopped reading after this (I actually did read the entire post) 7 KIDS!!!! You have the right to complain about NOTHING. Honestly, I respect the fact that you are providing a loving home and environment to children who would not otherwise have it. It is Christ like and fantastic that anyone would have such an open heart for that I applaud you. You made this bed, now you get to lay in it for 18 years. So no complaining, no whining.

This is a perfect example of a Bishop being out of his depth of expertise. The bishops role should be to point you in a direction in which you can receive the help you need, and facilitate it if necessary. @Petty3 You need professional help, you have received some good advice so far but I would recommend counseling 3-4x a week, not once every 3-4 weeks. I don't know if you mentioned that you were on any types of medication, but if not this is something you should look into.

This is correct I'll let you know how it works out for me This I did not know.