omegaseamaster75

Nonsense, if you can't speak freely now you need to postpone the wedding.

Your splitting hairs, if your lying to your Bishop your not living the gospel standards, if your not accepting callings and serving your fellow man your not living gospel standards, if your not regularly attending your meetings to participate in the sacrament your not living the gospel standards. Sure things could be much worse, you exercise your priesthood, and have a testimony but they could be better.

This is great advice, peaks and valleys most members go through this....eventually a leveling off occurs.

Bad news @Lee Your inactive. This does not mean that you don't have a testimony, or feel close to Christ or live in a manner becoming a member of the church you're just not an active participant in the gospel. How can you be when you don't accept callings, pay your tithing, lie to your bishop, etc. etc.

You have nothing to worry about.

The most eye opening and number one reason to save to put your kid through school is that on average 76% graduate with debt.

https://ticas.org/sites/default/files/pub_files/Debt_Facts_and_Sources.pdf

Exception not the norm, but thanks for pointing out the exception again.

There is no path to repentance....he has nothing to repent for

Your missing my point the OP should feel no guilt. There is no sin. What sins transpired in the past washed away with his baptism. Like most people he just needs to get out of his own head. OP your Bishop is a busy man, I am sure that he would love to meet with you and discuss anything you want, but you don't need to see him to resolve your feelings.

Talk to his bishop about what? @Tobin52 you have nothing to feel guilty about. Think about you lessons with the missionaries and think about what happened when you were baptised. If you want a sounding board ok I guess you can talk to your bishop but you can talk to a friend in the church or the missionaries or anyone for that matter.

Start saving now, average cost of 4yr university in state school is around 20k/yr. So just a 4yr degree runs about 80k. You can save, do a couple of years at community college, and live at home so maybe you can cut that in half. The reality is that most kids aren't going to earn 40-80k working summer jobs. Starting real life looking up at a mountain of debt is no way to go.

Terrible topic, I have always been of the opinion that our sacrament meetings should be Christ centric. We are the church of JESUS CHRIST of latter day saints. When a stranger attends sacrament meeting they should hear about Jesus, not the 4th of july or family history.... we can discuss that stuff in Sunday School. I would discuss Christ coming to the Americas and its importance in our religion or the forthcoming of the Book of Mormon and Christs role in laying that foundation.

Yes the conversations should go like this: Random church member: "Did you serve a mission?" Me: "No, I am a convert and I joined after the cut-off age for men" Your one word responses lead them to ask the next question to which you respond with one word again. Then you have a problem with the questions? It is OK to string more than one or two words together when talking to someone.

Mexico for me

I seldom agree with @anatess2 but she hit the nail on the head. Once you are married you are her family. Not her mommy or her daddy. If she is unwilling to be where her husband is you need to reevaluate your decision to marry because things only get harder.

I wasn't going to address it, but they are speaking about the unrepentant. I agree in a broad sort of way that Elder Oaks and Elder Faust are probably not unrepentant in a general sense, but I don't think anyone ever accused them of walking on water of raising the dead either. What I am saying is that we all have our little peccadilloes, yes even members of the 12. Do you remember every sin you ever committed? not likely...

I am in mdfxbd's camp. I think you are misinterpreting what the brethren are saying, but no point in arguing that. I don't think that it is bad ADVICE to not tell her husband because she didn't do anything wrong. If anything it is a lie of omission, and I think that if he asks she shouldn't lie to him, but certainly should not volunteer it. Volunteering the information out of the blue? Nothing good will come of it. If at judgement day I am being judged on a lie of omission and that is my gravest sin.......I'll take it. Celestial Kingdom here I come!!!!

Doesn't burn me, you can think that, but the brethren didn't give blacks equal rights.....God did. Nope I don't advocate it either I think early age marriage is a mistake. I also don't think that the Brethren advocate it either

How very christian of you

The fact that you are trying to draw parallels to the temple tell me that you are trying to justify something that you know inside of you is wrong or incorrect. Take a woodshop class and make a sign that says the same thing, hang it someplace you look everyday

Did he forget about the act with the animal or purposely leave it out? I think there is a distinction. If he purposely left it out then yes he should mention it. If he legitimately didn't remember I would say that it is covered under the umbrella of his repentance process. As a porn addict since the age of 12 it would be impossible to tell "everything" so that's just nonsense. He couldn't possibly remember every moment of sin and every moment of self abuse. If he remembers something later does he have to go through the same process all over again....I don't think so.

I think you are misinterpreting the scripture that you hold to so dearly, or you don't understand the atonement. I sin, I repent, I am clean, it is remembered no more otherwise what's the point? How is this a bomb that could go off any day? unless she tells him, which she shouldn't.

I wouldn't marry someone who was not committed to living with me. You need to really think about this.

Problems, your wife started out with a lie a big one. This is vastly different from the OP who volunteered her lack of virginity. I am glad things have worked out for you. Personally I don't see what people are getting so wound up about. So the OP made some mistakes once she repented it's over, forgotten. If her future husband asked about past sexual relationships she should be honest. In this case it sounds like she volunteered information. There was no lie unless you consider her not volunteering all information about past sins a lie. She had sexual relations with 2 people SO WHAT? what if it was 10? or 20? repentance is repentance. Medically I can understand why he would ask or why she would volunteer information. Otherwise if they are worthy to be married in the temple it shouldn't matter.